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And if they’re on this forum, we can only conclude that they’re interested or why would they be here, right? 👍
Actually, sometimes they are more interested in trying to show Catholics the “errors of their ways” than learning about Catholicism itself. But I give everyone the benefit of the doubt, and assume that if they are taking the time to post at CAF, they are genuinely interested!

Sincerely,

Maria1212
 
They are too numerous to list here, and would be topics for other threads. (Two that come to mind are the Immaculate Conception and the Assumption of Mary…at best, these are theories and cannot be proven from either history or scripture.)
They would fit in this thread if they are reasons why you left. And those aren’t “inconsistent” with Scripture as I asked, no?

And when you say they are “too numerous to list here”…that must be an awful lot. Is it more than a dozen? A hundred? I think you should list some of them! 🙂
 
You make an excellent point. We don`t worship God to get filled with “warm fuzzies.”
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I wonder how good Jesus felt in the Garden where He perspired blood and then went on to further torture and death, because He obeyed the will of the Father, and not His own. Was he dancing and speaking in tongues?

I wonder how good the martyrs felt when they were tortured and put to death because they obeyed the Father, and not the lures of this world?

Having said that, I LOVE my Catholic Church. I LOVE my parish. I LOVE singing in choir. I LOVE the Sacraments. I LOVE daily mass. I LOVE RCIA and being around converts and those who wish to convert. In the summer, when it is hot out, it feels so good to come into the cool church. I smell the candles, I slip my sandal off and feel the cool of the terazzo floor. In the winter, it is dark and cold in the morning. It feels so good to come into the warm church and smell the candles. I slip off my shoe and feel the warmth of the floor, as it is heated from beneath. It isn’t easy getting up at 5:00 AM for early morning mass, but without Jesus every day, I fell I missed something. And the best part is, it’s all true!!!

What I have experienced in my faith journey, is that it’s not about feelings, although I have felt great joy in being born again Catholic. True joy is not meaningless ritual. The “meaningless ritual” has helped me through my desert times, and has been a source of good feeling in my “happy” times. Joy and happiness are not the same thing. Joy seeks truth, happiness the fleeting comforts of the material world.
 
I think that when one wrongs another there should be confession to that person and one should ask forgiveness from that person. When one harms oneself, it helps to discuss that harm with a wise person, a teacher, a friend, a spiritual advisor.

I believe that in reflection before an act, one can avoid harm. I believe that in reflection during an act, one can stop harm that has not been avoided. I believe that in reflection after an act, one can learn from one’s mistakes and avoid repeating them.

I believe there are skillful and unskillful intentions, thoughts and actions and by reflection, one can increase the skillful and decrease the unskillful.

Think about this. Don’t you agree?
I read from the examination of conscience before confession then confess where I think I failed. Then I try to avoid that fault again.
 
Why did you leave the Church? I am curious because I often hear of people that have a bad experience occur in the Church OR in their personal lives then they either get much closer to the Church or they turn away.

What is your story?
I visited the home of two elderly women on behalf of the local council municipality and was surprised to see it adorned with Catholic Artefacts. It was more Catholic than the homes of most devout Catholics.

Living in the same parish and knowing they were not Mass attenders and judging by their suspicion when I invited them to a parish dinner [provided by the SVP for all parish elderly], they explained they had objected to Vatican 2 and had not attended Mass or had anything to do with the Church since early 1960’s.

I told them about the good news from his Holiness, that the Tridentine Mass was now allowed again. At first they thought it was just some sort of scam to get them back into Church.

On convincing them SVP dinners was something our Church had been doing for several years, they told me that they would not be attending as they ‘were now too old for religion’. They added further that when they stopped going to Mass over 40-years ago, they stopped worshipping God and praying to Him. They did not see any point in starting now that their life was nearly over.

They were equally disturbed that I had ‘attempted to get them to attend Church on [what they believed to be] a false pretext of a free meal just to expose them to the missionary zeal of a Priest’. ‘No way’ they said, ‘were they falling for that one!!!’

I left rather sad, thinking that their age was the very reason why they should start to pray to Him and building a relationship with Him.

I have often wondered what sort of witnesses they are for the Catholic Church. Their home adorned with statues, prayer cards, devotion to saints, water font [empty of course], holy pictures and rosaries and latin tracts draping the walls, yet they did not worship God, pray to Him or acknowledge Him. Their ‘Catholicism’ is fake and worthless. How sad. :mad:

No wonder Catholicism has a bad name among JW’s and LDS.
 
I read from the examination of conscience before confession then confess where I think I failed. Then I try to avoid that fault again.
I think our approaches are very similar. I would like to ask you why you feel that I may have left the Church because I refused to go to confession and sin built up on my soul.
Dear notself, I have heard the reason Catholic’s leave the faith is because they refuse confession. As sin accumulates in the soul, they become indifferent to the faith, then leave. In reality they are at fault for refusing confession although they blame or fault the church. What do you think? Royal
Believe me when I tell you that the sacrament of confession never intimidated me or caused me to fear confessing my transgressions. I left the Church because I no longer believed it was the way for me.

metta
notself
 
I think our approaches are very similar. I would like to ask you why you feel that I may have left the Church because I refused to go to confession and sin built up on my soul.

Believe me when I tell you that the sacrament of confession never intimidated me or caused me to fear confessing my transgressions. I left the Church because I no longer believed it was the way for me.

metta
notself
I can understand that. In my post [65 above] the two elderly people felt exactly the same way. God had permitted Vatican 2. For that, they felt God had committed a grevious sin against humanity and they were not prepared to forgive HIm, so I can understand where your correspondent ‘notself’ is coming from.
 
I’ve spent a great deal of time, thought and energy looking into these things, so forgive me if I am not able to reopen them again, here, with you, now.

I have more issues particularly with Catholicism than with Christianity in general, but then I know more about Catholicism than I do other forms of Christianity. So I am not singling Catholicism out, it is just where I come from, and what I know.

After leaving the Catholic church, I did spend a number of years in Protestant and non denominational Christian churches, and while there is much I respect, honor, love and believe in Christianity, and Catholicism, I do not find myself able to count myself among that number, as I do have some serious differences with some doctrinal beliefs. I don’t think it would be honest or fair of me to “pose” as Christian, and call myself Christian, and then misrepresent the that faith.

I am, however, a true blue pantheist!
While only you can know for sure, I have always felt you and St. Francis of Assisi would have gotten along fabously;)
 
I can understand that. In my post [65 above] the two elderly people felt exactly the same way. God had permitted Vatican 2. For that, they felt God had committed a grevious sin against humanity and they were not prepared to forgive HIm, so I can understand where your correspondent ‘notself’ is coming from.
I am sorry, I don’t understand the connection between old ladies thinking their God or Church has sinned and my reasons for leaving Catholicism. I did not leave in anger. I did not leave because of Vatican II.

Perhaps I misunderstand your comment. 🤷
 
I am sorry, I don’t understand the connection between old ladies thinking their God or Church has sinned and my reasons for leaving Catholicism. I did not leave in anger. I did not leave because of Vatican II.

Perhaps I misunderstand your comment. 🤷
Sorry, I thought that maybe you both felt that God had sinned against you and you both were not prepared to forgive Him. Sorry, I mis-understood your message. :o

Please ignore.
 
Sorry, I thought that maybe you both felt that God had sinned against you and you both were not prepared to forgive Him. Sorry, I mis-understood your message. :o

Please ignore.
You may have me confused with another poster. I have done that myself on occasion. 😉

In my case, I just stopped believing in any of it. It was as though I was looking at a play when I was at Mass. It was very nice but wasn’t real. I didn’t find this upsetting or a cause for alarm. It was as if I woke from sleep. I woke up and slowly walked away.

No anger, no upset, no drama.
 
Why did you leave the Church? I am curious because I often hear of people that have a bad experience occur in the Church OR in their personal lives then they either get much closer to the Church or they turn away.

What is your story?
Hi 🙂

I’m not sure exactly when I left the church, to be honest. I stopped considering myself a Catholic when I was in my early 20s. I remember when I was around 22-24 I went to a Catholic retreat, and I had a lot of questions and felt a lot of opposition to what the Catholic church taught. (Back then, I was an extremely liberal person, didn’t believe in the death penalty, was pro-choice, etc.)

We were able to ask the priest questions by writing them down on paper, so I wrote a bunch of my questions out on paper (I don’t remember what I asked, but I had lots of aggravating questions on what I thought were hypocracies). He kept drawing questions out of the box, unfortunately most of them were mine. I think by the 3rd question he recognized my writing … :o … and he said, “If you have this many questions about Catholicism, maybe you shouldn’t be a Catholic.” So I took his advice, and that was when I officially severed ties with the Catholic church.

Honestly that was not the “bad experience” I had, and I never really had a bad experience except that I really hated church, I was forced to go my whole life, as well as forced to go to catechism, and most of the time, it was so boring and I just loathed it and resented being there. :o

Long story short, I was born again on August 11, 2004. At the time this happened, I wasn’t sure if I was going to go back to Catholic church or try my born again brother’s church (Calvary Chapel) but I knew I was going to do whatever it took to follow Jesus. I spoke to my devout Catholic brother (different brother) about the experience and he urged me to go where my holy spirit led me, so I decided to try out Calvary Chapel. I prayed to the holy spirit to lead me where I was supposed to go. As soon as I walked in to Calvary Chapel I knew I was home 🙂 The feeling of the holy spirit was intense, and unmistakeable.

Edited to add, forgot to mention, that my devout Catholic brother is now a born again Christian as well, another of my brothers became born again, as well as my mom and 2 of my nieces. 😉
 
long story short, I struggled for many years to hold onto my once-strong faith but the more I learned about Catholicism, the more it didn’t make sense to me, the more it pointed me to non-belief. I also disagree with a lot of fundamental issues of Catholicism, well, religion in general, I suppose. This includes: “requirements” for salvation, serious issues revolving around the Bible, comparisons to other religions including psychology of religion, many facets of mankind’s situation, and the nature of God, which to me suggest there is no god, or, at least not a highly involved one, etc. Then of course, there was a time of great hardship where I put myself fully into God’s hands, and gave many desperate prayers that went unanswered, with my life getting significantly worse in the process. In the end, I couldn’t live a lie and say that I was Catholic when I just couldn’t believe it, even though I tried to force myself to. I don’t feel as if its a choice to me. There is a lot about Catholicism that I respect, but I can’t suddenly decide to believe a red piece of paper is blue, nor can I suddenly decide to start believing in God.
 
I think in terms of one’s faith, one is always fundamentally challenged at some point, and one has to ask if what one treasures or believes is actually true.
Some, not all. There will always be great thinkers. There will always be simple people of simple faith. Maria Goretti, St. Agnes.
Our intellects can’t encompass the unencompassable Absolute, so we should not claim our knowledge of this reality is final, exhaustive and absolute.
All the soul searching, rehashing philosophy and theology ends in the same place.
So any Christian, while they may want to share the joy of their faith or be concerned at the salvation of others, should also keep in mind the mystery of God is far beyond our complete and final comprehension, and we should not in arrogant pride presume we stand in place of God, knowing the thoughts and ways of the Absolute as we comprehend our own. Catholics who adopt this attitude, wherever they come from, have my respect, as well as it is exercised along with Gospel-based love and compassion for others and for justice, regardless of my own views on religion and theology.
Amen, and thank you for your thoughtful sharing.
 
It was as though I was looking at a play when I was at Mass. It was very nice but wasn’t real. I didn’t find this upsetting or a cause for alarm. It was as if I woke from sleep. I woke up and slowly walked away.
I have felt the same way, especially at Midnight mass at the Cathedral, or Easter Vigil. But for me I felt I was living history. All the past, all the future were NOW. I was living in the present, in the moment, but experiencing the past and the future. And this is why I love the Catholic Church. It’s all there.
 
A few observations that confuse me from your testimony…
Feeling absolutely nothing from years of devoted prayer is only one part of many which led to me being a weak atheist/agnostic…
…like I happened to be born in the right one just seemed arrogant…
…eye witness accounts, had to be scrutinized and not just taken as fact…
…If God is supposed to be perfect and Catholicism is correct, IMHO the Bible should be much easier to interpret
I realize you said your feelings were only one aspect, but do you think that if everyone goes by their feelings that they will encounter the truth? What if someone encounters the actual truth and feels dull about it? Were feelings a good barometer?
Or is the measure of truth whether or not it feels arrogant? See what I mean?
It is very good of you scrutinize eye witness accounts, as there are indeed many false religions out there, which logic tells you, and I think you understand well. 🙂

And the Bible has to be easy to interpret? Why? The Bible is brilliantly composed…it reveals itself in stages. And if God is infinitely perfect and we are not, why didn’t you conclude that His truth would be tough to understand in the limits of language?

I don’t understand after all the reading I did of your post, what it is you base your measure of truth on besides Aleii’s personal feelings, which in itself has to seem illogical, if that is the measure we all should take. So far your measure of truth is Truth = Your Feelings + Doesn’t Feel “Arrogant” + Easy to Interpret. If the truth isn’t that, however, how will you ever accept it? I think you should let the truth come to you, rather than you setting criteria for what truth is allowed to be.

Anyway, bless you always in your search whichever direction you choose to go. 🙂
 
A few observations that confuse me from your testimony… I realize you said your feelings were only one aspect, but do you think that if everyone goes by their feelings that they will encounter the truth?
No, I don’t think feelings should be the major point of emphasis on anything. Humans naturally have feelings, and while they should not be ignored, they should not be the sole, or even large, basis of major decisions either. Feelings can often be premature, and are wrought with influences from mood, recent unrelated experiences, etc. Looking at something openly, from as many angles as you can, to derive the truth, should be the basis. If it was not clear in my post, I tried for years to find a way that I could force this to all make sense in my mind. It was very difficult to accept that I was an agnostic.
What if someone encounters the actual truth and feels dull about it? Were feelings a good barometer?
Or is the measure of truth whether or not it feels arrogant? See what I mean?
A good barometer is whether or not it is logical. We must try to put personal feelings and biases aside.
It is very good of you scrutinize eye witness accounts, as there are indeed many false religions out there, which logic tells you, and I think you understand well. 🙂
Right, which is why I must also scrutinize accounts from the religion I was born into. That’s the main thing I felt personally arrogant about, was applying a standard to every other religion except my own.
And the Bible has to be easy to interpret? Why? The Bible is brilliantly composed…it reveals itself in stages. And if God is infinitely perfect and we are not, why didn’t you conclude that His truth would be tough to understand in the limits of language?
I know people will say that I am trying to put limits on God, trying to fit God into my sense of reality, or, that God is on a different level than us and can not be judged like a human would (I disagree with that logic), but when you are omnimax, with unlimited resources and potential, you would know precisely the best way to word and distribute the message of the Bible. While it is a great book, there are many problems with the Bible that IMO, just shouldn’t be there if it is inspired by God Himself. The Bible should be vastly superior to all other works, it should have astonishing logic that fits together superbly, and it should not need the verbal gymnastics that people have to go through to try to make it work. I have high expectations of God, and if God is not perfect, religion falls apart. God, being infinitely great, wise and concerned about us, would know how to make the Bible interpreted clearly, in the way He would want it to come across. (Yet, the response I get to this is that if God is clear, that will take away our free will to have faith. I have issue with this.) So, while you are saying we are limited in understanding God’s word, I am saying: God should not be limited in expressing His word.
I don’t understand after all the reading I did of your post, what it is you base your measure of truth on besides Aleii’s personal feelings, which in itself has to seem illogical, if that is the measure we all should take. So far your measure of truth is Truth = Your Feelings + Doesn’t Feel “Arrogant” + Easy to Interpret. If the truth isn’t that, however, how will you ever accept it? I think you should let the truth come to you, rather than you setting criteria for what truth is allowed to be.
Then, I didn’t word that as well as I’d hoped. I’ll restate: I tried to shy away from feelings and focus more on the fact that things just don’t make logical sense to me. Logic is the crux of the problems, not feelings. Despite years of trying to do so, the pieces don’t logically fit like they should. I’ve tried to say a lot of “IMO”, and say that “to me things look like X”, because I don’t want people to see my post as passing judgment on them, or as saying that all people should see things as I do. I’m referring to my sense of logic in all this, not my feelings. I can’t force myself to believe something is true that doesn’t make sense. Really, I’ve only scratched the surface of the problems that I have with religion. I’ve written the prior posts as summarized narratives of my journey, not as debates. My goal isn’t to attack or convert anyone, it is to answer the OP and give people a little more insight as to what its like on the other side. There’s a lot of people who assume that non-Catholics/non-theists have made rash decisions, that they are selfish and don’t want to be tied down by morals, etc. I’ve tried to put the capitals on God and Him to show respect to those on the board, and ask for some in return.
Anyway, bless you always in your search whichever direction you choose to go. 🙂
Thanks, and best wishes to you as well.
 
when you are omnimax, with unlimited resources and potential, you would know precisely the best way to word and distribute the message of the Bible…it should have astonishing logic that fits together superbly…
Just a quick note…I think the Bible IS astonishingly logical. I had to challenge my own faith back in the day when I was prompted, and I wound up staying more confidently than ever once I started reading. But I say stick with it…if you open yourself up to the eye of the Spirit within you, it will make sense. I still think you have your set formula of how God “should” be or the Bible “should” be, and I previously offered logical explanations that hopefully helped. If you don’t mind I’ll pray for you.

And I’m sorry to see you are quick to assure us that you are not attacking religion…I didn’t sense that. I’m guessing others have made that accusation? If you are as charitable to others as you’ve been to me, you have nothing to worry about! 😃
 
Why did you leave the Church? I am curious because I often hear of people that have a bad experience occur in the Church OR in their personal lives then they either get much closer to the Church or they turn away.

What is your story?
I left the church because the Bible is not THE authority in the Catholic church; it is one of three where all are equal. I believe that in this scenario, it would be very possible to have conflicts of truth without a clear statement of authority being able to be made.
 
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