Found stray kitten by our house

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Trying to get a rise out of you by speeding up the car when he sees animals in the street is not normal behavior, regardless of how you try and rationalize it. Normal people don’t pretend to try and run over animals.
I disagree Cider. The husband was just trying to get his wife all defensive about the animals on the street to be silly. I grew up on a farm in RURAL Texas and men do this all the time. No one I knew ever had the intention of actually running over the animals and no one ever did. In fact a lot of animals were rescued as a result of this. Men just like to rile up woman. That is very normal. 😉
 
I disagree Cider. The husband was just trying to get his wife all defensive about the animals on the street to be silly. I grew up on a farm in RURAL Texas and men do this all the time. No one I knew ever had the intention of actually running over the animals and no one ever did. In fact a lot of animals were rescued as a result of this. Men just like to rile up woman. That is very normal. 😉
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Agreed. 😃 It’s funny to make 'em squeal.
 
Be sure to take him to a rescue shelter if you must give him up. They will find a home for him, the other shelters don’t keep them long before killing them.

I hope your husband lets you keep him and he starts to like him. That is what happened to my hubby.
 
Trying to get a rise out of you by speeding up the car when he sees animals in the street is not normal behavior, regardless of how you try and rationalize it. Normal people don’t pretend to try and run over animals.
When men tease their wives, girlfriends, sisters, or mothers by showing off in how they drive in order to get a protest, that’s atypical?

I have known a lot of atypical guys, I guess. Maybe it is a farm thing? 🤷
(On farms, it is only the animals that get fixed, come to think of it. :rolleyes:)

It is definitely a farm thing to consider cats and dogs to be practical outdoor animaks. (Apparently cats were never actually domesticated, according to historians. While dogs and people started living together with the dog as an integral oart if the human “pack”, cats and people started living togethet only by virtue of proximity, by mutual agreement. When agriculture was invented, and the grain stores attracted field mice, mutual tolerance was a win-win.)
 
Oh, my husband is mean about cats and he admits it. It is not unfair to restate what he readily admits. If he sees one crossing the road when he is driving, he speeds up. Although, I think he does that primarily to get a rise out of me.

And styrgwillidar, it is OUR home, not his. We are pretty good at compromising, so please don’t make assumptions on how our marriage works when you really have NO CLUE. If anyone “steamrolls” it is my husband because I have a softer heart than he does. We both have gotten much better at compromising over the years. He grew up on a farm and believes that animals have a purpose and that purpose is outside. However, he is more agreeable to having a dog, bunny or guinea pigs in the house. His thing is cats, not other animals. I don’t really care for dogs so we don’t have one. Honestly, I want a cat in the house to go after the tree roaches that get in.

My husband is ok to feed the kitten and keep it outside. I am just concerned about the wildlife that prey on cats so I would like to keep it in our sunroom, which we can close off from the rest of the house, at night. At this point, I will just have to take care of Francis outside.

I will definitely get Francis to the vet for shots, deworming and getting fixed. Due to the warm weather in Texas, cats can easily have 2-3 litters in a year and we don’t need more stray kittens! Fortunately, the vet in our town has very reasonable prices so it is not a problem to provide some vet care for an outside cat.

I have a friend who is in a similar situation with her husband. She wants a cat. He refuses to agree to it. We’ve both agreed to outlive our husbands and become crazy cat ladies together in our old age!
Speeding up is dangerous, not only for you but the cat. Animals can panic and run under the car. I hope he stops doing that with your encouragement, wives know how to do that, I sure do. :mad:
 
I disagree Cider. The husband was just trying to get his wife all defensive about the animals on the street to be silly. I grew up on a farm in RURAL Texas and men do this all the time. No one I knew ever had the intention of actually running over the animals and no one ever did. In fact a lot of animals were rescued as a result of this. Men just like to rile up woman. That is very normal. 😉
Amen Miss KimberlyCat! My husband loves to get me riled up because he thinks it is cute.😉 He is not originally from the USA but grew up on a farm and this is also typical male behavior in the presence of a female where he is from. He has only ever done it once or twice when it was a cat. We live in a semi-rural area and there are always critters crossing the road. He leaves the deer, dogs, racoons, possums, frogs, turtles and bunnies alone. He knows I have a soft spot in my heart for cats and likes to rile me up sometimes.

My “evil, animal hating” husband stops to not hit neighborhood animals (mostly dogs and the occasional cat) with the car. He takes care of my mom’s horses, chickens and CATS when my parents are out of town. He has taken our neighbor’s little dog home when he escaped from the neighbor’s backyard and ended up in ours. He stops to watch deer run through the neighborhood or cross the street. He looks forward to the day when we get our property fenced in and ready for more critters (outside, of course).
 
Speeding up is dangerous, not only for you but the cat. Animals can panic and run under the car. I hope he stops doing that with your encouragement, wives know how to do that, I sure do. :mad:
You so do not get the described scenario. The only way to “discourage” the gambit’s continuation is to be unphased by it, because getting a :mad: is the whole point! (A woman has to be a very good sport to be a farm wife, or else be the sport. C’est la vie; but it becomesclear long before there is a marriage.)
 
Amen Miss KimberlyCat! My husband loves to get me riled up because he thinks it is cute.😉 He is not originally from the USA but grew up on a farm and this is also typical male behavior in the presence of a female where he is from. He has only ever done it once or twice when it was a cat. We live in a semi-rural area and there are always critters crossing the road. He leaves the deer, dogs, racoons, possums, frogs, turtles and bunnies alone. He knows I have a soft spot in my heart for cats and likes to rile me up sometimes.

My “evil, animal hating” husband stops to not hit neighborhood animals (mostly dogs and the occasional cat) with the car. He takes care of my mom’s horses, chickens and CATS when my parents are out of town. He has taken our neighbor’s little dog home when he escaped from the neighbor’s backyard and ended up in ours. He stops to watch deer run through the neighborhood or cross the street. He looks forward to the day when we get our property fenced in and ready for more critters (outside, of course).
This has been an entertaining thread. The “city folk” just don’t understand our “hillbilly ways”. God Bless You for rescuing “Francis” on this beautiful day. Enjoy! 😃
 
Gee Dshix, you sound like one horrible judgemental person. So sad that you cannot see God’s Creation in the eyes of an abandoned orphan kitten. Thank goodness kitten has found a loving person and not some self-justifying one…remember what Jesus said about God’s love for all his creatures ( sparrows even) We are all part of God’s creation including this miserable little critter. I do hope kitty will live long & prosper.
 
This has been an entertaining thread. The “city folk” just don’t understand our “hillbilly ways”. God Bless You for rescuing “Francis” on this beautiful day. Enjoy! 😃
Nice try at stereotyping, but I’ve lived in the boonies as a kid and as an adult. As a kid, which was in rural east Texas, we drove 35 miles to town when we needed to go shopping, we ate the goats and other livestock we raised and if it wasn’t for hunting supplementing the dinner table we would have been lacking in food. Our address was a rural route and box number. So don’t play that city slicker stuff with me. The “boys” that acted like morons at least weren’t self described animal haters. Of course my family valued class and manners and acting like an idiot wasn’t condoned, and certainly wouldn’t have been tolerated as a married adult.
 
Dshix wrote*:I think you need to get some priorities in order. Cats are animals without free will, an intellect, or an immortal soul*

Really? Isn’t that debateable?
  1. Animals can choose (just they use their instinct better than most humans use their free will).
  2. Most animals are super-intelligent. I think you should get to know some cats…or dolphins at least.
  3. Animals have animal souls (All living things have souls according to Aquinas). And aren’t souls indestructible? Like they’re eternal once created?
All Creation is redeemed… would that include cats? .(maybe not) Cats go down below?
Are there no animals in Heaven - just harps & wings? Pretty boring. If not, the greater part of Creation will be ignored. I feel that this is Man (generic term!) just being anthropocentric again. And What about all those dinosaurs?
I believe even the worms get to make it, despite having eaten all those corpses.
 
I really feel that St. Francis was looking out for this kitty and brought her to me on his feast day so that I could take care of her. I already have an appointment to take her to the vet next week and my husband has reluctantly agreed to let me buy food and other things for the kitten. I have also named the kitten Francis.
You might have very well been called to look out for this kitty. I feel I was called to look out for two kitties this past summer. They are making wonderful barn cats 🙂 They regularly hang out in the hay barn, in the milking shed, under the back stairs, and laze on the front porch. They visit the goats in the front field, and visit the cows in the back. They are extremely well behaved when they do come inside the house, but they haven’t been in the house in weeks and seem to be just as happy 🙂 I think your hubby is being very sweet to agree to spend money on the cat for food and other things. See if he won’t mind if you have the kitty spayed. They have such traveling vans named, “Fixed for life” and other names, to spay and neuter animals for very low cost or next to nothing. There is absolutely nothing wrong with keeping them outside. If the weather gets too inclement, you can give them a dogloo — it’s a dog house of various sizes that is in the shape of an igloo and it keeps animals very warm, especially when lined with straw or pine shavings. Believe me, we have many feral cats in the area, and they keep warm all winter. There is no reasons to make your husband uncomfortable over brining a cat in the house, when they are just as suited (maybe even more) to being outside.
 
I think that’s a little unfair. While I admit the speeding up if he sees a cat in the road is alarming, I don’t think I’d go so far as to accuse him of intentionally brutalizing cats that are left alone with him. If he was truly capable of that, there would be very obvious signs of a sociopathic personality and she really needs to get herself out (and any kids) now.
I don’t think it’s unfair at all. I know people who intentionally speed up (and hit) cats AND dogs in the road. They’re sick.
I, too, can’t imagine sharing my life with someone who doesn’t like animals in the house – or a particular animal that I like in the house
Me either. But that’s something that should be discussed during the beginning of the relationship and before getting married. I have four large dogs, in addition to the two outside cats and dogs in the house is a non-negotiable.
 
You so do not get the described scenario. The only way to “discourage” the gambit’s continuation is to be unphased by it, because getting a :mad: is the whole point! (A woman has to be a very good sport to be a farm wife, or else be the sport. C’est la vie; but it becomesclear long before there is a marriage.)
I know about ignoring, I do it a lot with my hubby and his jokes. When it comes to hurting anything, even in jest, is when I get mad. Sometimes you just have to say STOP IT, I DON’T LIKE THAT!!!:mad::mad:
 
Is this a male kitten?
One thing to keep in mind is that most males will take off, after a few months or years, and prefer to live outside. That has has happened with most of my boy cats. If there are raccoons or coyotes around, they will go after the cats. Females, however, will stay inside.
You might want to consider finding a safer home for the kitten if your husband prefers not to have him inside.
 
Me either. But that’s something that should be discussed during the beginning of the relationship and before getting married. I have four large dogs, in addition to the two outside cats and dogs in the house is a non-negotiable.
And that’s my point!!! The OP knows her husband does not like cats (at least in the house) and others have suggested that she just bring the cat in – regardless of the husband’s wishes – and just let him deal with it. That is totally unfair. It is the husband’s home, too; and his wishes should be considered just as the wife’s should be. If they can’t agree, then the cat doesn’t come in!
 
I don’t think it’s unfair at all. I know people who intentionally speed up (and hit) cats AND dogs in the road. They’re sick.

Me either. But that’s something that should be discussed during the beginning of the relationship and before getting married. I have four large dogs, in addition to the two outside cats and dogs in the house is a non-negotiable.
yes, there are people who really try to kill pets who get close enough to them on the roadway, and yes they are sick.

There are also people with family members who are extremely uptight about aggresdive driving, who know these passengers are worried that there is an accident around every bend when they don’t happen to be driving, and they pull that chain once in awhile. It is not nice, but they are really going to hurt any animals. They are probably less of a dangerv to critters of the world than the white-knuckle drivers who are so scared of making a mistake that they become mire prone to msking one. I think yhe husband is in the latter category.
 
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