The more I look at this, the more I think someone might be selling you the Brooklyn Bridge. It sound more and more suspicious every time I look through this thread.
I believe that the same role would apply. Call the Chancery and explain your situation. Give them the name and location of the chapel in question. Explain to them where this chapel is and ask if this is a legitimate location for the Nuptial liturgy. If they say that it is legitimate, then you have no problem. If not, then ask permission. If a letter is requested, then write it and send it to the bishop.
My security software won’t let me access that page. That happens sometimes for perfectly legitimate sites. But the fact is, I can’t get to it.
He could be a solemn professed lay Franciscan. If he just claims to be an “ordained Fransican,” that sounds a little vague and misleading. I admit I didn’t read through the entire thread, but did you post the link to his website? There are plenty of priests & deacons here who could tell you if he’s legit. Third order Franciscans are certainly legitimate, but do not have the authority to preside over a wedding.
So, did a chaplain marry you and your husband? Was it done in a church? Can any Catholic Chaplain perform a Catholic wedding?
I went to a priest/chaplain that was also a Jesuit. I can’t say I liked him because of the way he dealt with me. But Catholic Chaplains are under one Bishop, an Archbishop. Military extends all over the world.
Every diocese is different, but as a general rule, all the marriage preparation work is somewhat standard. Most diocese have a “packet” of forms that have to be filled-out. One of those forms will be a “check the box” request for a dispensation to have the wedding in some place other than a Catholic Church. The pastor mails that form to the diocese.
Careful on this one. The Archdiocese for the Military is indeed worldwide, but one must actually be a member of the active duty military (or reservist on active service, or certain civilian employees) to be able to get married by a military chaplain without first going through the local bishop of the place where one lives.
Yes, I’ve seen the packets. I used to have to keep them in order and, at least in my diocese, there was a box checkd for “prior delegation” and there was also a section regarding the location.
Thank you… that is what I thought. No, we’re not in the military, and I just wanted clarification on that. Thank you Fr. David!
Oh, I was the soldier and the man…
Military Chaplains come in all sorts. There are a lot of very solid Catholic priests serving in the Military Archdiocese, but the OP needs to know that approaching a military Chaplain could be a dead-end since neither one of them is military.Oh, I was the soldier and the man…
Something he said threw me for a really strange loop. Long story short without the details. Wife’s dad was a bishop, and anti-Catholic and wouldn’t dare step foot in an apostate house of satan…a Catholic Church. The call us a man made church. They proselytized me to the point of breaking and along with the Chaplains scandal dealing with me I flew into a blind state of heresy that took me many years to come out of and back to the One Holy Catholic and Apostolic Church. My wife converted and actually understood things I had never learned…and explained it to me to make more since than all the heretic priests and laity in my past. I now understand a whole lot more than I ever had. But I had started to see it pop out of scripture over a 17 years of solo scriptura. My entire family is Catholic now…that is our domestic church.
I’d suggest trying to deal with your home priest. A lot of not so great entered the military. They tend to be somewhat harsh. We prefer gentlness.
This is not part of the Austin diocese nor is it part of the Military diocese.
Yes. Now, I gave my grandmother’s funeral as an example. She wanted the Mass celebrated at her parish. However, I had to get the pastor’s permission and the diocese’s permission in order for my parochial vicar to drive up from Laredo to do this.
Thanks, and I am beginning to understand all this finally… I think.
Have covered that part with your pastor. As I said before, he is a good man and will work with you. Explain your situation. Believe me, it’s not about the money. He can work something out with you.
Then talk to the pastor. No one may ever be denied a Sacrament on account of not being able to pay a requested fee. Remember from the other thread that this is not a fee for the marriage itself, but for the other costs of the wedding ceremony and preparation. If you can’t pay it, the parish cannot ask you for it.