I think there is something to what you’re saying here—some significant truth in it. In a separate thread, I just now wrote on a similar topic.
Whatever you think free will is, it seems to me that if you are operating within an existentialist framework, something along the lines of John Paul Sartre Who spoke of “absolute freedom,” you’d be very much mistaken. Tabula Rasa kind of freedom, the type of freedom where in any and all situations you are entirely free to choose x or not x almost certainly doesn’t exist. The thing is, there simply is no such thing as absolute freedom. Whatever limited freedom you possess is conditioned in about 1000 different ways. And this is true for all of us.
@oliver109 here has a repeated refrain, but it usually gets discounted by those who interact with them. He makes the point that no one chose to exist. Your coming into existence quite literally in no way factored in your will/desire at all. He usually stops at this point, we could go much farther than this. It’s not just that you were brought into existence. You were brought into existence in a particular gender, which you did not choose. You were born into a certain country that you did not choose. You were born with a certain IQ that you did not choose. You were born into a certain Socioeconomic situation that you did not choose. You were born with certain inclinations that you will carry over the course of a lifetime, again, which you did not choose. You will accidentally form various habits, some of them bad ones, that you do not consciously choose to form. Etc, etc
And let’s not forget the influence of demons and good angels, the principalities and powers that Saint Paul refers to, all of them interacting with us and imposing themselves on us on a continuous basis. And then there is you yourself. As Saint Paul eloquently points out in the book of Romans, we war even against ourselves. We have this Bizzarre lack of freedom within our own persons. The things we want to do, we don’t do. And the things we do not want to do, we do. And how does Saint Paul end that contemplation? He says “oh wretched man that I am. Who will save me from this body of death?” And then he goes on to thank Jesus Christ his Lord for being the salvation.
Our freedom is severely constrained and conditioned by all sorts of factors.