Good Morning Darryl,
Pope Benedict XVI talked about mutual respect in terms of reciprocity.
I found it!
Benedict cited John Paul II’s statement that ‘‘Respect and dialogue require reciprocity in all spheres,’’ particularly religious freedom, a major issue for the Vatican in Saudi Arabia and other countries where non-Muslims cannot worship openly.
therevival.co.uk/forum/general/1827
I agree, Darryl, there is a place for a “negotiated” mutual respect in terms of religious tolerance between and within nations. The fact is, however, that true respect cannot be negotiated. Like forgiveness, it has to come from the heart.
Jesus asks us to forgive our enemies. It is forgiveness that is going to solve these ongoing problems.
One-sided apology tours are not the way to go. When it comes to the relationship with God, well then, what does he have to apologize for, but every other group of people need to understand that nobody walks through this life without leaving footprints. Even myths about Mary walking through her childhood without her feet touching the ground are not scripture, but just myths.
Jesus asks us to forgive, Darryl. There were no conditions set, remember?
It is good that Ben’s predecessor, St. Jon Paul II gave the apology on behalf of all Catholics to those of other faith traditions that Catholics have stepped on along the way. Initiating discussion through repentance is a very Catholic tradition.
But it is not as if Catholics also do not have tread marks all over their backs too in this long history between ourselves and other religionists. Mutual respect includes self-respect, and that means not making oneself into a doormat.
Catholic immigration policy is based on reciprocity. It involves not only being gracious hosts, but includes the expectation of gracious guests as well.
Love is a relationship. If it is not a two way street, than it isn’t love.
Actually Jesus said this:
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If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that?
Matthew 5:46
Forgiveness is a matter between people and between an individual and God. Jesus does not make love or forgiveness a matter involving reciprocity. By our nature, our hearts soften towards those we forgive, and we reap what we sow.
So, the choice is ours. When we have gotten over our anger and have done what we can to control the situation, there is a time to forgive. We can either wait until the extremists apologize, which will not likely occur, and hold onto our grudges forever, or we can take the steps to forgive, and regain a holiness that was lost when we clung to anger and resentment.
Jesus, of course, calls us to the latter.
Father, please be with those who are dealing with the tragic loss of their loved ones. And for the people of the parish and all of France suffering grief, anger, resentment please be with them, and give them a means to greater security. Console them, and all of us who share in their sorrow, anger, and grief.
Father, I ask that you also give care to our enemies. For those who grieve the loss of the two men who died, give them comfort also, be with them and help them, and us, to forgive those we hold anything against. We know that you forgive those who harm us, they do not know what they are doing. We ask for your help and guidance in the process of forgiving our enemies, please guide our enemies in forgiving us.
Amen