Friends are getting engaged

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Ok that’s wonderful. But again, what are you asking/looking for here? Validation will not be quickly found. You want to do what you want to do. Granted, free country. But it won’t be a sacrament.
Three sides? No. Your boyfriend, when he becomes your fiance, have one side and that is a united front.
So please, take me shopping and buy me a clue because I don’t get any of this…
 
Uh, no.

It has nothing to do with the diocese. It has everything to do with the future MIL manipulating the gullible young woman. This is not a part of Catholicism, it is one woman trying to control another.
 
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The friend of my bf is catholic his girlfriend just became catholic, so they can get married in the church according to their diocese.
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You know Catholics can marry non-Catholics…

My Catholic mother married a Jewish guy (my dad, who eventually converted years later).

If you don’t know Church rules, then don’t state them as fact. You will only confuse others.
 
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I mean to be honest, I don’t care where I get married as long as it’s to my boyfriend. It could be in the middle of a cornfield and I wouldn’t mind.
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The issue isn’t about where to have the wedding… (though clearly in a cornfield is a bit of a mockery of the sacrament). The issue is that the couple must agree to raise children Catholic and be open to having children. Quite a few issues can arise from this when marrying a non-Catholic. It’s not as simple as “where to get married” but rather, “how to act when married” .

You really should speak with a priest because your mindset about Catholic marriage is very flawed. Seems like being Catholic means very little to you.
 
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Yes, in their dioceses if the future spouse isn’t catholic the future mil has a right to take her under her wing and basically control her, right now she’s controlling her future daughter in laws money, when she’s not even legally her blood.
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What are you even talking about? This is complete nonsense.
 
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Not worth your time, so you flagged it? 🤔

Just stop reading it. Sometimes there are people that read CAF without ever posting. They learn from other people’s questions. The OP clearly has a lot of misconceptions about Catholicism because of her upbringing. We can either help her (and anyone reading) or go read a different thread. No need to flag it.
 
Threads that are created with the intention of getting advice or help always deserve to be read and commented on. Those that intentionally stir the pot and only wish to prove others wrong (as based on their responses to advise given) are not threads made in good faith.

This thread only serves to confuse people reading about what Catholicism is (or rather isn’t) about in terms of marriage. I do not wish others to be confused who are reading and not posting and as such, flagging the thread is the charitable thing to do.
 
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Not worth your time, so you flagged it? 🤔

Just stop reading it. Sometimes there are people that read CAF without ever posting. They learn from other people’s questions. The OP clearly has a lot of misconceptions about Catholicism because of her upbringing. We can either help her (and anyone reading) or go read a different thread. No need to flag it.
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^^^^This^^^^^
 
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Threads that are created with the intention of getting advice or help always deserve to be read and commented on. Those that intentionally stir the pot and only wish to prove others wrong (as based on their responses to advise given) are not threads made in good faith.

This thread only serves to confuse people reading about what Catholicism is (or rather isn’t) about in terms of marriage.
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We must be reading different threads. Someone completely confused made some statements, we’ve said “that’s not really how it works”. I haven’t seen anyone come back and say that’s wrong…
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I do not wish others to be confused who are reading and not posting and as such, flagging the thread is the charitable thing to do.
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Disagree. I hope it isn’t closed.
 
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Those that intentionally stir the pot and only wish to prove others wrong (as based on their responses to advise given) are not threads made in good faith.
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I didn’t get this impression from any of her replies. I think she has a genuine concern and is truly confused about Church laws regarding marriage. She may have genuinely been given wrong information by this controlling woman.
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This thread only serves to confuse people reading about what Catholicism is (or rather isn’t) about in terms of marriage. I do not wish others to be confused who are reading and not posting and as such, flagging the thread is the charitable thing to do.
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Well, hopefully readers will also read the responses that have told her what she believes about Church laws on marriage is utter nonsense and she must have been misinformed.
 
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Well from what I heard about the diocese of Kalamazoo it’s a little too strict. I guess my diocese is a little more liberal.
And the parish only has a minimum of 50 families.
 
Springchick said:
Well from what I heard about the diocese of Kalamazoo it’s a little too strict. I guess my diocese is a little more liberal.
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The diocese of Kalamazoo’s very website lists marriages with Catholics and non-Catholics as allowed and gives advice on it… so where are you getting this wrong info? Check the official source before you assume.

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From the controlling future mil of a dear friend of mine. Even her son has told us about how she treats her sons. Extremely strict.
 
Please, do yourself a favor and do not listen to anything she says regarding marriage or Catholicism. It seems she has some kind of personal agenda.
 
She controls her sons gf soon to be fiancée money. And she’s ok with it.
 
I don’t think it’s normal. I think it’s wrong. The poor young woman, is responsible, pays her own bills, lives on her own, and works full time
 
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