Friends are getting engaged

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Because if he doesn’t, he cant get anything legally when she dies.
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Why not…? Eitherway, to me, if my mother or MIL thought she was going to have that much control of myself and/or my fiance…I wouldn’t care.
Springchick said:
And also because she doesn’t trust the new generation with their own money.
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That doesn’t matter. I can’t believe (like literally) a 26 year old adult would let someone (who isn’t even their MIL yet)…let alone their MIL in general have anything to do with the control of their finances.

It’s so…so far fetched.
 
Well actually the soon to be fiancée just tuned 22 in April. And thinks it’s ok to sign her name on her daughter in laws bank account to help her save money. How is she supposed to learn to budget on her own?
 
I used to have to do with my bfs grandpa and uncle. I got out of it. I’m not gonna have my Saturday night wasted
 
Yes seriously. A 22 year old young woman, just got her own apartment, has a full time job, pays her own insurance, and taxes. Her son does the exact same.
 
Well, it’s not wasted, but yeah, not every week if that isn’t your thing.
 
Some 22 year olds are so desperate to stay with someone they do all sorts of desperate things.
 
Well not with someone who insults me and calls me stupid. But I feel like it’s a sign of abuse
 
Springchick said:
Well actually the soon to be fiancée just tuned 22 in April. And thinks it’s ok to sign her name on her daughter in laws bank account to help her save money. How is she supposed to learn to budget on her own?
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Does this poor woman have parents or other trustworthy people in her corner to tell her all of this is beyond unacceptable and that she should run— not walk—away from this as fast as she can?
 
Well she’s had a bad past too. It’s not my place to state what it was
 
Springchick said:
Yes seriously.
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No Way…

Well, I personally did it myself and it wasn’t by giving anyone control of my accounts. I’ve been financially independent since I was 19.
Springchick said:
A 22 year old young woman, just got her own apartment, has a full time job, pays her own insurance, and taxes. Her son does the exact same.
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That is literally one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard… Especially when THEY’RE NOT EVEN RELATED YET???
 
She lived with her aunt and uncle for a while but she calls them mom and dad. But I’m not sure on how she was raised.
 
I can tell that they love each other. I just don’t wanna see anything bad happen to the couple. My bf and I love them bothor have to live under her in laws wings till death due them part.
 
See my mom let me make my own mistakes when it came to my fianances. I may not be the best at it. Since this pandemic, I’ve quit spending a lot.
 
Springchick said:
I just don’t wanna see anything bad happen to the couple.
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With an overbearing MIL like that – odds are it will cause issues in the relationship.
Springchick said:
See my mom let me make my own mistakes
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…That’s how you learn to budget on your own. Not by signing your life over to someone you’re not even legally related to yet.

What happens if the engagement gets broken off. Now the ex-boyfriend’s mom has her bank account.

It’s literally one of the craziest things I’ve ever heard.
 
That’s what I’m saying. I think it’s unhealthy. I mean, you don’t need to control someones money just because they have issues with spending. I had to be abused to learn how to budget for my self. And to this day. I try to stay under like 500 bucks a month if that.
 
I just don’t understand. I mean yes someone can be the one, but you gotta let that person make their mistakes.

And also the future mil is once divorced and her second husband passed away due to a heart attack
 
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