Frustration in being continuously told "its just a date"

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When I met my future husband, he had spent one year living by himself in grad school. He’d previously been living at home as a graduate student.

Although his housekeeping skills were pretty basic at that point, I really appreciate the fact that he’d been doing for himself for an entire year before we met. I’m not sure that he would have made quite as good an impression either when he was new to independent living, or when he was living with his parents.
 
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My poor old mum has never learned this, and it is so obvious to me when we are together with other people. I can see how hard she struggles to keep a conversation going, and also how she repeatedly deadens it with her earnestness.
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One of my older relatives (bless his heart!) has had a succession of things that he is passionately interested in. He can be very interesting on his subjects, but at the same time, he has a tendency to tell you Everything He Knows about whatever his subject of the day is. It’s like dealing with a 70-something Aspie kid…He just doesn’t know how to ask other people about their stuff.

Another older relative (female) finds it impossible to recommend a movie without walking you through EVERY single plot twist. She just doesn’t know how to summarize things.

That’s my mom and dad.

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As you can probably imagine, it took a while for me to learn how to converse like a normal adult human.
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Boy do I know that feeling! 😂
 
@Edmundus1581 I have put the advice I have gotten here to good use!

I met a girl last week at one of the Religious things I run, actually a girl I’ve wanted to talk to for some time but didn’t have an opportunity, not many people came so we got to talk for a bit and I invited her to come back and she said she would love to and can’t wait.

I saw her a couple days later around campus and we talked briefly then I saw her at mass and we talked some and I invited her to another religious thing and she was very interested as well.

There was no awkwardness on my side, no stuttering which I’d say is quite the positive for me and instead of feeling rather worthless, I feel quite proud of myself. Because perhaps I have one female friend now or someone who may be becoming a friend and that is very nice! I think it’s helped that she seems nervous and quiet herself but she is eager to answer any questions I had and ask me some and she laughed at things that weren’t even funny lol. So I think she has put me at ease which has let me just act like who I am. So I’d say I’m happy, now to work on being friends! Haha 😀
 
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