Well some people do mature over time and change their mind. I’m kind of getting tired of the attitudes on here like “oh well when i was her age i already had it all together.”
not all of us were so perfect, so maybe cut the rest of us some slack. As I said in a previous post, I shudder to think of being judged by my beliefs as a teen.
Thank you for sharing your story! I see about 10 lessons alone in there. We need more Mothers like you
Yes, I suppose I shouldn’t generalize. I guess I’m just cynical.Well some people do mature over time and change their mind. I’m kind of getting tired of the attitudes on here like “oh well when i was her age i already had it all together.”
I think it depends upon the finances of the family, actually. One could make the case that the SAHM has it easy because her lifestyle is financially supported by the husband, at least she has it a lot easier than the woman who has a family and also works.
I don’t think that having children to ensure that you have good care when you’re old is a good enough reason, I think that would be very selfish!!!
So prudent and truly a mark of a mature woman. Your mother should be proud.
I don’t think that having children to ensure that you have good care when you’re old is a good enough reason, I think that would be very selfish!!!
Then I guess women in third world nations are selfish.
Plenty of the old folks stored in nursing homes have children who don’t want them around, anyway, so I doubt that having children will guarantee anyone company in their old age or on their death bed. In fact, the case could be made that with the proper investments a woman could provide for her own needs without pushing that burden onto her children.
Human beings are not burdens, and Our Lord requires us to take care of one another out of love for Him and each other. Your logic, taken further, is IMHO leading society to believe life is expendible and valued only by what is “useful”.
Once the kids reach age seven it’s probably healthier for women to get some kind of work. It’s easier to stay home and clean and cook, but it’s not likely to meet her responsibility to develop her talents.
I think the greater responsibility is to develop virtue. Stay at home moms have many more ample opportunities to tend to those responsibilities. A virtuous society is a benefit to us all.
A mothers responsibility isn’t to her “talents” but to her children, her family. And healthy for whom? Is it healthier for children to be in daycare so mom can develop her talents? Is it healthy for mom to go out into the working world, even if she’d rather raise her children? A women who stays home with her kids is not a mindless robot who cooks, cleans, and does homework. Our talents are used at home in raising and caring for our families.
Healthier for her, Andrea Yates was a SAHM and look at what happened, and certainly reducing the financial burden on the husband is a good thing. I think that once children are in school women should do more with their lives, there are all kinds of labor saving devices that American women enjoy, they have automatic washing machines, dryers, vacuum cleaners, if they assign chores to their kids, which most mothers do, they even get a break there.
I don’t understand what she’s supposed to “get”! ALL families are important and ALL families make sense, I myself came from a single parent family, we considered ourselves just as valid as any so called “traditional” family!
Had you made the better money would you have been okay with your husband being the stay at home parent?
We clearly have very different ideas on this topic. You can’t possibly think that Andrea Yates represents the average SAHM. She was terribly mentally ill with postpartum psychosis. If she’d had a job, I don’t think it would have mattered. Mental illness isn’t cured by a job.
Please keep in mind that I’m not talking about mothers of small kids, just the school aged ones.
Andrea Yates had mental problems unrelated to being a SAHM, so don’t go there!
Andrea Yates is a very sick woman, to compare her to the typical SAHM is very insulting, It’s like comparing Scott Peterson with all expectant Fathers PLEEZE!
I don’t think that you are worth less because you don’t have a job, I just don’t see why women who fail to get decent education and a good job are patting themselves on the back behind it.Andrea Yates had mental problems unrelated to being a SAHM, so don’t go there!
While some women do choose to work when their children are in school–lots of families home school. Also, adolescents and teenagers need parents present as much as babies and toddlers. Unsupervised time is THE major determining factor of kids getting into trouble.
And, btw, I don’t think my self worth is necessarily tied to whether I work or not or how much money I make. I can contribute in other ways to my community–such as volunteering…or raising children who are not social problems.
As for the working mother contributing more–really? By putting her children in daycare and working (letting someone else raise them) she’s being more productive for the GNP??? Honestly, that’s the last thing on my list of determining whether I work or not.
(let me preface this with the statement that I understand that some have to work or choose to work, that’s your personal decision, not mine. I’m making general statements to this poster–and I’ve been a working parent with children in daycare)
Women who work don’t do everything a SAHM does (I’m talking about a SAHM with pre school children), because she’s not there with her children all day. Women (with preschool children) who work put children in day care and count on others to do the things a SAHM does. The paycheck they bring home goes to the daycare–I know because I’ve done that before. I, personally, think it’s questionable to put a child in daycare/preschool just so you can work.
I’m sure I have other thoughts on this, but I want to go spend some time with my children before bed!
Jennifer