One of the most harrowing experiences during my years in the Assemblies of God came one evening when I was attending one of their Bible colleges and living in the dorm. We gals heard someone wailing and screaming and ran out of our rooms to see what had happened.
One of the girls ran down the hall, crying and wailing her heart out. Some of us gathered her up and took her into one of our rooms to try to calm her down and find out what was wrong.
She told us she’d just heard that her beloved grandmother had just died. Poor girl, we began to comfort her, but she would have no words of condolence. When we asked why, she told us it was because her grandmother was now in hell and had been for several hours since she died. The thought of it was too much for her to bear.
So we asked if she had been a Christian. “No,” the girl told us, she had been Presbyterian! We couldn’t believe our ears. And why couldn’t her Presbyterians grandmother be saved? Because, the girl told us, she hadn’t accepted Jesus as her personal Lord and Savior.
We tried to reason with her and say, maybe she did and she didn’t know it. But, no, the girl would not have it. As far as she was concerned her grandmother was now in hell and no two ways about it. And really, at the time, that was what we believed and told people they “had” to do.
That, and other incidents I won’t go into now, pried my eyes open to realize that the Christian faith was bigger than our narrow understanding. If I hadn’t been brought up Episcopalian before entering the AoG, I might have never been able to get away from the “we’re right, you’re wrong”, “us and them” concept of who can and cannot be saved.
The problem is that when we talk to people about religion, we are
talking about what people believe and not about what they know. There
is little chance of having a dialogue of open inquiry when you are
dealing with someone’s beliefs, and this goes for atheists too,
because they have their own beliefs, their own dogmas and their own
saints (such as Richard Dawkins). They think what everyone else
thinks, and that is basically that “everyone else has a belief system,
but I however, have the truth.” You asked if there was a psychologist
in the house. Well, I’m not one of those, but I’m human, and as a
human, one of the things I have the hardest time with emotionally is
the idea that I might someday cease to be. My religion gives me a
reason to hope that I won’t cease to be, and this is probably the case
for anyone who has a religion. When we challenge those beliefs,
people become fiercely defensive.
My personal belief on the matter is that it’s also largely due to the
influences of cultural background and life experience. I was raised as
a Catholic, and was schooled heavily on Catholic ideas from a very
young age. I will admit that this had a lot to do with why I am a
Catholic. I didn’t go looking for a religion on my own and then become
a Catholic. It’s how I was raised, and it’s how I think, and it’s
what resonates with me to this day, and probably always will. I will
probably always believe this in spite of what anyone else says. But
the difference is that as a Catholic, I was never taught that other
religions were bad or that other people were misguided. I was taught
to be focused on being a good Catholic. Period. But perhaps the
people you are talking about are taught bad things about us – that
we’re wrong and that the Pope is the Antichrist.
Now, I’m wondering if I had been taught those sorts of things about
them, how easy would it be for me to think otherwise? I might cling
pretty hard to those ideas if they were fundamental to what I was
taught about who I am and what I should believe, and all of that was
in turn tied to well being of my soul. My unqualified opinion is that
you’re challenging positions that people intend on taking to the grave
with them. One of the nuns who educated me as a child used to stress
that the best way for me to represent the Catholic Church among those
from other faiths was through rightful action, rightful words and
being an example of what I believe in how I conduct myself. She said
something to the effect that this was much more powerful than words or
discussion. I have never found her to be wrong in anything she told
me.