Gay wedding question

[Rachel126]

I have a question on this too: if a fallen catholic marries a Lutheran, most likely in a Lutheran service, are we forbiden to attend?

The answer is, “it depends.” The Church does not forbid attendance. below is the answer from the Ask an Apologetic forum.

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=167154

 

[BlueEyedLady]

So what? this is about GAY weddings, not weddings between atheists.

I was responding to the poster who lumped invalid heterosexual marriages in with gay ones. I just went through that situation and her advice could be very damaging if someone followed it blindly.

 

[Cristiano]

I was responding to the poster who lumped invalid heterosexual marriages in with gay ones. I just went through that situation and her advice could be very damaging if someone followed it blindly.

While sometime I disagree with some of your opinions on how to deal with this kind of situations, I think that your point here is a very intelligent one. Things should be kept separate because in the case between a man and a woman there is always the potential for a valid marriage, while in the case of two people of the same sex that potential does not exists.

 

[djames99]

Are Catholics expressly forbidden from attending such ceremonies?

Yes to both questions.

We are to set an example to the world.

 

[vera_dicere]

If a man and a woman are marrying, and its not valid in the eyes of the Church and Canon Law, then how are you to know unless they have told you first hand that they don’t have an annullment or whatever? You cannot be 100% sure.

What you can be sure of, 100%, all of the time, never any doubt, is two men or two women getting “married” is a gross slap in the face of God, and NEVER valid.

Christ didn’t say it woudl be easy, He didn’t say we were going to be popular.

Catholics now, more than ever, going ot have stand up for the faith. Yes, it will be awkward, yes, you will lose friends, welcome to following Christ.

Its sad, sure. So pray for them. Those with same sex attraction, for yourself, for your family and friends who embrace their sin.

 

[AgainstHeretics]

Perhaps people should wait until they are adults of 18 before they choose to become officially Catholic.

Nationality is less important than religion, yet we assign nationality to people before they’re 18.

 

[SighGuy]

Hi Daddygirl,

Whoa, first, let’s address “love the so-called ‘sinner’”. Any Christian is obligated to LOVE all people. “Whoever says ‘I love God’ yet hates his brother is a liar.”

What you’re calling love, that is, supporting this gay couple in their dealings, is what a Christian calls hate “Who spares the rod hates his son.” Discipline is needed to remind these human beings why we are set against their actions. I’m not sure if this is how the Church presents it, but this is how I do until I’m told otherwise: The sexual organs have the power to create life. They are holy. Is it loving to permit others to use the sacramental wine at a party? Or the crucifix for a coat rack? The Bible for a napkin? No, these are improper ways of using holy things! Why, then, should we give the okay to use the sexual organs, other holy things, in improper ways? Permitting it is not love, it is hate!

Therefore, there is no Christian who loves God yet hates his brother. There are those who love both, and those who love neither, for example, but none who love God and hate their brother.

The examples we set to the world aren’t about whether or not the world thinks we’re right. We’re not [supposed to be] concerned for how the world feels about us. “If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first.”
And we’re not set here to make everyone happy by our actions, either. “Do not think that I came to bring peace to the earth. I came not bringing peace, but the sword; I came to set a son against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter in law against her mother in law. A man’s enemies shall be from his own household.” We’re here to do what’s right, not what’s popular.

As far as going to the gay couple’s pizza party sometime down the road, I’m not sure why that would be a problem, but I am open to be corrected. I don’t know enough about the subject to really say much, here.

 

[John_Savage]

You say this because you think two guys marrying is OK. Do you think any marriage combination is wrong? What if they sacrificed puppies at the ceremony? Would you still attend?

It’s such an odd example to set, though.
Most people in the “world” would look at these actions and just shake their head and think, “it is too bad they did not go…”
How does not attending the wedding have any impact on the “world”…except to create sadness for the couple in question and for the person not attending?
It’s not as though others in the world will look onward and think: Ah, they were right not to attend..
The only people who would think this are people who would not go themselves anyway.

And after the (theoretical) couple is married, would the OP then not attend any other personal functions involving this couple, for the rest of their lives?

I mean…if the OP could not attend their wedding, she probably can’t attend any other celebration this couple invites her to…be it a Christmas dinner or a graduation party…since they would be hosting the revelry as a married couple, perhaps in a home they share together – and it would “set a bad example” to the world to attend those, too.

So…at what point do you actually love the so-called “sinner” here?
Or do you at all?

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