For those who still think it is a choice… My goodness, get out of lolly land and face it… Homosexuality is NOT a choice!! Science has proven it over and over.
I mean come on now… Do you guys honestly think someone would choose to be gay, and to have their entire family hate them now, have half their friends hate them, and be made fun of? I mean come on now… Whoever honestly thinks that is a choice… G-d help you, because you have serious problems if you think someone would choose such.
Well, I guess I have serious problems, or at least I did before God restored my soul and brought me out of the homosexual community.
Look, French, I’ve been there – and you’re right. It’s hard to lose friends (and I did), to be afraid of losing my job, to be afraid of being beaten up, to lose my dearest friend to suicide. You’re right about the suicide rate being high, and about the pain and despair, and sometimes even depression.
So why would I have chosen such a lifestyle? Perhaps it was because of the support and encouragement to “come out” I received from members of my Catholic parish. Perhaps it was because my father was an alcoholic addicted to pornography. Perhaps it was because I was molested by a neighbor when I was a child. Perhaps it was because I was afraid of men, but still desperately wanted to be in a relationship.
Whatever the reason I chose the hell I lived through (and almost chose for eternity), I will tell you something that no one currently in that community (homosexual) will tell you: I desperately wanted to be in a heterosexual relationship. I desperately wanted to return to my Catholic faith in its fullness. I desperately wanted what I had deliberately spurned.
And why did I make such a painful choice, a choice that seemed to go against everything I knew in my heart of hearts that I wanted? Because no matter how awful it was at the time (dealing with the prejudice and the fear and even the suicide), I felt safe around these women who loved me and supported me. And for whatever reason, I feared men far too much to be willing to even consider trying for that sort of relationship. In other words, I chose the hell I knew over the hell I didn’t know.
I left that community (I don’t call it a “lifestyle” because my day-to-day routine is pretty much the same) years ago, thanks be to God and His grace. It was several more years before I returned to the Church, but that’s a different story.
Look, I don’t know how God created me or anyone else. But I do know that I lived in the lesbian community for nearly ten years, and it was 100% a choice! I would never tell that to any of my friends from that community (a couple of them are still very dear friends), but I will tell you. And before you go off and encourage someone who is “questioning” to come out of the closet, consider for one brief moment, that their “questioning” may in fact be a cry for help of a completely different kind. They may be asking for help and courage in facing the fear of being the man or woman God actually created them to be.
As for the suicide rate – my heart still aches for the dear and precious friend I lost. This cannot be said enough – when one is dealing with someone with SSA or who is actually engaging in homosexual acts, BE KIND, BE COMPASSIONATE. And if you can’t say something nice, shut up and walk away and let your ministry to them be through prayer only.
Gertie
GOD BLESS