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On the occasion of her marriage, my great-great grandmother’s parents gifted Ead to her - the African slave who had cared for her as a child. Ead, who was about 12 years older than my gg grandmother, is buried in our family cemetery that is also a Texas historical site. Her grave marker, which bears my gg grandmother’s maiden name, is stele-esque and taller than any of the other markers (if my memory servers me correctly). When the emancipation proclamation was issued, Ead declined emancipation - not surprising since sadly she had no family of her own. When Ead became ill, the surviving children of my g.g. mother whom she helped to raise took turns staying on the farm where they had grown up in order to care for Ead until her death in 1910.Nowadays, such courtesies would not be given to “evil, slaveholding racists”.
This part of my family’s history is not something that I share with my friends - either in CA or in NC where we have homes - or even in Texas where I grew up and where I still have family. It just doesn’t come up in the normal course of conversation, and frankly no one in my family is proud of it.
I was educated in the south in the 50’s and 60’s. The Civil War was called The War between the States. When I went to public h.s., I was taught that the precipitating issue for the civil war was slavery; but the principal cause was the principle of states’ rights. Even as a high school student it seemed obvious to me that stopping the practice of enslaving people (human trafficking) should take priority over states rights - but I didn’t share that opinion with anyone at the time. I had tests to pass if I wanted to go to college, and I did.
My point is that I have come to terms with the sins of my ancestors. I suggest that you find a way to do the same. It happened. It was wrong. No one can change what happened. However, times change; people change. It’s past time to move on because grasping onto racially based, political grievances rooted in the distant past is NOT the way to create a better present, IMO.
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