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Don’t engage in any immoral things. Don’t engage in anything which is injurious to you morally or emotionally.
Also, consider if you want to be married forever (on this earth) to someone who pushes you forcibly into activities you don’t want or who plays games or uses mind tricks or guilt trips or other manipulation to get sex or lesser substitutes of it.
However, she might actually be able to be convinced that sex is not the most important thing and it’s not proper for you at this stage. Perhaps she thinks if you don’t have sex, you don’t truly love or want her. Maybe she follows the mindset in which if you don’t have sex, your relationship isn’t full. You can tell her that yes, sex is a normal part of a human relationship and love, but a part which is due after marriage, which is to one person and forever, and which is open to having children.
“Sexual compatibility” is overrated. Being able to talk and compromise is underrated. Being willing actually to put any effort in making the other person happy is seriously neglected and it seems exotic to most people in this day and age. People need to have sex together for a time in order to find out if they are satisfied with each other’s temperament, hygiene, preferred positions or whatever, as if they couldn’t talk about it and make arrangements. In some cases maybe they care to get some satisfying sex, but they don’t care about the other person really that much?
Also, running from temptation is easier than fighting it. You can’t predict the outcome of a fight, while running is already averting the bad thing. Pray for God’s help in avoiding temptation and… avoid it. Talk to your priest about it.
Also, consider if you want to be married forever (on this earth) to someone who pushes you forcibly into activities you don’t want or who plays games or uses mind tricks or guilt trips or other manipulation to get sex or lesser substitutes of it.
However, she might actually be able to be convinced that sex is not the most important thing and it’s not proper for you at this stage. Perhaps she thinks if you don’t have sex, you don’t truly love or want her. Maybe she follows the mindset in which if you don’t have sex, your relationship isn’t full. You can tell her that yes, sex is a normal part of a human relationship and love, but a part which is due after marriage, which is to one person and forever, and which is open to having children.
“Sexual compatibility” is overrated. Being able to talk and compromise is underrated. Being willing actually to put any effort in making the other person happy is seriously neglected and it seems exotic to most people in this day and age. People need to have sex together for a time in order to find out if they are satisfied with each other’s temperament, hygiene, preferred positions or whatever, as if they couldn’t talk about it and make arrangements. In some cases maybe they care to get some satisfying sex, but they don’t care about the other person really that much?
Also, running from temptation is easier than fighting it. You can’t predict the outcome of a fight, while running is already averting the bad thing. Pray for God’s help in avoiding temptation and… avoid it. Talk to your priest about it.