Given up on happiness

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Dear renata my heart is breaking for you.I know you cannot speak to your priest until he gets back,but I know that’s the best advice I have EXCEPT PRAY.You are in my prayers.
A Novena Prayer to the Sacred Heart of Jesus
Sacred Heart of Jesus, we know that there is but one thing impossible to You: to be without pity for those who are in suffering or distress. Look down on us, we beg of You and grant us the grace which we humbly and earnestly implore, through the Immaculate Heart of Your most sorrowful Mother to whom You confided us as her children, and whose prayers are all powerful with You. Amen.
 
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Maybe I am so .needy and unloving that he has strayed. He says because of my German background, we are all cold, mean people.
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Renatas, that is so much nonsense. Most of my family is German, and we are all loving people. Please ignore his nonsense.

Bryan

Glorious Apostle, St. Jude Thaddeus
Devoted follower and Friend of Jesus
The name of the traitor has caused many to forget about you
But the Church invokes you universally as the Patron of lost cases and of things despaired of
Please pray for Renata that she might have the consolations and succor of heaven in all of
her tribulations, needs and sufferings especially that she find peace and resolution in her marriage and that she can bless God with you and all the elect through out eternity.

Amen
 
I am so confused…so we were all put on this Earth to suffer. Some people suffer continuously while others have a wonderful life that there always thanking and praising the Lord for everything thats good.
Then, there are those that suffer in silence, are homeless, pray and are hopeful and NOTHING. Why are we whipping posts?? I am thankful that I have my son, a nice house which God knows what willl happen after Steve finishes with me, very few people who I consider “friends” that I can trust.
How can this be fair. Why arent’t those punished that deserve it. Why are people like Momr4truth, Cassie, Trishie, those I can think of quickly, always getting the short end of the stick. Are we just meant to be God’s leftovers and others doormats
CONFUSED.
 
renatas said:
I am so confused…so we were all put on this Earth to suffer. Some people suffer continuously while others have a wonderful life that there always thanking and praising the Lord for everything thats good.
Then, there are those that suffer in silence, are homeless, pray and are hopeful and NOTHING. Why are we whipping posts?? I am thankful that I have my son, a nice house which God knows what willl happen after Steve finishes with me, very few people who I consider “friends” that I can trust.
How can this be fair. Why arent’t those punished that deserve it. Why are people like Momr4truth, Cassie, Trishie, those I can think of quickly, always getting the short end of the stick. Are we just meant to be God’s leftovers and others doormats
CONFUSED.
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You know life can seem like that sometimes can’t it? I remember when my son died I was devastated & thought ‘why did God do this to me?’ When I suffered years of abuse I thought ‘why me?’
When one of my son’s nearly died of Asthma & was in & out of hospital all the time each time life threatening I felt it was so unfair.
When my dad was taken at 69yrs of age suddenly with a brain tumour I was again devastated & couldn’t understand how God would take my wonderful devout father.

Things happen for a reason.We don’t usually understand the reason until much later if at all.
God knows our every thought our innermost feelings about everything.Above all God understands each of us better than we understand ourselves and He loves us.

When we pray we often don’t ask for the things we should,which would be better for us.We don’t know God’s divine plan for each of us but we do know He is listening for our prayers.

Renata I am so very sorry for your suffering.Pray to the Lord for guidance.God loves you.
You have many friends here at CAF.Do you know probably the nicest people you will ever meet are those who have suffered? Those who have suffered understand,care and can give love of a genuine and deeper strength than those who have not.I beleive God blessed me with my sufferings and I have come out the other side now.I want to help as many people as I can with love and prayers.

A Novena Prayer to the Sacred Heart of Jesus
Sacred Heart of Jesus, we know that there is but one thing impossible to You: to be without pity for those who are in suffering or distress. Look down on us, we beg of You and grant us the grace which we humbly and earnestly implore, through the Immaculate Heart of Your most sorrowful Mother to whom You confided us as her children, and whose prayers are all powerful with You. Amen.
 
but those that have constantly suffered are probably very resentful.
 
renatas said:
but those that have constantly suffered are probably very resentful.
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…until they offer up all their resentment to the Lord on the Cross for Him to take it away from them. Try it renatas, and make sure you talk to a good, holy priest for guidance…and try and keep praying to God for strength and healing so you can endure faithfully. You are in my daily prayers.
 
Our Father, Who art in heaven, hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come.
Thy Will be done, on earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou amongst women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God pray for us sinners, now
and at the hour of our death. Amen

Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit,
as it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen

Hail, Holy Queen, Mother of mercy, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve. To thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this valley of tears. Turn then, most gracious advocate, thine eyes of mercy towards us. And after this our exile, show unto us the blessed Fruit of thy womb, Jesus. O clement, O loving, O sweet Virgin Mary. Pray for us, o Holy Mother of God, that we may be made worthy of the promises of Christ. Amen
 
Renata,

You have friends here. Many of us suffer. I face a trial for something I didn’t do that starts in 29 days that could cost me my life. Keep your faith, it is all that truly matters. God loves us all and will not let more happen to us than He knows we can handle, though sometimes I think He has a greater idea of how much we can handle than we ourselves do.

Praying for you.

Glorious Apostle, St. Jude Thaddeus
Devoted follower and Friend of Jesus
The name of the traitor has caused many to forget about you
But the Church invokes you universally as the Patron of lost cases and of things despaired of
Please pray for Renata that she might have the consolations and succor of heaven in all of
her tribulations, needs and sufferings especially that she find peace and resolution in her marriage and that she can bless God with you and all the elect through out eternity.

Amen
 
i will pray for you too Bryan and pls keep me informed by PM. I too am accused of doing all sorts of things that he says he will use against me. he yells and scream and calls me names. his daughter and boyfriend are over and he yelled that i was a crazy lunatic and then outside in the garage called me a crazy _ _ _ _! He would lie to any degree, he works in the prison system, he was a military police officer, he knows the ropes.

I wonder why the Lord doesnt punish him, like take away something he loves, his parents are older and i lost the dearest mom in july. so why do i get punished two-fold. when will something curve in steve’s life??

why does everything happen to go south for me. why does God not punish him, I ask you why…I would certainly punish my son if he did something so God as being our Father, why doesnt he punish his own son, Steve. Why does he not have any hardships.

does anyone have the answers??
 
Our Father, Who art in Heaven, hallowed be Thy Name.
Thy Kingdom come, Thy Will be done, on earth as it as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day, our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive
those who trespass against us. Lead us not into temptation, but
deliver us from evil.
Amen

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with Thee.
Blessed art Thou among women,and
blessed is the fruit of Thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us now, and
at the hour of our death.
Amen

Glory be to the Father, to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, as is and ever shall be, world without end.
 
renatas,
regarding your asking why you suffer so much and nothing bad happens to your husband while he does “bad” stuff. Even if it seems to us that this is the case, he will suffer eventually. If not in this lifetime, then when he meets his maker. He will , as my husband will, (and of course all of us, ) Have to answer for our life here on earth and how we treated the people he put in our lives. we will all have to answer for how well we followed our lords command that we love one another. How we are Jesus to each other,: his hands and feet. At times I too am angry and feel depressed and just sorry for myself. in the past 5 years I had a parent first decline with Alzheimers, then pass away . I had the stresses to help care, make decisions for his care , life and death issues I did not feel qualified to make; then my oldest child around this same time “came out” as gay , in a relationship I did not approve of, then of my husband distanced himself from me and unbeknownst to me at the time had an emotional affair with a pretty young thing: and decided that our marraige was a “mistake’ and is still trying to leave me and our family after almost 20 yrs together. he treats me at times with so much coldness it just hurst so bad. His choices have probably ruined us financially too.
A good friend told me that there is no trial here on earth that will continue into the eternity.
and our life time- is only a blink of time- considering how long we will spend in eternity.
so we need to choose to focus on serving out lord and try and be joyfully awaiting the day we rest in our heavenly fathers arms.
I think the other person who responded to you is right. those of us who have suffered these rejections especially from our spouses understand in a way that others cannot imagine. Pray for his guidance, and for his peace, and for your focus to be on him and not on"external circumstances” . We cannot control our spouses. believe me I will I could! but we have to take all our worries, anger, pain, rejection and leave it at the cross.
I try and tell myself that whatever I suffer , my lord has sufffered so much more for me.
yesturday I was reading about Our lady of Fatima where she told the children that she appeared to : to offer up their sufferings for souls. so we who suffer can try and do this.
put your husband in our lords hands.
i will pray for you too, hang in there
mommabear
 
A very wise priest once gave a sermon on how the wicked prosper. Or appear to.

The basic text of it was along the lines that God is Infinitely Just and His Justice is perfect. No one on earth is entirely bad. Some are choosing hell for all eternity by their actions and cruelty and sinfulness. But God will not be unjust and not reward those people for the little good they do accomplish. He lets them enjoy it for a few short years here on earth. They drive nice cars and live in nice houses, or seem to have some love. But that’s it. It ends. Eventually they die. They’ve already had their reward.

And he spoke of those who are innocent who seem to suffer unjustly here on earth. That is their chance to get their purgatory out of the way. They can atone for their sins here. God will reward them for the good they do and their fidelity for all eternity. Their reward starts AFTER they die.

So when you look around… ask yourself, do you want your reward now or later?

Don’t begrudge your husband his little happiness. If he is as horrible as you say, and he dies unrepentant, he will suffer. He will have to answer for the pain he has caused.

But if daily life with him is causing you so much pain that you are changing into a vengeful person, then you need to get away from him and live separately. You cannot wish hell on someone, because then that would be wishing that Christ’s suffering and death for that person would be in vain. Your love for Christ should be greater than your hatred for that man’s sins.

You want him to stop doing what he’s doing. Pray for his conversion. Pray that God will protect you and your son from his ability to harm you physically, morally, emotionally or spiritually.

And pray for him to have the grace of final repentance. You owe your son that. Do you want his father in hell? That will eventually color your own relationship with your son if you begin to wish for his father to suffer like that. He will see that as an attack on him personally, because he is half his father.

Pray for wisdom, and when you feel anger toward your husband, pray the prayer to St. Michael, the protector of law enforcement officers.

St. Michael the Archangel,
Defend us in battle.
Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray.
And do thou, Oh Prince of the Heavenly Hosts, by the power of God,
cast into hell Satan and all evil spirits who roam throughout the world
seeking the ruin of souls.
Amen.
 
Continued prayers for you renata and you have had some very good advice and replies form other posters.You are loved by many here at CAF and God loves you so much.

A Novena Prayer to the Sacred Heart of Jesus
Sacred Heart of Jesus, we know that there is but one thing impossible to You: to be without pity for those who are in suffering or distress. Look down on us, we beg of You and grant us the grace which we humbly and earnestly implore, through the Immaculate Heart of Your most sorrowful Mother to whom You confided us as her children, and whose prayers are all powerful with You. Amen.
 
Prayers promised. As Pope John Paul II said, “Be not afraid”. Offer this up and this will be a prayer of suffering which is the redemptive prayer of Jesus on the cross.
 
Praying for Renata.

Glorious Apostle, St. Jude Thaddeus
Devoted follower and Friend of Jesus
The name of the traitor has caused many to forget about you
But the Church invokes you universally as the Patron of lost cases and of things despaired of
Please pray for Renata that she might have the consolations and succor of heaven in all of
her tribulations, needs and sufferings especially that she find peace and resolution in her marriage and that she can bless God with you and all the elect through out eternity.

Amen
 
A Novena Prayer to the Sacred Heart of Jesus
Sacred Heart of Jesus, we know that there is but one thing impossible to You: to be without pity for those who are in suffering or distress. Look down on us, we beg of You and grant us the grace which we humbly and earnestly implore, through the Immaculate Heart of Your most sorrowful Mother to whom You confided us as her children, and whose prayers are all powerful with You. Amen.
 
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