Giving to panhandler

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i would never leave Mass early to “avoid” these persons in need

my parish parking lot is so poorly designed; you are forced to queue to get out; the outbound traffic flow is so slow you must eyeball “them”

i try my best to help
 
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There were articles in a local paper saying that panhandlers at busy traffic intersections who walk in traffic at red lights can make $60 an hour. Some were spotted going back to their nice cars which were parked on side streets.
 
get off the NY thru-way in Newburgh, NY (Mt St Mary College) ; panhandling there is a cottage industry

the “beggars” there are absolutely fearless of traffic…
 
It is here in DC as well, especially in the wealthy suburbs
 
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Some will say that it’s OK to give money, and while I’ve done it before, I’d advise against it. Best just to give them food, water, clothing, etc. You don’t sin by choosing to give them money in the case that they abuse it, but I’d rather not do a good deed only for the person to spend it on something that won’t help their situation.
 
leaving Mass; i don’t “have” a “water bottle”; the beggars want “cash” which i do have

should i give to them ? my pastor says NO; what say you?
I know my parish had a similar situation a while ago where there was an end-of-Mass announcement saying not to give to panhandlers in the parking lot. That they could go to the parish office for help.

Overall, there is a need to understand the context of where a person is asking.
 
I try to carry $5+ dollar fast food gift cards in my wallet. I’ll give those because I know eventually someone will eat with it, even if it gets traded for whatever. And I always ask if I can say a prayer for them then & there.
 
Jesus knew we would have a quandry with panhandlers and with beggars. He gave us a lesson to teach us what to do.

The Good Samaritan did not hand the man in need (let’s call him Joe) some coins or a bit of food. Good Sam knew where there was a facility that had the capacity to meet Joe’s needs, physical, medical, etc.

Good Sam made sure Joe go to that shelter, Sam gave the shelter a generous donation and said “let me know when you need more money”.

Be like the Good Samaritan.
 
Ever wonder why they stand outside of Church instead of coming in for Mass, coffee and donuts, nice bathroom facilities? Because they know that ladies coming out of Mass are an “easy mark”. Once one lady gives, the next week there will be more there asking. There is a network in your town and they know where the sweet spots are.

As your pastor said, direct them to the food pantry, soup kitchen, shelter.
 
that is true; never thought of it that way

we have coffee & donuts after (i think) every Sunday Mass;

and the celebrant, if not the pastor himself, is always available to speak to after Mass…
 
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I won’t be able to relax until I know why you put random words in quotes.
 
Is there a pattern to it? Does it mean something? Is it truly random? Inquiring minds want to know.
 
“not sure” how to “respond”; i will give the issue some “serious thought” and “circle back later”
 
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One thing to also keep in mind is that we should take some care to know who we are giving to. I believe such a position is mentioned in The Didache. While not scripture, it was held as a valuable teaching tool by early Christians and really helped clarify “Give to everyone who asks of you” for me.
I won’t be able to relax until I know why you put random words in quotes.
It’s witchcraft. :male_detective:t5:
 
Unless you have enormous resources, the present climate is how much should you give to each panhandler along the way? If you can be generous is $10 enough each time you pass one by, be honest how many opportunities to contribute how much do you have to give?

Experience tells me you are being ‘played’ by panhandlers. I have given, there have been realistic follow up observations. My conclusion is, don’t do it. The present situation of panhandlers is almost an industry and it obscures the truly needy who are not close to being as brazen as the clever lot at the the busy intersections.

Pray about the needy, search out those expert in helping them and learn how to most effectively help those in despair.
 
Several years ago, when I lived in San Diego, there was a huge article in the S.D.Union about all the people standing with signs asking for money. There was an investigation done and it found that most of those people aren’t homeless at all, their “job” is to stand on corners and freeway entrances, asking for money. That’s how they make their living and they make a lot of money doing it. There’s also others who are homeless and they give all the money people give them to their “boss” who then provides a motel room for many of them to sleep together, in the very crowded room. They get a little food to go with the room, but basically, the “boss” is who’s getting rich off our donations. It’s so hard to know what to do really. My donations go to charities like St. Vincent de Paul and then wonderful organizations like St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital, where the parents of critically ill children are never charged for doctors, surgeons, any treatments and medical expenses whatsoever. I also give to Salvation Army because I know they have programs for homeless to teach them skills and help them get jobs. And of course, the very many second collections for various things at Mass. But I don’t give to those standing with signs any more, although I still feel somewhat guilty about it.
 
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