What I have the urge to do is find a woman for a good Sacramental Marriage. That is surprisingly difficult. Do I have the urge for sex, of course I do. What I want is sex in the context of a Sacramental Marriage. I don’t want to be like my brother in law. And yes, the loss of sexual activity is a really hard thing. What is harder is having sex with someone and that comes to an end and she is walking around having sex with other people. I think every time you have sex with someone you give them a part of yourself. When they are gone from your life a part of you is gone too.
Masturbation, casual sex, casual marriage all just make the longing for the real thing more intense. Seeing boobs on TV or in movies isn’t very nice when you got no boobs to look at anymore. Lots of problems in our society.
I pray that the Church will offer guidance to people that have endured the pain of having sex outside of a Sacramental Marriage. Right now there is much work that needs to be done. But I am not going to tell you if I masturbate, it is none of your business. But, I think it might be possible. If you are really wondering about it, well, if I said try it I’d get yelled at. Hope you get my meaning.