Excaliber, you are pretty close. Most Catholics I run into in real life dismiss the whole “suffering problem” because they haven’t done the study and prayer to try to understand it. Interestingly, you get the part they always miss…the absolute eternal FACT of God’s Divine Plan (GDP) for our salvation.
You do know that is what the GDP is for, right? It is a plan for our salvation. Via the GDP, we (the righteous/saints/etc) get to spend eternity with God. You
might even say, since God says He wills that none should perish, that the GDP is designed to win the most possible souls.
Now, what happens before we (individually btw) get to ENTER IN.
That’s right. We are JUDGED.

(appropriate smilies for being judged). We are judged INDIVIDUALLY at death. Let’s assume here that God must know everything good, bad, and in between about us. He knows every nook and cranny of our souls and minds and hearts. Is it okay if we assume that? If so, He knows EVERY LAST detail about us.
Now, I love each of my children more than anyone else alive except, perhaps, their dad. Even we don’t know EVERY little detail like God does. He knows even our thoughts!
Perhaps you don’t believe he knows that much. Then the argument ends here because we are no longer talking about the same god. My God is ALL knowing.
You are very right that we are mistaken to say God loves like we do.
LUKE 11:
9 And I say to you, Ask, and it shall be given you: seek, and you shall find: knock, and it shall be opened to you.
10 For every one that asketh, receiveth; and he that seeketh, findeth; and to him that knocketh, it shall be opened.
11 And which of you, if he ask his father bread, will he give him a stone? or a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent?
12 Or if he shall ask an egg, will he reach him a scorpion?
13 If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children,
how much more will your Father from heaven give the good Spirit to them that ask him?
JESUS Himself compares our own feeble attempts at parental love with the PERFECT love of GOD the FATHER. Please note that Jesus is not suggesting that we will “get” anything we ask for. He specifically refers to asking for and receiving the “good Spirit”.
It is not logical to assert that a God who notes every detail of our individual earthly lives including thoughts does not love us individually.
The parable of the lost sheep applies here as well. Excaliber, this is not an account of a God who doesn’t love individually and completely…
LUKE 15
4 What man of you that hath an hundred sheep: and if he shall lose one of them, doth he not leave the ninety-nine in the desert, and go after that which was lost, until he find it?
5 And when he hath found it, lay it upon his shoulders, rejoicing:
6 And coming home, call together his friends and neighbours, saying to them: Rejoice with me, because I have found my sheep that was lost?
7 I say to you, that even so there shall be joy in heaven upon one sinner that doth penance, more than upon ninety-nine just who need not penance.
8 Or what woman having ten groats; if she lose one groat, doth not light a candle, and sweep the house, and seek diligently until she find it?
9 And when she hath found it, call together her friends and neighbours, saying: Rejoice with me, because I have found the groat which I had lost.
10 So I say to you, there shall be joy before the angels of God upon one sinner doing penance.