As a member fo the Society of Friends, we have struggeled among ourselves exactly where do gay men and lesbian women fit into our religious life as a Meeting.
We believe in the worth of persons. We do not negate the stories of gay men and lesbian women when making these value judgements.
We do no assume gay people are lying when they say they love one another…especially when we have Friends that happen to be gay who have been together for 20-30 + years. The lives they live and kindness they exhibit and the integrity by which they conduct their lives speaks for itself. We do not claim to be able to read their hearts and make the love they obviously have for one another into “lust” simply because the love they share doesn’t conform to our middle-class American ideas, nor do we accept what others say about them because of a preconceived religious agenda…we trust that these gay men and lesbian women, who for the most part are educated and articulate can speak for themselves as to how they feel about their partner. We trust them as brothers and sisters to us and do not impose our lack of understanding and ignorance in the scope of human sexuality upon them
Friends were among the first religious group to accept gay and lesbian people into our Meetings as equals, even taking their requests to put their relationship “under the care of the Meeting” and commit to one another “after the manner of Friends” in marriage…whether the state recongnizes those relationships or not has liitle impact for us…the Meeting does accept them and blesses their union. All “marriages” of gay and straight go through a “clearness committee” and if approved a Meeting for Worship for Marriage will be scheduled.
We do not pull stories from scripture that on the surface appear to condemn gay people out of hand from a culture so removed from ours we would find lfe in that culture very difficult for ourselves so we will not impose 4000 year old biases, prejudices and beliefs that has their roots in the primitive world view of a primitive desert nomadic culture.
We do not believe that the writers of scripture were psychologists, scientists, sociologists and human behaviorists. We do not accept their cosmology of a earth-centric universe or a three tiered view or heaven and earth. We do not accept that women are property and that slavery is acceptable. We believe the Light Within guides humanity to further light in matters of human equality.
If we are wrong, we choose to err on the side of love and mercy than on the side of condemnation and judgement. We are content in our way, we believe we are led by the Light of Christ, and if one day, for whatever reason, we fall under the judgement of an angry God, so be it, it is our firm conviction that we have walked in the Light and put ourselves in God’s hands.
We will work to support our gay and lesbian Friends for full equality under the law…in short we embrace the “gay agenda” (whatever that is) of conservative, fundamentalist double speak.