God vs. Sexual immorality

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I never have had a pop up ad for porn and I am a heavy user of the internet. The ads come from algorithms based on the content you seek out, so, it makes sense that since you have been a porn user you will see porn or other unsavory ads.

You can install a program like “Covenant Eyes” that will both block content and set you up with an accountability partner.

You can make a clean break from your past. Get a new phone number, get a new email address that is not in any way linked to your old number or old email, wipe then factory reset your devices and start fresh.

If you know that there are nasty ads in blah blah blah game, don’t play that game. Heck, keep your gaming off line completely (simply don’t connect your console to the internet and play games that are not multi player).

While I have not seen sexual ads on a city bus or on billboards, perhaps where you live that is the norm. Make a habit when you see an attractive person in an advertisement on the bus or on a sign, pray for that person. “God, thank you for creating this lovely person. May you bless them and allow them today to feel your presence.” It is amazing how fast the temptations leave when you turn those moments to God.

It is not easy, but, it is possible to break the chains of pornography. Prayers for you!
 
Yeah I’ve made efforts
I gave my brother permission to make password for some search restrictions
The restrictions stopped working
And he can’t figure out the password
Bit of a dilemma

Also it’s usually not straight porn In ads(it can be though and usually poorly made sites allow those ads) but sometimes you it’s just a weird fashion ad that suggestive as everything in 2018 is :confused:

Right now I’m 4 days no masturbation (I’m starting to get a week-10 days more often as compared 2-5 days I used to do)
I did watch some porn on one of these days so I’m not no porn
I eventually got myself to realize and stop
 
Struggling to reach 5-7 days is a good start and the more you struggle, the easier it will get and the longer you will be able to go. Try adding in a Rosary or Divine Mercy Chaplet to help you out. Or wear a Miraculous Medal or St. Benedict Medal. We are given these gifts to help the battle, use them!

I’m at the point now after struggling since 12YO with masturbation and pornographic images(not videos) I can make it 30 days free. And each time I reach that it gets easier. For me, though my struggle is feeling like I ruined my brain and I can’t talk to women anymore because I’m too damaged. That is something very hard to overcome for me.

As for avoiding porn, honestly you need to change all your habits because it has become a habit. When I fall to temptation it’s like a trance is over me, I don’t even realize what I’m doing until a few minutes later then I stop and feel sad about it. So fighting the temptation is where the war is battled, not fighting the sin itself because by then, the war is already lost.

Feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk more about it, I can offer more helpful resources 🙂
 
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Ive started saying a decade a day
And been able to stick too it
And I’ve seen an increase in my durations

I’ve gotten braver recently so all this progress is happening but of course new obstacles including something as little as small pride when I succeed against porn

I gave my guardian angel a name a while back and when I’m in a state of grace I like to think he’s more motivated

And I can feel my confirmation helping me when In a state of grace

With addiction many times I forget or don’t think hard enough about what im doing and to stop

Sometimes it’s a painful itch like feeling (not like itchy but a constant annoying feeling of needing to do it)

With Girls I know In real life it wasn’t really issue many times and I would cancel glances fast
But during long timed away from porn
I need to be extra careful

But with real girls I’ve become a good emotional support for them and I’m proud of this part of me
And it’s why I still feel a calling to marriage rather than just desire
I know I don’t need marriage to fulfill the desire of helping people or a girl
But you know
Saving a lonely girl to save me
Would be great and in this day in age no girl will take a compliment on looks or personality (but they’ll secretly be thankful)
I can’t fathom how they can’t be amazed with themselves at times 😂😂😂
 
Oh i see
Yeah maybe I should avoid that just in case I’m pretending to be above the Angel

I thought naming him would be nice

I got the idea from a priest who used to mistakenly get my name wrong
So I thought maybe that should be the name for my angel

Padre Pio called his angel Angelo but not as a nickname
But to mean "little angel"as a form of endearment

My name was Scott for him
But I guess I’ll just call him angel now
 
Francis said:
So,don’t worry God will reward you according.
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That only works if people respond accordingly and are willing to be the reward that you say God will give them. If you want to know what I mean, allow some time for responses. Some may be self-evident.
 
Walterross said:
Hi everyone. My question is… how exactly does God want us to live as far as sexual activity. I know the answer, in a way. I know that we are called to practice chastity and abstain from sexual activity until the sacrament of marriage. I’m a 20 y/o male and wanted to ask, does anyone actually know how hard that is? Don’t get me wrong, I know it’s for the best, but it’s almost so normal to have sex out of wedlock, people will look at you weird for not having done it. For example, I’m in college and am tempted to have sexual intercourse, but I come back to God, realizing that my virginity is pure and should be protected. I feel lonely being a male virgin in today’s society btw. But I say, “if I stay pure until marriage, I will find another who believes the same way I do, and God will bless our marriage immensely.” I’m scared of this being wrong. One of my biggest fears is abstaining from sex my whole life and when I get into the dating game, everyone I’m attracted to has already had sex and look at me as a “goody-two-shoes” and dismiss me as not experienced enough. I can aim to find another virgin to be my spouse, although it may be hard. Another fear is that I’ll never find a virgin mate. Sex is so normalized in today’s society in negative ways, that I feel like there is no one out there who is chaste, looking to save sex for marriage, and wants that for a partner. I’m scared of being alone in this fight and never finding someone with the above beliefs, and having stayed a virgin. I’m almost tempted to have sexual intercourse to “level the playing field” so people I’m attracted to in the future don’t dismiss me as inexperienced, and so I’m not feeling like I’m the only one around practicing chastity. Can anyone relate?
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I’m old enough to be your dad and I can relate. Unfortunately, I have read some negative reaction to the replies criticizing you for wanting a spouse with similar values and experience (or lack thereof). I stand with you and actually wish more people who are saving it for marriage would be more insistent on expecting their spouses to save it as well. That might be the turning point in winning the battle against promiscuity.
 
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I’m old enough to be your dad and I can relate. Unfortunately, I have read some negative reaction to the replies criticizing you for wanting a spouse with similar values and experience (or lack thereof). I stand with you and actually wish more people who are saving it for marriage would be more insistent on expecting their spouses to save it as well. That might be the turning point in winning the battle against promiscuity.
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Yeah, I really didn’t mean that I ONLY want a virgin for a wife, but I do plan on staying a virgin, myself. I just figured it would be a lot easier if i WERE to run into someone who is also a virgin, because I won’t be worried at the back of my mind if they think of me as less “manly” or “experienced”, even if they say they don’t. They will always know that they’ve experienced sex and I have not if they happen to not be a virgin.
 
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