Going to Confession

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the Ram I’m sorry I missed the line about your son. 😦 Lord I have prayed numerous times for you), I hope you love your online brothers and sisters. Your story is moving…truely. I am praying confession is fun (I love it…see above) I’m confused by your story did you get remarried or am I having a brain fart. I now know your son’s name (great photo) not yours, but will pray with out ceassing for both of you. I will now say a Gloria for you AMEN. Done
Well, i eventually got re-married. I was first married to a person of the United faith…only to find out that it was where he had attended, but never placed his heart. The abuses were bad, and i was so young 18 and he 32. I was married with a special disponsation to remain Catholic. I found this bad information about my husbands preferences on my honeymoon. I was terrified, as it was a very bad amount of beatings i took those weeks, secluded in the woods at his cottage. I did not drive, nor knew where i was at. Even worse…every warning i recieved and would not believe had rung true. I was going to have to face my family, and decided to stop fighting him, so that my bruising would heal. My heart broke on those days and i discovered what crying without sobbing was. No reaction, just hot, uncontrolable steady tears. As long as i was quiet, he did not care how often i cried.

I endured this for almost another three years because when i returned, i was late for my monthly…My son Will was the only love that ever came of my marriage. He was an extension of me and God…nothing more. As it turned out, there was an error in the church documentation…when i filed for my anullment, i found out that by accident, neither church filed the papers…i was free to marry. That was a relief, because i has been on the run from death and abduction attempts. I raise my son up unaware of this, untill he eventually wondered why he was kept from his father…who did not hide his sexual activities from our two year old baby, as well as abuses of a physical and mental capacity.

The courts would not protect him, nor would they believe me or my child…so we fled the province to Cape Breton Nova Scotia where my parents lived. There we found out the information regarding my son being Terminally ill. Once his father found out, he called this 38 lb, 7 year old waif…to tell him he did not want to be his daddy anymore since he was only going to die anyway. At the shock of my sons face startled me, i took the phone where he reiterated the same thing, explaining to me how i should understand this, since he had a problem with imperfection.

He was on the way to all the glory he had gathered, via my father. My father saved this angels heart, his mind and his soul. He taught him how to believe and have faith in Gods plan. He at the age of 16 changed his name to my fathers last name to honour who he believed was his example of a father figure to him. He was so very proud to have done this.

I entered another relationship…had two girls (out of wedlock) as i was terrified to do any documentation anywhere…my ex is an excellent genioligist, and document searching is his speciality, and i was convinced he would do as prommised to his son. He was going to chop me into pieces and bury me in the yard. This was what he told my Will to make him behave on visits.

Eventually, the lifestyle, my conscience and my heart could not take this. I remarried 3 1/2 years ago, and my son walked me down the isle. He stopped me, wispered in my ear that he was happy that i was finally doing it the right way, and that it was my chance to restore my house, home and heart with God.

As it turned out, my current husband reverted to his fathers old ways after we were married, and i am invisable to him, he is not interested in religion, i an gender segrigated, and his only gob is to bring a monthly cheque home. This is why my son stepped up to the plate as a parent with and along side of me. No cost to him, as it was simply his wishes, to have his siblings raised as he was by my father. I could not ever be prouder of this side of him.

He made it, unscathed, and with Christ on his heart and conscience.

Gosh, this is easier than telling the priest…because i can not see your eyes…

Allana
 
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TheRam:
Gosh, this is easier than telling the priest…because i can not see your eyes…

Allana
All you have to tell the priest is the sin. Not a whole lot of sin in your message; he’ll help you. He has already shown you that he is there to help you.
 
No the post was mostly about my son, but the details about the actual acts of degrigation, the choice to follow, to avoid beatings or anger…i was not aware of the consequences of choosing the easier path, at that young age. The person i am today has learned this, and finally will have this addressed. I wonder if the acumulation of such dark deeds harboured in my past are what makes me feel so bad about myself. I feel i am not worth a lot based on my deeds…so who would want me. Unfortunately, this has reflected on my choices in life. Hopefully restoring who i am, and wish to be in my heart of hearts, i will then percieve the world differently, and so to will be treated differently.

It will be a journey discovering this, but i have not gained anything fighting for the preservation of my self worth this far. Actions just might change this.
 
I was baptized in the church but then I was taken out of the church by my own father when I was two years old. I am now 18 and instead of watching Mass on TV like I use to do I am now able to attend Mass in person but the thing is I have never been to a confession. I am really scared to go to a confession even though I know I have plenty of sins and also at the same time I dont know much about confession all I know is that I confess my sins to a priest but that is all I know. I would love to learn more about confession. Audrey
 
chic for Christ:
I was baptized in the church but then I was taken out of the church by my own father when I was two years old. I am now 18 and instead of watching Mass on TV like I use to do I am now able to attend Mass in person but the thing is I have never been to a confession. I am really scared to go to a confession even though I know I have plenty of sins and also at the same time I dont know much about confession all I know is that I confess my sins to a priest but that is all I know. I would love to learn more about confession. Audrey
Audrey, Darlin’! God is working miracles on this thread, isn’t he? You are able to attend Mass now because??? You can drive? You don’t need permission from Mom & Dad? If you have been going to Church, the pastor would LOVE to hear from you personally – perhaps talk to him after Mass, or call him on the phone and explain what you have told us here. You would likely be a candidate for RCIA because you never received First Penance (Confession), or Confirmation. RCIA is technically for people who have not been baptized, but programs generally include people like – and there are MANY people like you!

This time of year is generally when these programs get started, so you won’t have missed much, if anything!

You go, Girl! Cyber-hug comin’ right atcha! Let us know how it works out for you.
 
Audrey,

Check with your parish about RCIA classes. My sister was in the same position as you. When she moved out and started college, she signed up for RCIA and was able to have reconcilliation, make her first communion, and be confirmed. It is really worthwhile. You’ll love it.
 
Someone I know has ADHD issuses has always makes a list/then burns it later, because he says its hard to remember and concentate even if it’s only 2 weeks since last Confession.
 
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TheRam:
No the post was mostly about my son, but the details about the actual acts of degrigation, the choice to follow, to avoid beatings or anger…i was not aware of the consequences of choosing the easier path, at that young age. The person i am today has learned this, and finally will have this addressed. I wonder if the acumulation of such dark deeds harboured in my past are what makes me feel so bad about myself. I feel i am not worth a lot based on my deeds…so who would want me. Unfortunately, this has reflected on my choices in life. Hopefully restoring who i am, and wish to be in my heart of hearts, i will then percieve the world differently, and so to will be treated differently.

It will be a journey discovering this, but i have not gained anything fighting for the preservation of my self worth this far. Actions just might change this.
Ram

I think if you listen carefully you might begin to know who wants you as HE is calling you back to HIM. And you surely should be sorrow for sins but don’t become despondent, hey we all have made bad decisions some just make more than others like me. As long as you are sorry and want to change, change will come if you try and ask GOD for help. And follow the Golden Rule and don’t worry what others think of you. You know I guess in some ways thats why I lector I’m not afraid of what others think of me. (Then again you ought to see the clothes I wear, coordination of clothes is a class I never took.) I first and foremost read for GOD.

Chich for Christ NewAdvent.org and search using confession. And I can’t remeber where my little pocket guides came from, maybe I find them at home latter they should under my rosary and the guide for saying that which I know came form newadvent.org

PS Hello mercygate probably thought I had forgotten this thread.
 
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mercygate:
Audrey, Darlin’! God is working miracles on this thread, isn’t he? You are able to attend Mass now because??? You can drive? You don’t need permission from Mom & Dad? If you have been going to Church, the pastor would LOVE to hear from you personally – perhaps talk to him after Mass, or call him on the phone and explain what you have told us here. You would likely be a candidate for RCIA because you never received First Penance (Confession), or Confirmation. RCIA is technically for people who have not been baptized, but programs generally include people like – and there are MANY people like you!

This time of year is generally when these programs get started, so you won’t have missed much, if anything!

You go, Girl! Cyber-hug comin’ right atcha! Let us know how it works out for you.
Yes God has worked miracles. Thank you I have contacted the church that I will be going to next weekend. They told me to contact them when I move in with my mom and I will be starting RCIA classes the week of October 4. But I will talk to the Priest on Saturday night. Thank you so much. And I will let you know how it goes. cyber hug right back at you.
 
chic for Christ:
Yes God has worked miracles. Thank you I have contacted the church that I will be going to next weekend. They told me to contact them when I move in with my mom and I will be starting RCIA classes the week of October 4. But I will talk to the Priest on Saturday night. Thank you so much. And I will let you know how it goes. cyber hug right back at you.
Y-e-s! I am so proud of how fast and faithfully you responded to this thread…and with answers to your delema…so cool!

RCIA, often drooled when i thought of this class…i need to know all of what they are teaching, but i have had my first communion and confirmation…etc. I think they think i am over educated for the programn…NOT!

Good luck any how, and happy trails to you!!!

Allana
 
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TheRam:
RCIA, often drooled when i thought of this class…i need to know all of what they are teaching, but i have had my first communion and confirmation…etc. I think they think i am over educated for the programn…NOT!

Good luck any how, and happy trails to you!!!

Allana
Allana,

Ask about it. We had someone like you in our class. She was there for her own enrichment, and she loved it.
 
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TheRam:
Y-e-s! I am so proud of how fast and faithfully you responded to this thread…and with answers to your delema…so cool!

RCIA, often drooled when i thought of this class…i need to know all of what they are teaching, but i have had my first communion and confirmation…etc. I think they think i am over educated for the programn…NOT!

Good luck any how, and happy trails to you!!!

Allana
Thank you Allana at the same time I am kinda frightened because I dont like new things so I will need all the prayers that I can get while I am in RCIA.
 
chic for Christ:
Thank you Allana at the same time I am kinda frightened because I dont like new things so I will need all the prayers that I can get while I am in RCIA.
Yo, chic! If you don’t like new things, you’ve come to the right place. Hee, hee. The Church is 2000 years old!
 
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dulcissima:
Allana,

Ask about it. We had someone like you in our class. She was there for her own enrichment, and she loved it.
Really…ok, i thought it was a definate no to that one. I will ask then.

Little Chic, do not wory…as i have learned this week, the fears are of our own making from time thinking of any possibility of things that might go wrong. New things are scary, yes, but it is in simply meeting new people and wondering what their expectations of us are. Stop and think…your all there because you want to learn more and to be closer to god. That has to be a comfort to you, that you are all seekers of knowlege. Some do not find the information, and wonder for years. Grab hold of your God given right to his Word…he died to give us this will and the power of forgivness. It is worth checking out!

And mercygate is so very right, the church is 2000 years old…and has a sense of humour to boot. You wondering will finally be quenched after so many years honey!
 
This was so cute, i had to share this here…
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Lisa4Catholics:
Totally, off topic! This is a funny joke mom of one told me and I wanted to share with you guys!:rotfl: The elderly priest speaking to the younger priest,said," it was a good idea to replace the first four pews with plush bucket theater seats. It worked like a charm. The front of the Church fills first." The young priest nodded, and the old priest continued,“And you told me a little more beat to the music would bring more young people back to church, so I suppose the rock-n-roll gospel choir was a good idea. We are packed to the Balcony.”
“Thankyou, Father,” answered the young priest. “I am pleased you are open to the new ideas of youth.”
"Well,"said the elderly priest,"Iam afraid you’ve gone too far with the drive-through confessional."But, Father,“protested the young priest,“my confessions have nearly doubled since I began that!”
“I know, son,” replied the elderly priest,but the flashing neon sign,Toot n’Tell or Go to Hell’ cannot stay on the Church roof!”:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
 
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TheRam:
Little Chic, do not wory…as i have learned this week, the fears are of our own making from time thinking of any possibility of things that might go wrong. New things are scary, yes, but it is in simply meeting new people and wondering what their expectations of us are. Stop and think…your all there because you want to learn more and to be closer to god. That has to be a comfort to you, that you are all seekers of knowlege. Some do not find the information, and wonder for years. Grab hold of your God given right to his Word…he died to give us this will and the power of forgivness. It is worth checking out!

And mercygate is so very right, the church is 2000 years old…and has a sense of humour to boot. You wondering will finally be quenched after so many years honey!
Thank you so much that has eased my fears some. And yes that is a comfort to me that we are all seekers of knowledge.
 
As a kid (and that was a long time ago!) the Sisters of St. Joseph taught us how to go to confession. We used to go weekly!! (after going to the local movie house to watch the Saturday matinee double feature—I’ve seen the original “King Kong” about 30 times!! LOL). I was always taught to confess all grave sins first and then venial sins. After telling the sins to the priest I would say “For these and all the sins I can’t remember, I am sorry.” (The sisters taught us this!). So if you can’t remember every sin, this tells Our Lord that you are sorry for any that have slipped your mind. Beware though, you can’t use this “catch-all” phrase for any sins you DO remember!!!
Just thought I’d pass this idea on!
God bless…
 
Well, it is official…i did it, and i feel full of Grace…lighter!

Every single word you told me, was right. I simply had to get over my fears of telling a stranger my sins.

However, i was not aware of the mortal sin of not going to church, and ther lac of confession meant that if not confessed, i was not able to enter Gods kingdom. And with this on my plate of sins, i was not rightfully recieving the host…oh what a quandry to be 41, to have never left the church, and not know these things.

I thought that it was simply a more special, or wonderful way to do things, and i was fine with being brave enough to not hide from them and face my Lord daily. I really thought you had a choice, and me being an introvert, i chose to go it alone.

But now i understand, and now it is up to me to get myself there, and confess regularly…this is powerful and thought turning information. I listened to a CD given to me by someone who has helped me dearly on these threads.

It is Father Larry Richards speaking on Confession…put out by The Mary Foundation…that was what tought me the sin/not going to heaven relivance…it turned my world around, and made so much of what other posters urgency meant.

I will never be the same…Thanks be to Gods Mercy!
 
I’ve got another question for comments. Can a non-Catholic go to confession? Would a priest absolve him of his sins if he confessed? Would it be valid? …or is confession ONLY for Catholics??
Comments??
 
Mainelyned

Yes you coulde go to confession but I don not it would complete without your intention of becoming catholic. P’s dont’t believe in it. Don’t think of superstition or covering your bases.

BUT I must say do go to confession and tell a priest where you are, or preferably set up a meeting since if you have never gone to confession it would be best outiside the normal time so he can spend more time with you. DO NOT HOG THE BOX.

TheRAM it seems it went OKAY? Yeh Neh
 
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