Going to easter Mass alone

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It looks like I will be going to easter mass without my husband, and since I live far away from any relatives I don’t have anyone to go with. I feel like crying right now. My husband’s work just asked him today to work until 8:30pm on Saturday and all day Easter. I’m so upset. I mean, he works in a spa but they cant give him time off. Doesn’t family and faith come first? 😦
 
annie17on12 said:
It looks like I will be going to easter mass without my husband, and since I live far away from any relatives I don’t have anyone to go with. I feel like crying right now. My husband’s work just asked him today to work until 8:30pm on Saturday and all day Easter. I’m so upset. I mean, he works in a spa but they cant give him time off. Doesn’t family and faith come first? 😦
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I think brining home a paycheck is putting family first. If your husband needs to work, he needs to work. Sometimes one can turn these things down, sometimes one can’t.

So you go to separate masses, or he doesn’t go due to work. I am not sure why that would make you want to cry or be upset? :confused:
 
I’m sorry that you won’t be able to go to Easter Mass with your husband. Is it possible for the two of you to find a very early Mass? 7 am perhaps? In the event you can’t go together keep in mind that many people will be there alone. Church is full of women (and men) who for various reasons wind up alone at Mass. I will be sitting alone also because my husband is in the choir. The important thing is that you will be there rejoicing in the day. Take that time to pray for your husband and try to make the best of it. Christos Anesti ( Happy Easter)
 
I go to Mass alone all the time. At least for you it’s just this one time.
 
You’re not alone. You are with your brothers and sisters in Christ,.
GO.
No matter what. Think of all the familiarizes of mixed faith They don’t mope, they worship.
It’s fine. God knows your intentions and situation.
 
annie17on12 said:
It looks like I will be going to easter mass without my husband, and since I live far away from any relatives I don’t have anyone to go with. I feel like crying right now. My husband’s work just asked him today to work until 8:30pm on Saturday and all day Easter. I’m so upset. I mean, he works in a spa but they cant give him time off. Doesn’t family and faith come first? 😦
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if your husband is Catholic, I would be more upset that he his missing Mass because of his work. Can you two get to the Easter Vigil (late) on Saturday night? The one in my parish doesn’t start until 8:00pm. Have you checked other parishes for different Mass times that will fit into his schedule? There might be an early morning Mass, on Sunday, somewhere else that you can attend.
 
Catholic1954 said:
if your husband is Catholic, I would be more upset that he his missing Mass because of his work. Can you two get to the Easter Vigil (late) on Saturday night? The one in my parish doesn’t start until 8:00pm. Have you checked other parishes for different Mass times that will fit into his schedule? There might be an early morning Mass, on Sunday, somewhere else that you can attend.
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I don’t attend there but what would be considered my territorial parish is having Easter Masses on Sat at 4 pm and the Great Vigil at 6p. Another nearby parish is having their usual 4pm and 530p Sat Masses along with the Solemn Vigil at 7p. But anyway, when I attended Mass in the past, I usually went alone.
 
annie17on12 said:
It looks like I will be going to easter mass without my husband, and since I live far away from any relatives I don’t have anyone to go with. I feel like crying right now. My husband’s work just asked him today to work until 8:30pm on Saturday and all day Easter. I’m so upset. I mean, he works in a spa but they cant give him time off. Doesn’t family and faith come first? 😦
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some parishes have quite late vigils. for example, ours start at 9 PM. maybe you could find one of those? or an early sunday morning mass, or sunday evening mass, depending on when he gets off

it is Easter,i think it is important for your husband to go to mass if at all possible, even if he has to work
 
Sy_Noe said:
I don’t attend there but what would be considered my territorial parish is having Easter Masses on Sat at 4 pm and the Great Vigil at 6p. Another nearby parish is having their usual 4pm and 530p Sat Masses along with the Solemn Vigil at 7p. But anyway, when I attended Mass in the past, I usually went alone.
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Wait! Regular Mass on Holy Saturday?? There’s no “usual Mass” on Holy Saturday, there is just the Easter Vigil which is supposed to start after dark.
 
My husband always ushers at Easter Mass,so essentially I am alone as well but not really.Surrounded by my brothers and sisters in Christ🙏
 
Last Easter my wife and children were away staying at her parents. I did miss them but during Mass it was lovely not having to tell the children to be quiet and I could immerse myself completely in the Mass.
 
Sadly, I don’t think half the people I know at church know that I am married! But I understand that if you are used to having someone with you at Mass, it can feel lonely, esp. when others are with their husbands/families. Just say some extra prayers for your husband, and enjoy your fellow parishioners. Have a blessed Easter!
 
I have the opposite problem. I have to go to the vigil with a squirmy pre-schooler and a belligerent toddler and my husband is the choir director and will be no help at all. I kind of wish I could go alone because I love the Vigil so much and it makes me feel so close to Jesus. I’ll pray for you if you pray for me! Too bad you can’t go to Mass at my parish! You could hold one of my kids! Also, is drugging your kids with Benedryl so they’ll fall asleep during an Easter Vigil a venial or a mortal sin?
 
Nelka said:
Last Easter my wife and children were away staying at her parents. I did miss them but during Mass it was lovely not having to tell the children to be quiet and I could immerse myself completely in the Mass.
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I know! I’m off from work today, so our nanny stayed late last night so we could go to Holy Thursday Mass. I was happy that I was finally able to pay attention, but then something was missing by not having my kids there! Sigh. You just can’t win!
 
I was single till this past year when I got married at 41. I went to all holiday masses alone.
 
I’ve been to Mass many times when I wished my husband were there, since he worked in a hospital for years and even had to work Christmas sometimes. It is a bit of a bummer, but worse for him than for me, for sure!

Even if it is just you and the priest, you’re not alone. I’d feel worse for the poor husband not able to go to Mass on Easter morning with his wife, since he is both without his wife and without Mass and is instead having to work on Easter morning. I hope he’s able to go to the Easter Vigil (since many parishes cancel their Sunday evening Masses on Easter for lack of interest and because the priests are exhausted).
 
annie17on12 said:
It looks like I will be going to easter mass without my husband, and since I live far away from any relatives I don’t have anyone to go with. I feel like crying right now. My husband’s work just asked him today to work until 8:30pm on Saturday and all day Easter. I’m so upset. I mean, he works in a spa but they cant give him time off. Doesn’t family and faith come first? 😦
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I said a prayer for you and your husband. I agree that not being able to worship as a family together on Pascha is something worthy of being upset about.
 
angelic06 said:
I said a prayer for you and your husband. I agree that not being able to worship as a family together on Pascha is something worthy of being upset about.
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Thank you for your empathy. This is our first Easter together as a married couple. And times have been really hard for me lately. This situation has been solved though.

For those questioning my reaction to going to mass alone, I am unemployed and agoraphobic (and despite that I do go to mass alone since he works every weekend). It is an incredibly heavy cross to bear since, If I leave the house, I basically feel like Im going to get mugged if I don’t have my husband with me. I contacted some therapists but none have worked out yet. Im waiting for another to reply. Please keep me in your prayers. Im really lonely during the day and this situation was just about to break my heart. It kills me that Im unwell like I am. Ive prayed all my life for God to heal me, but I guess not yet. I’m tired of people labeling me as “crazy” instead of my true identity as a daughter of God. Im not looking for people here to solve my problems. But some general kindness would be better than insensitivity. 😊
 
annie17on12 said:
Thank you for your empathy. This is our first Easter together as a married couple. And times have been really hard for me lately. This situation has been solved though.

For those questioning my reaction to going to mass alone, I am unemployed and agoraphobic (and despite that I do go to mass alone since he works every weekend). It is an incredibly heavy cross to bear since, If I leave the house, I basically feel like Im going to get mugged if I don’t have my husband with me. I contacted some therapists but none have worked out yet. Im waiting for another to reply. Please keep me in your prayers. Im really lonely during the day and this situation was just about to break my heart. It kills me that Im unwell like I am. Ive prayed all my life for God to heal me, but I guess not yet. I’m tired of people labeling me as “crazy” instead of my true identity as a daughter of God. Im not looking for people here to solve my problems. But some general kindness would be better than insensitivity. 😊
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I’m very sorry. I didn’t mean to question the feelings you were having. Sometimes it* is *possible to “switch your noodle” when you’re feeling disappointed about a situation, and it isn’t automatically uncaring to suggest that. It is a kindness to be told when we need to change our own outlook, if that is indeed the best way to meet the particular challenge in the best possible way for everyone concerned.

Many times, though, that suggestion is far too facile, to the point of being insensitive. I think this falls in the category that is deplored in the Letter of St. James: If a brother or sister has nothing to wear and has no food for the day, and one of you says to them, “Go in peace, keep warm, and eat well,” but you do not give them the necessities of the body, what good is it?" (James 2:15-16) It was insensitive to fail to include any recognition of that obvious truth. I hope you’ll accept my apologies.

On that note, however, there are people out there who are truly and unquestionably suffering from a mental illness even to the point of being psychotic. Some have distressing symptoms that are difficult or even impossible to eradicate. Giving those conditions a label does not make the persons suffering the conditions into lesser persons. Those labels indicate the kind of treatments and accommodations those persons truly deserve to have, the kind of accommodations that would be selfish for someone else to insist on having. They, too, are children of God, just as fully as someone who only needs accommodation for their tendency to sin in spite of having the grace and strength to do better.
 
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