Good Friday Wedding?

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Should I attend my friend’s wedding on Good Friday?

She is not Catholic, the ceremony is not Catholic. It is actually being held at 2:00!! I will be in church for Good Friday service at that time but should I go to the reception? The two menu choices are both meat. I actually told her I would not be able to attend but then she seemed upset and told me her other "Catholic’ friends were attending and saw no problem with it. What do you think?🤷
 
I’d sound her out about having a no-meat option - does she think NO-ONE there is going to be vegetarian or vegan??? Or else just want a vego option (I have done on airplanes, because it’s usually the least awful type of airline food).
 
If u go, just eat whatever non-meat part of the meal that you can. You’ll be fasting anyway on Good Friday, right?
 
Why the heck would anyone choose Good Friday for a wedding day? I can’t think of a worse way to slap the face of the Lord. But, just my own opinion. Whether right or wrong, if it were me, I think I’d have to graciously decline the invitation but do send a gift. Good friday is a day of deep prayer and to go dancing at a wedding would be a total disregard for the remembrance of the day our Lord and Savior died for us. It’s not an appropriate day for celebrating.

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Thank you all for the reponses. I did originally decline and I will keep it at that. When my friend chose that day she did not realize it was Good Friday. I just cannot imagine myself enjoying the wedding at all. I will attend the wedding shower and give her a gift. I truly do appreciate your opinions. Thank you again.
 
GUPPIE said:
Thank you all for the reponses. I did originally decline and I will keep it at that. When my friend chose that day she did not realize it was Good Friday. I just cannot imagine myself enjoying the wedding at all. I will attend the wedding shower and give her a gift. I truly do appreciate your opinions. Thank you again.
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Dear me. It’s almost two months - does she have no option to change the date?
 
She has people flying in from out of town and all of her plans are in place. She is not Catholic so I don’t know how important it is to her to be honest. I am dissapointed because she is a nice girl. She is an example of youth today - just uninformed.
 
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She has people flying in from out of town and all of her plans are in place. She is not Catholic so I don’t know how important it is to her to be honest. I am dissapointed because she is a nice girl. She is an example of youth today - just uninformed.
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If she’s Christian she should know the significance of Good Friday, and it should be very important indeed. Over here in Oz Christians of all stripes will have either a public Way of the Cross or some sort of commemoration of the Passion, and it gets reported on. So it’s not to do with youth, just a lack of interest in the important events of Christianity.

Good Friday is a public holiday here as well, and anyone wanting to travel on or around that day would have to pay a lot more than usual, so it’d be known and commented on 😉 Don’t know how things work in your neck of the woods.
 
Well here in the States things are pretty diverse. I just don’t think some Christians view Good Friday as important as us Catholics. My friend says she is a Christian but she is not very religeous. This is a very sad truth in my opinion. My friend has told me a couple of times that she just does not understand the Catholic way of thinking. It is odd to me actually how many people in my workplace “respect” other religions (I work with a girl who is Hindu and have worked with an Islamic girl) but Catholics are treated so horribly, like we are odd ducks.
 
My cousin, who was raised Catholic, got married on Good Friday. He is very wealthy and had a huge, extravagant wedding (obviously not a church wedding). Luckily I had an excuse, my hubby was coming into the church that Easter Vigil and the wedding was out of state. I was honestly apalled that anyone would consider getting married on Good Friday. My parents happily attended because he is the “prince” of the family. You know the one person in the family who can do no wrong. It was telling that he was divorced about a year later.
 
I think many non-catholic communities consider themselves saints, e.g. Latter Day Saints, thus they focus on Easter and Resurrection and avoid the cross.

The Catholic Church is the Church of the Latter Day Sinners. If one gets through Good Friday, Jesus will get him to Easter 😉
 
It boggles my mind that any Christian would even consider getting married on Good Friday. Even if one of my siblings were to be getting married on Good Friday I would not attend. It’s not a matter of ‘will there be a non meat course at the reception?’ If a person is going to attend a wedding on Good Friday what’s the point of not eating meat at the reception? That’s a bit like the man who contracted HIV by sleeping with truck-stop prostitutes not using a condom because it is against the teaching of the Catholic Church. :mad:

I know that you have declined the invitation but I was angry and wanted to vent.
 
GUPPIE said:
I tried submitting this question to the Apologists but did not get an answer.

Should I attend my friend’s wedding on Good Friday?

She is not Catholic, the ceremony is not Catholic. It is actually being held at 2:00!! I will be in church for Good Friday service at that time but should I go to the reception? The two menu choices are both meat. I actually told her I would not be able to attend but then she seemed upset and told me her other "Catholic’ friends were attending and saw no problem with it. What do you think?🤷
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I am not sure you should attend her wedding at all. She may not be Catholic and the ceremony might not be Catholic, but is her intended spouse Catholic? Was he baptised Catholic and has fallen away from the Church?

There are a lot of reasons why some weddings should not be attended by Catholics and you might want to investigate this more.
 
It just sounds crazy to me to have a wedding on Good Friday. Even when I was a Baptist, it would never occur to any of us from my old church to have a Good Friday wedding. Even if she didn’t know it’s Good Friday, certainly her church knew!

I know it can be confusing knowing from year to year when Good Friday and Easter will be. But didn’t it occur to her at all that a spring wedding on a Friday might involve Good Friday? The correct dates are just a Google away.
 
GUPPIE said:
Thank you all for the reponses. I did originally decline and I will keep it at that. When my friend chose that day she did not realize it was Good Friday. I just cannot imagine myself enjoying the wedding at all. I will attend the wedding shower and give her a gift. I truly do appreciate your opinions. Thank you again.
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GUPPIE said:
She has people flying in from out of town and all of her plans are in place. She is not Catholic so I don’t know how important it is to her to be honest. I am dissapointed because she is a nice girl. She is an example of youth today - just uninformed.
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GUPPIE said:
Well here in the States things are pretty diverse. I just don’t think some Christians view Good Friday as important as us Catholics. My friend says she is a Christian but she is not very religeous. This is a very sad truth in my opinion. My friend has told me a couple of times that she just does not understand the Catholic way of thinking. It is odd to me actually how many people in my workplace “respect” other religions (I work with a girl who is Hindu and have worked with an Islamic girl) but Catholics are treated so horribly, like we are odd ducks.
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The mere thought of a Christian having a wedding on Good Friday absolutely boggles my mind. I would assume, though, from the above posts that this is a purely civil wedding.

In all the Protestant denominations I have had contact with a Good Friday wedding would simply not happen. Although I must admit my experience is in South Africa, not the USA, but still 🤷

Some years ago I worked as a secretary at our church and had regular conact with the secretaries of the other denominations (a small town with only one congregation of each denomination), we all agreed that our respective clergy had enough stress to handle in the week before Easter (even those who do not see that week as Holy Week) and had no energy for any extras that could be avoided or rescheduled, this included cancelling the monthly Ministers’ Fraternal meeting if it fell in Holy Week. Is there really a priest/pastor who has agreed to something so outrageous?
 
I cannot imagine even a non-Catholic church scheduling a wedding on Good Friday.
 
Having a part of pentecostal churches and non-denominational churches, I can attest that Good Friday gets just a nod. As I was being drawn into the Church, one year I crept into the back of an Anglican church (sometimes more catholic than we are!) and participated in a good Friday service. My heart lept!

Later my husband said something to the effect that if I was going to do something like that, then why not go all the way into the Catholic church. The light bulb went on and the journey sped forward.

Back to Good Friday though… for those churches, other than recognizing the day is Good Friday, they have no religious services in commemoration of the day. Shoot… I remember being part of a worship team and the week b4 Easter haing the pastor say “Gee, next week is Easter. What do you think we ought to do that would be cool?”

Glad to be Catholic!!!

Pam
 
Thank you ALL for your passionate responses. It was what I was looking for. I knew in my heart I could not attend but I guess I was looking for support in my decision. Her fiance’ is also not religeous. They will remain in my prayers.
 
GUPPIE said:
I tried submitting this question to the Apologists but did not get an answer.

Should I attend my friend’s wedding on Good Friday?

She is not Catholic, the ceremony is not Catholic. It is actually being held at 2:00!! I will be in church for Good Friday service at that time but should I go to the reception? The two menu choices are both meat. I actually told her I would not be able to attend but then she seemed upset and told me her other "Catholic’ friends were attending and saw no problem with it. What do you think?🤷
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You can go yaar … Go and tell to her your wishes and better dont eat. Take nice gift and enjoy the reception…🙂
 
Personally, I would send a nice gift. Wish her well, and offer to get together with her after she returns from her honeymoon. Whatever you do, begin your conversation with a prayer to the Holy Spirit to put the kindest words in your mouth without compromising your own beliefs for this solemn occasion.

True friends would accept that response without being upset.
 
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