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Klemens_Hadwig
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Annie, I truly sympathise with you. I was in a similar situation, as I wondered how I would ever find somebody.
Reading you original post, I see that you appear to have discovered one of life’s secrets; even those who seem decent are usually quite ‘undesirable’.
Let’s face it; the world is a terrible place. There is suffering in this world and it affects everybody. Unfortunately, some will desire marriage, but never see their desire fulfilled. I am not saying that this is your future. I simply want you to know that this is a possibility.
Please forgive me if I sound rather harsh, but I say these things only to help you.
Dwelling on your ‘loss’ will only lead to depressed feelings. We must live beyond this reality of ‘unfulfilled desire’. Think about Tolstoy’s character Prince Andrei Bolkonskiy. He lost his wife (Liz) and his future spouse (Natasha), betrayed him for a scandalous man (Kuragin). In short, his love life would have thrown most men into suicide. Yet, Bolkonskiy still found happiness and peace, all in the absence of romantic ‘satisfaction’.
I realise that you must be in a lull. I was in a similar state not too long ago. Just remember a few things. First, be grateful that you have been spared entanglement in the affairs of the world. In a way, you are above the other ‘fools’ who have surrendered to their desires.
Likewise, Annie, be grateful for your freedom. You can commit yourself to whatever you are driven to do. ‘Marry’ yourself to that cause, as long as it is a moral cause and does not counteract the faith. Also, remember that should you marry another person, your ambitions will probably be seconded to other commitments.
Finally, there is a good quotation from a film, ‘We’ll live till Monday’ (Доживём до понедельника); ‘Love is bad… keep your distance so as to not cry later.’
That quote should remind you that in a corrupted world like our own, the emotion of love can become a poison rather than a blessing. Keep your distance, work toward higher goals, and hold your head high.
Unfortunately, salvation is not frequently referred to ‘becoming like God’ (theosis). I think this imagery better conveys the reality of a virtuous existence.
Thus, from my understanding, should you rise above the ruins of ‘romantic exploits’, unfulfilled desires, and conformity to a broken society, you will be like God, tall and unhindered by this world.
I offer these words from my experience. However, consider that this disillusioned Slav still has much to learn.
Reading you original post, I see that you appear to have discovered one of life’s secrets; even those who seem decent are usually quite ‘undesirable’.
Let’s face it; the world is a terrible place. There is suffering in this world and it affects everybody. Unfortunately, some will desire marriage, but never see their desire fulfilled. I am not saying that this is your future. I simply want you to know that this is a possibility.
Please forgive me if I sound rather harsh, but I say these things only to help you.
Dwelling on your ‘loss’ will only lead to depressed feelings. We must live beyond this reality of ‘unfulfilled desire’. Think about Tolstoy’s character Prince Andrei Bolkonskiy. He lost his wife (Liz) and his future spouse (Natasha), betrayed him for a scandalous man (Kuragin). In short, his love life would have thrown most men into suicide. Yet, Bolkonskiy still found happiness and peace, all in the absence of romantic ‘satisfaction’.
I realise that you must be in a lull. I was in a similar state not too long ago. Just remember a few things. First, be grateful that you have been spared entanglement in the affairs of the world. In a way, you are above the other ‘fools’ who have surrendered to their desires.
Likewise, Annie, be grateful for your freedom. You can commit yourself to whatever you are driven to do. ‘Marry’ yourself to that cause, as long as it is a moral cause and does not counteract the faith. Also, remember that should you marry another person, your ambitions will probably be seconded to other commitments.
Finally, there is a good quotation from a film, ‘We’ll live till Monday’ (Доживём до понедельника); ‘Love is bad… keep your distance so as to not cry later.’
That quote should remind you that in a corrupted world like our own, the emotion of love can become a poison rather than a blessing. Keep your distance, work toward higher goals, and hold your head high.
Unfortunately, salvation is not frequently referred to ‘becoming like God’ (theosis). I think this imagery better conveys the reality of a virtuous existence.
Thus, from my understanding, should you rise above the ruins of ‘romantic exploits’, unfulfilled desires, and conformity to a broken society, you will be like God, tall and unhindered by this world.
I offer these words from my experience. However, consider that this disillusioned Slav still has much to learn.
