Go to church. A bad order from authority is null and void.
Talk to your parents about this, not strangers.
How would you be dishonoring your parents by fulfilling your obligation to go to Mass?
It’s okay my dad ended up letting me go.
:clapping::dancing:Glad you got to go.It’s okay my dad ended up letting me go.
The OP can also ask his or her pastor about the situation. When the priest knows what the situation is, he can tell the OP the circumstances under which the pastor grants a dispensation and when he doesn’t. He may also know some places that offer Masses at times that the OP does not know. Just because Mass is over at one’s home parish does not mean there isn’t a Mass that can be found somewhere else nearby.Glad you got to go.
Imo, if you are underage, you should not disobey you’re parents in order to go to Mass. Definitely do everything you can respectfully to get their permission, but don’t disrespect them or battle with them about it. Pray for God to soften their hearts, but always, always honor your parents. God will take care of the rest.
Good! Next time, make your plans ahead of time and then just GO.
No. If the OP is a minor child she should not be advised to just leave the house and go somewhere if her parents have told her no. That’s called sneaking out or running away. It’s wrong, it’s dangerous, and it’s irresponsible to tell a child to do so.She didn’t say her parents had told her “no.” She assumed her parents would not let her go. I do not know that she is a minor child, she hasn’t said. If her parents are Catholic they are under the same obligation that she is, to attend Mass every week even if someone is in from out of town. That is NOT running away. Believe me, I know the difference.
According to the OP’s public profile, the OP does not turn 17 until July. She is old enough to leave the house according to previously set-up rules–“If you want to go to Mass on Sundays and I’m not up yet, you may go, but only if you drive directly to church and directly back”–but not old enough to be driving herself around without letting her parents know where she is, who she is with, and when she will be back. Actually, at our house, all the adults in the house let at least one other one know all of that, and that included my MIL, who was still capable of living alone. You’re never too old to run into trouble, disappear, and to desperately need someone to know when and where to start looking for you.
I think it’s a pretty standard rule that kids can’t pick up the keys and just leave the house without telling anyone because they assume that if they ask they will be told no. At least every parent I know has that rule. If it were my kids I would freak out if they just took the car and left without telling me where they were going. I would stay home and call everyone I knew and my husband would go out looking for her. And the end result would be a severe grounding and no more mass for a very long time.
BEL, you’re not a Catholic. The OP and her parents ARE Catholic, and thus they are ALL obligated to attend Mass every Sunday (or Sat. vigil) NO EXCEPTIONS unless they are ill or otherwise involuntarily indisposed. So making up false situations just isn’t helpful. She is obligated to attend Mass. You can’t ground someone from fulfilling an obligation. And if 2 Catholic parents disciplined their child for attending Mass?
You don’t think that would happen? Obviously if she thinks that her parents wouldn’t let her go to mass because her grandparents are in town then they are obviously not Catholic or lapsed. Yes, they would discipline her just like I hope you would have disciplined your sons for taking the keys and leaving without telling you where they were going. Heck, I think even a lot of practicing Catholic parents would be angry with their kids for just leaving without saying anything even if they did go to mass. Parents don’t deserve to worry about their kids like that.
Wrong line of thought. And I am posting this to correct your use of upper-case.
So you didn’t mean that she should leave without telling them, just that when they say ‘no’ she should go anyway? Yeah, that’s the kind of behavior that minors shouldn’t be encouraged to engage in. They are her parents, they have the right and responsibility to set rules and limits about where she can go and when. Honestly, the line “No, I’m sorry but you can’t leave tonight; your grandmother is in town and we are going to do X with her as a family” is not out of line.Wrong line of thought. And I am posting this to correct your use of upper-case.
I would ask my sons to let me know where they were going, but if it were 5 pm on Saturday evening, I think I could rightly assume they were going to Mass. I would never punish my sons for going to Mass, confession, adoration, to speak to a priest, etc. Even if they forgot to tell me where they were going.
We’re not going to agree on this. The OP said in previous posts that her parents ARE Catholic and it really doesn’t matter if they are lapsed or not. They are still under the obligation and should understand that she is as well.
Besides, where did I ever say that she should not tell them where she was going? I said, “Just go,” by which I mean, “Do not let your parents’ plans get in the way of meeting your obligation.” She assumed they would “probably” not let her go to Mass, but she was wrong, her father allowed her to go.
Why are we arguing about this??
Good! Next time, make your plans ahead of time and then just GO.
BEL
OK, dear, I’m going to lay it out once more and then unsubscribe to this thread. The OP has told us that she did get to go to Mass so I have no idea why you are so up in arms about something that didn’t even happen.