Guys, if you could be married and a priest would you?

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20% have some homosexual orientation-twice the presumed rate in the general population. Half of these are sexually active-twice the rate of heterosexual priests. These figures are quite low in comparison with other current “guestimates” some of which talk of a 75% gay clergy population in certain dioceses. If present trends continue, the majority will be homosexual by 2010 A.D.
“Presumed” is right – by homosexual activists. 3.8% is closer to the truth according to Gallop polling. Even that sounds high to me: http://news.gallup.com/poll/183383/americans-greatly-overestimate-percent-gay-lesbian.aspx

Such misinformation in the first bullet you provided casts doubt on your entire posting.
 
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How reliable are these statistics?
The data sources are listed in my response, though keep in mind that a sample of 1500 individuals represents a small fraction of the church.
The sample, however, was really 1000 priests (the other 500 are people who had relationships with priests). I would assert that it’s not statistically valid to rely on their testimony. So, what we’re left with is a sample of 1000 priests, half of whom are in therapy (presumably) for their struggles living chaste and/or celibate lives.

Moreover, you’re saying that these statistics come from A.W. Richard Sipe? He’s the Benedictine who left the priesthood in order to marry, isn’t he? I would hope for a more impartial source, in the hopes that confirmation bias wouldn’t seep into his conclusions… 🤷‍♂️
These statistics were found to be reliable enough that they have been cited by the US Conference of Catholic Bishops.
These particular statistics? Do you have a citation we can look up?
 
not sure how relevant this is to the discussion; but, Jesus did say that if a person can forgo marriage and the sexual relations that accompany marriage for the Kingdom of God, they should do so.

to me, that means that celibacy, for those who are called to it, is a supernatural gift superior to the married life. Jesus said if you can live a celibate life for the right reason, you should.

i believe that giving one’s life for the Gospel is a great gift and the Church allowing only men who are called to do that become priests makes the Church stronger and more holy.
 
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Once ordained, priests have never been allowed to marry, East or West.
That is not true. There have been exceptions to this rule. For example, if a Russian Orthodox priest has a large family with several young children and his wife dies, then it has been known that in Russia that priest may possibly be allowed to move to the countryside and remarry.
 
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I keep misreading this thread title, thinking it says, “Guys, if you could be married to a priest, would you?”

When it’s phrased that way, I immediately think of this: (Please Note: This uploaded content is no longer available.)
 
I’ve heard thus anecdotally, but I haven’t never seem a shred of evidence or any details about specific cases whatsoever. And I have searched for details, on English Andrew in Russian. If true, it would certainly have been an anomaly.
 
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There is also a case of a Roman Catholic priest in India who married after ordination and left the Catholic Church, but joined the Orthodox Church and continued as a married priest in the Orthodox Church.
 
There is also a case of a Roman Catholic priest in India who married after ordination and left the Catholic Church, but joined the Orthodox Church and continued as a married priest in the Orthodox Church.
What does that prove? You recently mentioned that Rodrigo Borgia fathered children out of wedlock while he was a cardinal. All that proves is that he sinned. It doesn’t prove that the Church allowed/allows clerics to get married and have kids.

A few years back Auxiliary Bishop Gabino Zavala of Los Angeles admitted to fathering children outside of wedlock while a priest of the archdiocese. Again, all that it means is that he sinned.

Your latest story sounds like a soul who lied about his life to join one of the Orthodox state churches as a cleric. Again, what does that prove – other than he lied about being married and having kids?
 
There is also a case of a Roman Catholic priest in India who married after ordination and left the Catholic Church, but joined the Orthodox Church and continued as a married priest in the Orthodox Church.
Apples and oranges.

Did the Orthodox accept his Catholic ordination as valid, or did they ordain him themselves?
There is also a case of a Roman Catholic priest in India who married after ordination and left the Catholic Church, but joined the Orthodox Church and continued as a married priest in the Orthodox Church.
In the Catholic Church, if a man who is married and has children becomes a deacon, and his wife passes away, and he is a widower with young children, he can petition for permission to marry again (for the sake of the children). This is not a problem, as clerical celibacy is a discipline. However, in the general case, it is not permitted.
 
don’t join one of the Eastern Rite Catholic Churches that allow for married men to be ordained priests?
Because if they were honest and said they wanted to join an EC church because they felt called to the vocation of marriage and the priesthood, they would be rejected for membership. That’s not a valid reason to change rites.
 
There’s absolutely no reason the sacraments of Marriage and Holy Orders can’t be on one person
 
No.

I’m just not sociable enough to even consider being a priest, regardless of how much they relaxed the rules.

You have to be on-point all the time, conduct public ceremonies every day, listen to the hierarchy as to where and when you’ll be living and working.

Its tough even for a single man, I think it would be exceptionally difficult for a married man with a wife and children. If the man is a priest in Pittsburgh and his missus gets an opportunity to work in Texas, they can’t do it. When the priest later has grandchildren, and the kids move to Florida or Utah or wherever, he can’t move to be close to the kids even if he’s in his 60’s.

The current situation seems to be the most practical.
 
No.

I’m just not sociable enough to even consider being a priest, regardless of how much they relaxed the rules.

You have to be on-point all the time, conduct public ceremonies every day, listen to the hierarchy as to where and when you’ll be living and working.

Its tough even for a single man, I think it would be exceptionally difficult for a married man with a wife and children. If the man is a priest in Pittsburgh and his missus gets an opportunity to work in Texas, they can’t do it. When the priest later has grandchildren, and the kids move to Florida or Utah or wherever, he can’t move to be close to the kids even if he’s in his 60’s.

The current situation seems to be the most practical.
The current situation is more practical but your reasons aren’t very good. Most military men remain in untl their late 60’s and they are subject to the very thing that you talk about—being constantly under orders.
 
The current situation is more practical but your reasons aren’t very good. Most military men remain in untl their late 60’s and they are subject to the very thing that you talk about—being constantly under orders.
Nah. Not an expert, but 20 years is a long military career. My baby brother got out in the last year or two after about 14 years (I believe he’s still in the reserves, though). He was in his early 30s by the time he got out of active duty.
 
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The current situation is more practical but your reasons aren’t very good. Most military men remain in untl their late 60’s and they are subject to the very thing that you talk about—being constantly under orders.
Nah. Not an expert, but 20 years is a long military career. My baby brother got out in the last year or two after about 14 years (I believe he’s still in the reserves, though). He was in his early 30s by the time he got out of active duty.
I have family in the military. Lack of being active duty and sent away to foreign lands doesn’t mean the military doesn’t still own you. My uncle did get a choice of post, but he’s still in the military 100%. You can retire as early as 37, after 20 years, but many choose to remain in–especally those who joined in their mid-20’s as an officer post-college.
 
Catholics who are for this need to do some research. It isn’t a magical solution. Just ask the wives of Protestant ministers.
 
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Actually a lot of military men bail earlier than their 60s and get jobs in the private sector. The defense contractor I used to work at had quite a few.
 
If the Pope wanted it, I’d agree to it on a trial basis, but if after a few years we weren’t seeing a significant increase in numbers it would have to be scrapped.
 
Actually a lot of military men bail earlier than their 60s and get jobs in the private sector. The defense contractor I used to work at had quite a few.
While they can bail my point is that there are other jobs where one’s adult life is not one’s own, which makes it a poor argument against the married priesthood. Not that there aren’t any valid arguments…there are many. These just aren’t that.
 
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