Hair, Jewellery and Make Up

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Fascinating people. Actually I originally trained in classical ballet at a high level so now I have gone from the sublime etc… But chuckling imagining going out in the gale and heavy rain made up etc…

These last weeks, too unwell to bother getting dressed and that is fine too… the cats and dog are not worried!

I think the last time I went to a hairdresser was when I was at university… dear Lord! well over 50 years ago! oh MY!
 
I’ll wear the same pair of earrings for months, almost never paint my nails, and barely ever wear makeup. If I do, I usually just put on some lipstick and mascara. I look good without makeup and am too lazy to be bothered about picking out new earrings every day or touching up my nail polish every time it chips. My mother, on the other hand, puts on a full face of makeup every morning.
 
Rosebud77 said:
Fascinating people. Actually I originally trained in classical ballet at a high level so now I have gone from the sublime etc… But chuckling imagining going out in the gale and heavy rain made up etc…

These last weeks, too unwell to bother getting dressed and that is fine too… the cats and dog are not worried!

I think the last time I went to a hairdresser was when I was at university… dear Lord! well over 50 years ago! oh MY!
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I live in Utah and many women here are over the top wearing hair extensions, high heels, false eyelashes…and that’s to the grocery store!
 
lax16 said:
I can see stream-lining one’s beauty routine for convenience and cost purposes.

However, if I were single, I would not streamline too much. Not sure if you are single, but if so, I would keep coloring my hair and wearing make-up. Jewelry not necessary.
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😃 That made me think of the old song The Unfortunate Man by the Chad Mitchell Trio:
Now all you young men who would marry for life
Be sure to examine your intended wife
Remember the lawyer who trusted his eyes
And a little bit later got quite a surprise
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Read more at songlyrics.com/chad-mitchell-trio/the-unfortunate-man-lyrics/#iCzjsEHKCcmXLIp0.99
 
Bonnie said:
When I was able to wear contacts people noticed my eyes - not so much with glasses. 😉
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😃 I too wear glasses–can’t wear contacts. So, I’ve learned how to apply eye make-up so my eyes show up well under them. It’s a matter of brightening the area around the eyes since glasses cast a shadow. I also keep my glass frames simple, so people don’t notice them instead of my eyes.

For me it isn’t a matter of whether or not to wear make-up, jewelry, coloring hair, decent clothes (not expensive, but ones that fit me well), etc. All those things are merely make a nice presentation. They should enhance our natural beauty, not distract from it by attracting undue attention. It’s an art–one that is learned like any other. 🙂

And it doesn’t take a lot of time to learn how or get it right, either. At each stage of our lives, as our bodies change, such things change along with it. I haven’t found it difficult to keep up with what is appropriate for my age and body type. It only takes a little effort, after all. 😉
 
lax16 said:
That’s hilarious!!

My advice would be to remove the make-up, wig, glass eye and peg leg when husband is away at the law office and keep it on when going to bed! 😉
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I need to get copies of my old records on cds. I miss hearing those old songs.

Tho I now have the tune to The Unfortunate Man stuck in my head! 😃
 
lax16 said:
I can see stream-lining one’s beauty routine for convenience and cost purposes.

However, if I were single, I would not streamline too much. Not sure if you are single, but if so, I would keep coloring my hair and wearing make-up. Jewelry not necessary.
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Let’s clarify: it is one thing to dress as if you never go out when you don’t in fact ever go out. That is not to say, however, that you should feel free to dress or keep yourself up worse because you already have a husband. Make-up isn’t necessary, jewelry isn’t necessary, but the amount of self-care that you’d expect of yourself if you were trying to win your man? That is necessary. We can’t take care of ourselves as if we take our husbands’ attentions for granted.

Actually, I’d say that those who are married ought to take their husband’s impression of their efforts quite seriously. If a husband is disappointed that his wife doesn’t do more in the way of her own grooming than she does, that is not a good sign. Maybe she needs him to pitch in so she’ll have the time and energy to do it, but being mutually interested in staying attractive to the other is important.
 
EasterJoy said:
Let’s clarify: it is one thing to dress as if you never go out when you don’t in fact ever go out. That is not to say, however, that you should feel free to dress or keep yourself up worse because you already have a husband. Make-up isn’t necessary, jewelry isn’t necessary, but the amount of self-care that you’d expect of yourself if you were trying to win your man? That is necessary.** We can’t take care of ourselves as if we take our husbands’ attentions for granted.**

Actually, I’d say that those who are married ought to take their husband’s impression of their efforts quite seriously. If a husband is disappointed that his wife doesn’t do more in the way of her own grooming than she does, that is not a good sign. Maybe she needs him to pitch in so she’ll have the time and energy to do it, but being mutually interested in staying attractive to the other is important.
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Excellent point.
 
Bonnie said:
I need to get copies of my old records on cds. I miss hearing those old songs.

Tho I now have the tune to The Unfortunate Man stuck in my head! 😃
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Why not just get a record player? They’re coming back in style, funny enough.

I recently purchased some LP’s at a church yard sale so my kids can get a chance to hear music on a record player. I also have some old records from deceased relatives to listen to as well.

The Unfortunate Man is one I will add to my collection! 😃
 
lax16 said:
Why not just get a record player? They’re coming back in style, funny enough.
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I’ve got a record player, but I’m lazy. Putting a cd in my computer is faster & easier. Sometimes I love technology!
 
Bonnie said:
I’ve got a record player, but I’m lazy. Putting a cd in my computer is faster & easier. Sometimes I love technology!
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I find myself longing for the good ol’ days when it comes to technology - meaning, I wish it would go away.

But then, I wouldn’t be able to post here on CAF!
 
Have not read all the posts, but I’m 28 and I don’t do my hair (actually, I do color it for fun, just did this past weekend) but I would not color to cover grey. I don’t wear makeup and rarely wear jewelry. I don’t even shave my legs or arm pits.

It’s not a prideful thing and I still think I look really good, I don’t get depressed about looking “dumpy”

That being said, I keep myself clean. I smell appropriately clean (most days, I do have two small children!). My husband finds me completely attractive, I am not taking his attention for granted. If I have makeup on hand, I will wear it for “special occasions”. But such luxuries cost more money than we have to spare right now anyway.

Also, I wear glasses. I have thick frames. I think I look a bit plain without them (when I wear contacts) and that I would need some makeup. But with the glasses I don’t feel so much, maybe because they are dark?
 
misspriss said:
Have not read all the posts, but I’m 28 and I don’t do my hair (actually, I do color it for fun, just did this past weekend) but I would not color to cover grey. I don’t wear makeup and rarely wear jewelry. I don’t even shave my legs or arm pits.

It’s not a prideful thing and I still think I look really good, I don’t get depressed about looking “dumpy”

That being said, I keep myself clean. I smell appropriately clean (most days, I do have two small children!). My husband finds me completely attractive, I am not taking his attention for granted. If I have makeup on hand, I will wear it for “special occasions”. But such luxuries cost more money than we have to spare right now anyway.

Also, I wear glasses. I have thick frames. I think I look a bit plain without them (when I wear contacts) and that I would need some makeup. But with the glasses I don’t feel so much, maybe because they are dark?
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There you go. Are you showing yourself a lack of respect? Are you saying, “I am not worth the time”? Are you saying “being attractive to my husband is not worth the time”? Are you saying “I know other people think I don’t care if I look like a wreck for even important occasions, but I really do not care what they think”? Are you saying “I don’t have to care about hygiene or even rudimentary grooming”? No. Those are the kind of questions that ought to concern someone who really just wants to do nothing at all even though they aren’t going through an apocalypse, extending humanitarian aid in a disaster zone or through-packing on the Pacific Crest Trail.

That leaves a lot of room for individual preference on exactly how much time, effort, and money is the right amount.
 
misspriss said:
Have not read all the posts, but I’m 28 and I don’t do my hair (actually, I do color it for fun, just did this past weekend) but I would not color to cover grey. I don’t wear makeup and rarely wear jewelry. I don’t even shave my legs or arm pits.

It’s not a prideful thing and I still think I look really good, I don’t get depressed about looking “dumpy”

That being said, I keep myself clean. I smell appropriately clean (most days, I do have two small children!). My husband finds me completely attractive, I am not taking his attention for granted. If I have makeup on hand, I will wear it for “special occasions”. But such luxuries cost more money than we have to spare right now anyway.

Also, I wear glasses. I have thick frames. I think I look a bit plain without them (when I wear contacts) and that I would need some makeup. But with the glasses I don’t feel so much, maybe because they are dark?
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You might feel differently once you see the shade od gray your hair goes.
My eldest sister’s hair went a beautiful white. Like snow. Gorgeous. My mother and I? Like a rusted out car. Horrible. My mom was encouraged by another sister to stop dyeing her hair, and honestly, she looked near death all the time, and was VERY unhappy.
But sister didn’t want to bother taking her to the salon. I still remember my shock seeing mama (we lived 2000 miles away) on her deathbed. She looked really bad, worse than she would have being ill.
I cover my gray, and always will. Not vanity to know how you look your best.
Enjoy your youth! 👍
 
pianistclare said:
You might feel differently once you see the shade od gray your hair goes.
My eldest sister’s hair went a beautiful white. Like snow. Gorgeous. My mother and I? Like a rusted out car. Horrible. My mom was encouraged by another sister to stop dyeing her hair, and honestly, she looked near death all the time, and was VERY unhappy.
But sister didn’t want to bother taking her to the salon. I still remember my shock seeing mama (we lived 2000 miles away) on her deathbed. She looked really bad, worse than she would have being ill.
I cover my gray, and always will. Not vanity to know how you look your best.
Enjoy your youth! 👍
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I found a grey hair or 5 a while ago, I guess the second child did it to me. My mom, and her dad, both snow white (red hair turns white they say, not grey). My grandma on my dad’s side went from a nice salt and pepper to full grey over the years. But I don’t think it’s vanity to cover grey, just keeping well kept. You can be clean and well kept natural, and you can do the same dyed.

I think I’d rather wear makeup if I look bad with grey hair than dye it, of course, I dye my non-grey hair now, because I like black hair on me (I’m naturally deep brown, not much different). I don’t like dye because if you ever want to stop and you are using permanent, there is a demarcation line. I’d rather retain the option to be fully grey, if that makes sense. Maybe just only use semi or demi permanent dyes if I ever choose to.

It’s nothing I got from my mom though. She had a ritual-like routine of shaving in the bath every other night, wore makeup every time we went out (and often made us late). Wore perfume, etc. I like makeup, but I can’t be bothered to put it on just to take it off. Maybe when the kids are older, and I am not sweating and chasing toddlers everywhere. But I’d want it to be for fun, not because it is expected of me by society.
 
misspriss said:
I found a grey hair or 5 a while ago, I guess the second child did it to me. My mom, and her dad, both snow white (red hair turns white they say, not grey). My grandma on my dad’s side went from a nice salt and pepper to full grey over the years. But I don’t think it’s vanity to cover grey, just keeping well kept. You can be clean and well kept natural, and you can do the same dyed.

I think I’d rather wear makeup if I look bad with grey hair than dye it, of course, I dye my non-grey hair now, because I like black hair on me (I’m naturally deep brown, not much different). I don’t like dye because if you ever want to stop and you are using permanent, there is a demarcation line. I’d rather retain the option to be fully grey, if that makes sense. Maybe just only use semi or demi permanent dyes if I ever choose to.

It’s nothing I got from my mom though. She had a ritual-like routine of shaving in the bath every other night, wore makeup every time we went out (and often made us late). Wore perfume, etc. I like makeup, but I can’t be bothered to put it on just to take it off. Maybe when the kids are older, and I am not sweating and chasing toddlers everywhere. But I’d want it to be for fun, not because it is expected of me by society.
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Yeah, I don’t think it’s expected of anyone anymore.
It’s more of a personal preference.
I have co-workers who look tired, disheveled, and in general terrible and are always trying to get me to stop coloring my hair, etc. I take it from their remarks, that I look well. LOL
Do what makes you happy.
 
pianistclare said:
My eldest sister’s hair went a beautiful white. Like snow. Gorgeous.
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One of my aunts had hair like that! Another 2 had dramatic white streaks in dark hair. Mom just went gray - she dyed her hair. 🙂

Mine seems to be going the white streaks path - I’m hoping it goes completely white.

I’m fortunate that my husband likes me as I am. I wore makeup when we first met, but gradually dropped it. Now he says he doesn’t care for makeup on women (or men, either!). I’m not sure if he’s being truthful or gallant, but I’m fine with either. 🙂
 
lax16 said:
I can see stream-lining one’s beauty routine for convenience and cost purposes.

However, if I were single, I would not streamline too much. Not sure if you are single, but if so, I would keep coloring my hair and wearing make-up. Jewelry not necessary.
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I am single and I must say, that is quite offensive. To imply that all single women must concern themselves with finding a man and the way to do it is to be a slave to the fashion industry.

Yes, that was offensive. I don’t see how marital status has anything to do with my OP
 
Bonnie said:
😃 That made me think of the old song The Unfortunate Man by the Chad Mitchell Trio:

Read more at songlyrics.com/chad-mitchell-trio/the-unfortunate-man-lyrics/#iCzjsEHKCcmXLIp0.99
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What a horrible song.
Maybe God gave women the creation of cosmetics because of the excessive pressure society and men place on them to be pretty.
Some people may say men don’t use makeup so men can’t “deceive” their future wife about their looks with makeup but at the same time,men receive nowhere near as much expectation to look attractive as women too.

I’m almost glad if the man in the song lyrics finds out his wife is “unattractive” and therefore is “unfortunate”.
Maybe that is his lesson for being too shallow and placing so much emphasis/value on the looks of women?

I’ve noticed also occasionally some women who don’t wear makeup can sometimes start feeling superior than women who do and think comments (sometime subconsciously) such as “at least with me my husband won’t be surprised” " men don’t like women who wear a lot of slap" “I don’t need a cake face to be attractive” or boasting “I never have to wear makeup unlike other women and men still find me attractive/stare at me” or similar comments.

If someone doesn’t want to wear makeup I think they should feel secure in their position and not feel pressured but also not subtlety feel superior over women who do because no one knows another persons circumstances.
 
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