Avor,
I really hope you are able to find a way to reconcile your confusion.
I think that the post requesting information about what you do or plan to do in the military is valid- you’re obviously conflicted about taking on military responsibilities, and it might help to be a little more clear about what you believe those responsibilities are.
From your conversation, it seems that you can’t reconcile your conscience to your military duties, so respond like many others-you blame God for putting you in this circumstance and you convince yourself that you are somehow outside of the norms of well formed conscience by claiming that you are some kind of tool of God, or someone consigned by God to do the dirty work of the world.
The problem with your premise is that you have to accept that God didn’t create the evil in the world. Evil is what fills in the space left by the abcense of good. If you believe that God wants you to respond to the evil in the world, then you really need to evaluate how you think God responds to evil. As a member of the military, your goal should not be to erradicate all evil, your goal should be to do God’s will at all times by promoting love and compassion. I know that sounds cheesy, but there’s no other way to say it-you can’t fight evil with evil.
That doesn’t mean, of course, that you respond to violent attacks from oppressors by sticking some kind of flowery bumpersticker on your volkswagon, it means that you always keep in mind that those you are fighting agains are also loved by God.
Let me put this another way-
Most members of the military approach combat in a manner that respects life-that is, they engage in combat because they believe that it is the only way to protect others, and they engage their enemies in a compassionate manner-without glorifying or revelling in violence, and making every effort to promote peace. These members are more likely to provide medical support to wounded enemies, to smile at civilians, and to demonstrate kindness whenever possible. These members of the military see themselves in service to the people they protect, and understand that the force they use should be aimed at preventing injury and death. THese are the soldiers who quietly help at the orphanages in iraq, who never fire a bullet they didn’t think was necessary, and who pray for the dead on both sides.
On the other hand, there are those members of the military who cannot reconcile their values with their military responsibilites, or those who seem to believe that one can suspend one’s conscience in battle. These members are often angry or depressed, they see those they protect as unwitting victims that are somehow less than human, and they villify those they are fighting against as being somehow cursed by God. For these people, destruction and death become ends in themselves. These are the car bombers who have their families release videos of them blowing up malls and convoys and the soldiers that do the unspeakable things that discredit the entire war effort.
Which group do you believe youself to be in? If you’re in the second group, I hope you don’t enlist. If you already have enlisted, ask your supervisor for a desk job.