Has anyone EVER heard "Speak now or forever hold your peace?" at a Catholic wedding?

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Banns are still listed in many parishes. It depends on what norms have been established in the particular Episcopal Conference as to whether or not banns are required.

Can. 1067 The conference of bishops is to establish norms about the examination of spouses and about the marriage banns or other opportune means to accomplish the investigations necessary before marriage. After these norms have been diligently observed, the pastor can proceed to assist at the marriage.

US Complimentary norms:
http://www.usccb.org/beliefs-and-te...067-the-investigation-of-freedom-to-marry.cfm
 
One point about For Your Marriage:

They are correct in that the priest doesn’t “pronounce” the couple married. It is, however, customary for the priest to present the newly married couple to the congregation (i.e. “I present to you Mr. and Mrs. Joe Bloggs”).
 
I yell it every time I enter a bathroom 🚽 that I’m preparing to clean.

“Maintenance! Anyone in here? Speak up now or forever hold your peace!”

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His_helpmeet said:
It is, however, customary for the priest to present the newly married couple to the congregation (i.e. “I present to you Mr. and Mrs. Joe Bloggs”).
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But most women I know have not taken their husband’s or wife’s name. What do your priests say when there are two separate names? ‘I present to you the newly married couple?’
 
You know, the Anglican marriage liturgy from the Book of Common Prayer is so beautiful, and has become the standard for what we think of when we witness a wedding ceremony.

“Dearly beloved, we are gathered together here in the sight of God, and in the face of this congregation, to join together this Man and this Woman in holy Matrimony; which is an honourable estate, instituted of God in the time of creation, signifying unto us the mystical union that is between Christ and his Church.”
 
From your link:
If you’ve ever seen a wedding on a television series, you’re probably familiar with the dramatic possibilities that arise when the minister asks, “If anyone knows any reason why these two should not be wed, let him speak now, or forever hold his peace.” Well, we Catholics don’t do that. In many places, notices of up-coming weddings are published, allowing anyone with objections to come forward before we get to the altar.
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I mean, duh right?

I’d also add that Catholics have a more thorough premarital screening process that can weed out any of these pesky issues before the couple reaches the altar.
 
The priest doesn’t ask that question at the wedding. Instead that question was what the banns of marriage were for. Today this is really answered during the marriage preparation.
On a related note I did see where at the beginning of the wedding someone ordered for teh wedding to stop. It was the pastor of the church where the wedding was to take place. Apparently there were some documents that needed to be signed. (possibly related to a dispensation) I believe the wedding was postponed.
 
We have a very similar initial speech by the priest, but kept the bride & groom entering together, and posting bans. The pre-wedding shower was traditionally tied to the first posting of the bans.

Personally I think asking that in church is a little late in calling things off.
 
“And now, I am honored to introduce to you John Smith and Jane Jones, husband and wife.” Or words to that effect.
 
ComplineSanFran said:
You know, the Anglican marriage liturgy from the Book of Common Prayer is so beautiful, and has become the standard for what we think of when we witness a wedding ceremony.
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It’s very nice, but it is not “the standard for what we think of when we witness a wedding ceremony”.

Wedding ceremonies these days are all over the map, and I have never thought of Anglican anything as “standard” except possibly in the UK. I’m pretty sure a lot of younger people have never even heard anything like the above except in an old Turner Classic Movie.
 
ComplineSanFran said:
But most women I know have not taken their husband’s or wife’s name. What do your priests say when there are two separate names? ‘I present to you the newly married couple?’
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I wish I could remember the answer to this question. I am 98 percent sure our pastor did not say, “I present to you Mr. and Mrs. Teddy Bear” since I did not take husband’s last name and this was back in the 90s.
Unfortunately, I have forgotten. I was also concentrating on just not messing up anything I was supposed to do in front of all the guests, like not tripping over my dress or falling down the sanctuary steps.
 
bluerose said:
she also wanted him to ask “Who gives this woman?” as her father gave her away and he refused that, too.
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I would note that while Catholic priests don’t ask “Who gives this woman?” it’s customary to have the father, or in my case the mother since my father had died long before, hand off the bride to the groom at the altar, so you get the visual “giving away”, which makes the question a bit superfluous IMHO.
 
1ke said:
Banns are still listed in many parishes. It depends on what norms have been established in the particular Episcopal Conference as to whether or not banns are required.

Can. 1067 The conference of bishops is to establish norms about the examination of spouses and about the marriage banns or other opportune means to accomplish the investigations necessary before marriage. After these norms have been diligently observed, the pastor can proceed to assist at the marriage.

US Complimentary norms:
http://www.usccb.org/beliefs-and-te...067-the-investigation-of-freedom-to-marry.cfm
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But I don’t see the banns mentioned anywhere in the document.
 
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