Has women in the work force helped or hurt the family?

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I think this is as false as anything else the media has told us. I believe that most people marry for good reasons and love their spouse very much. I think this has been true throughout history. Of course there are exceptions - there are cruel people and abusive people. But they are not the rule. And marriages have not been dictatorships in Christianity. Islam, yes.

This statement is a very biased viewpoint. I think if you really thought about it, you would realize how much it is a creation of the feminist mindset.
I wish it were and I do not support today’s feminist movement. I think feminists have gone too far.

I can find the stats somewhere, but I once read that 1 in 3 marriages were physically abusive 200 years ago. Do you remember “Rule of Thumb”? The king instituted this rule b/c men were beating their wives to the point of death and so this law was instituted to protect women.
 
Thank you, women who work! You are present and active in every area of life-social, economic, cultural, artistic and political. In this way you make an indispensable contribution to the growth of a culture which unites reason and feeling, to a model of life ever open to the sense of “mystery”, to the establishment of economic and political structures ever more worthy of humanity.
Yes, it is time to examine the past with courage, to assign responsibility where it is due in a review of the long history of humanity. Women have contributed to that history as much as men and, more often than not, they did so in much more difficult conditions. I think particularly of those women who loved culture and art, and devoted their lives to them in spite of the fact that they were frequently at a disadvantage from the start, excluded from equal educational opportunities, underestimated, ignored and not given credit for their intellectual contributions. Sadly, very little of women’s achievements in history can be registered by the science of history. But even though time may have buried the documentary evidence of those achievements, their beneficent influence can be felt as a force which has shaped the lives of successive generations, right up to our own. To this great, immense feminine “tradition” humanity owes a debt which can never be repaid. Yet how many women have been and continue to be valued more for their physical appearance than for their skill, their professionalism, their intellectual abilities, their deep sensitivity; in a word, the very dignity of their being!
  1. And what shall we say of the obstacles which in so many parts of the world still keep women from being fully integrated into social, political and economic life? We need only think of how the gift of motherhood is often penalized rather than rewarded, even though humanity owes its very survival to this gift. Certainly, much remains to be done to prevent discrimination against those who have chosen to be wives and mothers. As far as personal rights are concerned, there is an urgent need to achieve real equality in every area: equal pay for equal work, protection for working mothers, fairness in career advancements, equality of spouses with regard to family rights and the recognition of everything that is part of the rights and duties of citizens in a democratic State.
This is a matter of justice but also of necessity. Women will increasingly play a part in the solution of the serious problems of the future:
Here I cannot fail to express my admiration for those women of good will who have devoted their lives to defending the dignity of womanhood by fighting for their basic social, economic and political rights, demonstrating courageous initiative at a time when this was considered extremely inappropriate, the sign of a lack of femininity, a manifestation of exhibitionism, and even a sin!
This is taken from John Paul II Letter to Women
 
This is taken from John Paul II Letter to Women
Of course, everything JP The Great said is true…and I do not think anyone here would disagree.

However, it absolutely does not address the topic at hand. There is no question whatsoever that women do play, and have played, a critical role in the course of history…anyone who thinks differently has a fool for a master. However, the question at hand is not just specific to women in the work force, it is also about whether women leaving their children in the hands of relative strangers while they work is a good thing or a bad thing for society. JP The Great said nothing about that question, at least nothing I am aware of…so the quotes from him are awesome and true, but they are not important to the question at hand.

I suspect the Great Pope might have a slightly different take had he answered the questions being posed here. But, that is just my personal conjecture, nothing more. 🙂
 
I suspect the Great Pope might have a slightly different take had he answered the questions being posed here. But, that is just my personal conjecture, nothing more. 🙂
I doubt that he would have promoted “protection for working mothers” if he thought mothers should not work. :confused:
 
This is taken from John Paul II Letter to Women
Thanks for posting this. I mentioned JP’s “Letter to Women” in an earlier post, but didn’t take the time to re-read it for the sake of this thread.

Today…I was up all night with my son’s teething…he decided to stop trying to sleep at 5:00 a.m. My husband was nice enough go and get my son and bring him to me. I layed in bed with him bf’ding for about 1/2 hour, but little guy was just not interested in sleeping anymore.

So at 5:30 a.m., I dragged my sorry little ### out of bed and washed my hair in the bath, so my son could put his hands in the water and talk to me.

I am now at work, extremelty exhausted and when work is over, I have to lug my ### to Walmart to do our grocery shopping. Then I have to go home, tend to the kids, do laundry and color my roots (:p).

My husband? HA! He didn’t get out of bed until 7:30 a.m. and went back to sleep right after he got my son for me. He got an extra 2 hours of sleep and when he gets home tonight, my live-in nanny will make dinner and feed him :rolleyes: She does this out of the kindness of her heart. I have the best live-in nanny ever. She is the kind of woman that JP II is talking about ! 👍 When I come home with my 10 bags of groceries at 7:00 p.m., my live-in nanny will then help me unpack my groceries while my kids play with the bags and packages on the kitchen floor.

I may be a working mother, but Holy Cow, a SAHM is a working mother too. Us mothers get very little rest.

We are all working mothers.
 
Of course, everything JP The Great said is true…and I do not think anyone here would disagree.

However, it absolutely does not address the topic at hand. There is no question whatsoever that women do play, and have played, a critical role in the course of history…anyone who thinks differently has a fool for a master. However, the question at hand is not just specific to women in the work force, it is also about whether women leaving their children in the hands of relative strangers while they work is a good thing or a bad thing for society. JP The Great said nothing about that question, at least nothing I am aware of…so the quotes from him are awesome and true, but they are not important to the question at hand.

I suspect the Great Pope might have a slightly different take had he answered the questions being posed here. But, that is just my personal conjecture, nothing more. 🙂
Oh Patrick…gimme a break! Poooooleeeeezzzzz! 🤷

:hypno:
 
I doubt that he would have promoted “protection for working mothers” if he thought mothers should not work. :confused:
I doubt he would have thought women should work fulltime if they **could **stay at home with their children. Of course, many women have no choice, and I believe that is what the Pope was speaking of, proper respect for and treatment of women in the work force. Yet, I have very little doubt that the Pope would have wanted mothers to stay home with their children whenever possible.
 
Of course, everything JP The Great said is true…and I do not think anyone here would disagree.

However, it absolutely does not address the topic at hand. There is no question whatsoever that women do play, and have played, a critical role in the course of history…anyone who thinks differently has a fool for a master. However, the question at hand is not just specific to women in the work force, it is also about whether women leaving their children in the hands of relative strangers while they work is a good thing or a bad thing for society. JP The Great said nothing about that question, at least nothing I am aware of…so the quotes from him are awesome and true, but they are not important to the question at hand.

I suspect the Great Pope might have a slightly different take had he answered the questions being posed here. But, that is just my personal conjecture, nothing more. 🙂
As far as personal rights are concerned, there is an urgent need to achieve real equality in every area: equal pay for equal work, protection for working mothers, fairness in career advancements, equality of spouses with regard to family rights and the recognition of everything that is part of the rights and duties of citizens in a democratic State. All from JP II’s Letter
 
yeah, this is an oft-repeated myth: wordorigins.org/index.php/more/489/
One still cannot refute the fact that for a large part of history, women were treated as property and were not give much respect, dignity, or thought. Loving marriages are mostly a construct of the 19th and 20th centuries. While we gasp at arranged marriages in other countries, most marriages were ‘arranged’ in anglo society until recent history. Sometimes they worked, sometimes they didn’t. If they didn’t work well, women had to grin and bear it, as she could not legally own property and would be shunned if she lived alone.
 
I doubt he would have thought women should work fulltime if they **could **stay at home with their children. Of course, many women have no choice, and I believe that is what the Pope was speaking of, proper respect for and treatment of women in the work force. Yet, I have very little doubt that the Pope would have wanted mothers to stay home with their children whenever possible.
I think it’s awfully presumptuous to claim to know what the Pope would have said about something. :rolleyes:
 
Of course, everything JP The Great said is true…and I do not think anyone here would disagree.

However, it absolutely does not address the topic at hand. There is no question whatsoever that women do play, and have played, a critical role in the course of history…anyone who thinks differently has a fool for a master. However, the question at hand is not just specific to women in the work force, it is also about whether women leaving their children in the hands of relative strangers while they work is a good thing or a bad thing for society. JP The Great said nothing about that question, at least nothing I am aware of…so the quotes from him are awesome and true, but they are not important to the question at hand.

I suspect the Great Pope might have a slightly different take had he answered the questions being posed here. But, that is just my personal conjecture, nothing more. 🙂
Oh Patrick…gimme a break! Poooooleeeeezzzzz! 🤷

:hypno:
Seriously…

The REASON it’s not addressed is because it’s not an “issue”…
Historically there have always been “childcare workers”… in the past they were more commonly called “nannies”, or “wet nurses”, or simply “nurses”… even Biblically recorded…
Isaiah 49:23 - Kings shall be your foster fathers, their princesses your nurses;
Isaiah 60:4 - Your sons come from afar, and your daughters in the arms of their nurses.
Ruth 4:16 - Naomi took the child, placed him on her lap, and became his nurse.
2Kings 11:2 - …took Joash, his son, and spirited him away, along with his nurse, from the bedroom where the princes were about to be slain.
2Samuel 4:4 - Jonathan came from Jezreel, and his nurse took him up and fled.

I could go on and on… beyond biblical times and throughout history…

This isn’t “new”, nor has the Church made any statement in the least about it being good or bad for society… it just was *part *of society… it’s amoral… not impacting morality in the least.
 
Thanks for posting this. I mentioned JP’s “Letter to Women” in an earlier post, but didn’t take the time to re-read it for the sake of this thread.

Today…I was up all night with my son’s teething…he decided to stop trying to sleep at 5:00 a.m. My husband was nice enough go and get my son and bring him to me. I layed in bed with him bf’ding for about 1/2 hour, but little guy was just not interested in sleeping anymore.

So at 5:30 a.m., I dragged my sorry little ### out of bed and washed my hair in the bath, so my son could put his hands in the water and talk to me.

I am now at work, extremelty exhausted and when work is over, I have to lug my ### to Walmart to do our grocery shopping. Then I have to go home, tend to the kids, do laundry and color my roots (:p).

My husband? HA! He didn’t get out of bed until 7:30 a.m. and went back to sleep right after he got my son for me. He got an extra 2 hours of sleep and when he gets home tonight, my live-in nanny will make dinner and feed him :rolleyes: She does this out of the kindness of her heart. I have the best live-in nanny ever. She is the kind of woman that JP II is talking about ! 👍 When I come home with my 10 bags of groceries at 7:00 p.m., my live-in nanny will then help me unpack my groceries while my kids play with the bags and packages on the kitchen floor.

I may be a working mother, but Holy Cow, a SAHM is a working mother too. Us mothers get very little rest.

We are all working mothers.
I have enormous respect for women, I feel they often carry the major workload in culture. Seriously.

Yet, you paint a picture of exactly what I am talking about. You are a caring and loving mother and wife, yet you are often pushed to exhaustion because you also work fulltime. Now, your husband (imo) should be helping more and you should not have to shoulder such larger percentages of the family burden…yet try to imagine how much easier today would be for you if you were a fulltime stay-at-home mom.

I wonder, since you have a stay-at-home nanny and you pay her, just how much would you and your husband have to sacrifice in order for you to dumpy the nanny and you stay home. Just sayin…don’t bite back–that hurts. 🙂

Just one final thought: is it not a bit incredible that even though you pay a nanny , you are still exhausted? You pay out all that money, you forfeit time with your child, and you are still exhausted. :rolleyes:
 
Seriously…

The REASON it’s not addressed is because it’s not an “issue”…
Historically there have always been “childcare workers”… in the past they were more commonly called “nannies”, or “wet nurses”, or simply “nurses”… even Biblically recorded…
Isaiah 49:23 - Kings shall be your foster fathers, their princesses your nurses;
Isaiah 60:4 - Your sons come from afar, and your daughters in the arms of their nurses.
Ruth 4:16 - Naomi took the child, placed him on her lap, and became his nurse.
2Kings 11:2 - …took Joash, his son, and spirited him away, along with his nurse, from the bedroom where the princes were about to be slain.
2Samuel 4:4 - Jonathan came from Jezreel, and his nurse took him up and fled.

I could go on and on… beyond biblical times and throughout history…

This isn’t “new”, nor has the Church made any statement in the least about it being good or bad for society… it just was *part *of society… it’s amoral… not impacting morality in the least.
Fine, I could address some historical exagerations you are making in your post, but will instead let it go. 🙂

How do you believe the Pope would answer this question:

Should mothers work fulltime outside the home if they have the financial resources to stay at home and care for their children directly?
 
Question for all women,

It seems in today’s world women want not only equality (which they should have), but they also want sameness in genders and absolute equality in all results. So, let me pose this faith related, though not children related question as a curious aside to this thread:

As a woman, are you for or against female altar servers during Catholic Masses (please no neutral answers)?
 
I have enormous respect for women, I feel they often carry the major workload in culture. Seriously.

Yet, you paint a picture of exactly what I am talking about. You are a caring and loving mother and wife, yet you are often pushed to exhaustion because you also work fulltime. Now, your husband (imo) should be helping more and you should not have to shoulder such larger percentages of the family burden…yet try to imagine how much easier today would be for you if you were a fulltime stay-at-home mom.

I wonder, since you have a stay-at-home nanny and you pay her, just how much would you and your husband have to sacrifice in order for you to dumpy the nanny and you stay home. Just sayin…don’t bite back–that hurts. 🙂

Just one final thought: is it not a bit incredible that even though you pay a nanny , you are still exhausted? You pay out all that money, you forfeit time with your child, and you are still exhausted. :rolleyes:
You could just as easily be addressing this to me, because I’m also “pushed to the point of exhaustion”… but I think you’re being MORE than a little presumptive to assume that my husband is in any way “slacking off”…
My husband gets up early every day to go to morning Mass… he works 11-12 hour days, rarely home before 8pm. He is the most amazing spiritual head of our family - probably spiritually stronger than a majority of Catholic men in this world.
You’re also presumptive to be making statements on our financial condition about paying for childcare. Circumstances change over time… at first, we needed my additional income to pay for basics… by the time our oldest was ready for Kindergarten we were doing financially better, but made the decision to have me continue to work so we could afford to send them to our wonderful Catholic parish school. If I were not working, this would not be possible. Sure, most of my income goes toward childcare for the younger ones and Catholic school tuition… but we could never afford to even send them to the Catholic school in the first place if I weren’t working.

Your presumptions are very narrow-minded.
 
One still cannot refute the fact that for a large part of history, women were treated as property and were not give much respect, dignity, or thought. Loving marriages are mostly a construct of the 19th and 20th centuries. While we gasp at arranged marriages in other countries, most marriages were ‘arranged’ in anglo society until recent history. Sometimes they worked, sometimes they didn’t. If they didn’t work well, women had to grin and bear it, as she could not legally own property and would be shunned if she lived alone.
I’m not denying that there were abuses, but what she said was wrong, and perpetuating the myth and then saying “but it’s still basically true” does no one any good.

Furthermore, that’s a very rosy view of marriages constructed around “love” that have occurred only recently, and a very dim view on marriages of other types, as if the more recent one is absolutely superior. In many cases they have not been. In the Catholic sense, if marriage doesn’t work well and it was valid, except for extreme circumstances, both spouses still have to “grin and bear it”.
 
It’s actually not a myth. It was common law in England until about the time of Queen Elizabeth. I also did my research and while some websites state it as myth, it was English common law before 1500’s.
Please provide your sources
 
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