Have you had problems recieving on the Tongue?

[aimee]

I always receive on tongue …never had any problem…

 

[drforjc]

Never had a problem with someone refusing me, but several problems with EMHC’s (and even a few priests) being unpracticed in doing it.

 

[BlyssfulDreamer]

(Mexico is one of those, so if you go to a Mass in Mexico, the priest may certainly refuse to give you Communion in the Hand)QUOTE]

How would one know if they are in a new parish where you were only allowed to receive on the tongue? Would you watch what the others were doing? I think maybe the church should make it universal that either it is allowed by both methods or restrict it to on the tongue only. That might solve some of the problems…

I receive by hand only mainly because the last time I received on the tongue the EMHC almost shoved it down my throat. Well…almost

:heart:Blyss

 

[Cristiano]

After I started going to the monthly Classical Latin Mass in my city I decided to only recieve on the tongue, from the priest. When I went for Communion in my parish I opened my mouth and Father (who knows me) gave me an odd stare and a blessing instead. After Mass I went to him to ask why and I was told that he only gives Communion on the tongue to the old folks who wont have it any other way and that I, as a young man, should recieve like most other people.

So now I only recieve at the TLM.

Are you saying that to receive communion only once a month because you do not want to receive in the hand during the other Masses?

 

[Walking_Home]

So far–no problem with receiving on the tongue. The day that I do encounter a problem—will be the day I write to the bishop. If it continues—the next letter will be to Rome.

 

[Caesar]

Are you saying that to receive communion only once a month because you do not want to receive in the hand during the other Masses?

Yes. If I think that recieving on the tongue, from a priest, is far more reverant and traditional why would I go and touch the host with my hands? What if I let particles drop to the floor?

No, it is better to recieve once a month and be reverant then every Sunday in an irreverant manner.

 

[Cristiano]

Yes. If I think that recieving on the tongue, from a priest, is far more reverant and traditional why would I go and touch the host with my hands? What if I let particles drop to the floor?

No, it is better to recieve once a month and be reverant then every Sunday in an irreverant manner.

Thanks for the honest answer. I am not trying to criticize you. I am just trying to see where any individual draws the line. My personal take is the following: receiving in the hands is not implicitly irreverent (the Church would not allow it). Receiving on the tongue is much more reverent and it is my preferred method. Now I have to strike a balance between being reverent, being too scrupulous, and receiving or not the graces that I need in my life. Everybody has a different threshold based and scrupulosity and intentions. In my case I will receive in the hands if it were the only way and I can do it in what to me is still a reverent manner. On the other side I would first fight hard for the privilege of receiving on the tongue.

 

[Joan_M]

How would one know if they are in a new parish where you were only allowed to receive on the tongue? Would you watch what the others were doing? I think maybe the church should make it universal that either it is allowed by both methods or restrict it to on the tongue only. That might solve some of the problems…

I receive by hand only mainly because the last time I received on the tongue the EMHC almost shoved it down my throat. Well…almost

:heart:Blyss

I don’t know about Mexico, but when I used to travel to Puerto Rico the priest at the church I attended would announce it at each English speaking Mass (don’t know about the Spanish ones, since I didn’t attend them) that, in that Diocese they did not give Holy Communion in the hand.

At the time, I was in my liberal phase (thank God, that’s over!!) and I was not happy with that announcement! Now, I wish we would do away with Communion in the hand. I have seen too many people dusting off their hands as they return to their seats

I have experienced some EMHCs and even some priests being inept at placing the Host on my tongue, and I do stick out my tongue properly. Some sort of toss it in as if I were a dog they were afraid would bite I believe some lessons are in order - I received them when I was in training, years ago, to be an EMHC. It’s very easy when you know how!

As for if I was refused because of wanting to receive on the tongue, well, whoever was the unfortunate who would try that would hear all about it after Mass!

 

[Ecce_homo_1]

I’ve had som EM’sHC have some real problems or freak out a bit, some stop like a deer in the headlights as I stand there with my mouth agape and my hands clapsed and not outward, and if they do then I put out my hands and close my mouth.

Once I had an EMHC stick their fingers like up to the second knuckle in my mouth, that was really disgusting for both of us I’m sure, I can only assume it was their first day on the job.

 

[sir_galahad]

I’ve never been refused receiving Holy Communion on my tongue. However, if a priest refused me, I don’t think could receive in the hand. First, it’s my right as a Catholic to receive on the tongue and no one should bully me into receiving in the hand. Second, the thought of receiving in the hand in abhorrent to me. Yes, I know the Vatican allows it and don’t question its orthodoxy (although I do sometimes question its common sense). I just could never bring myself to receive in the hand… I probably would burst into tears if I did.

 

[Carrie_Andrews]

Once I had an EMHC stick their fingers like up to the second knuckle in my mouth, that was really disgusting for both of us I’m sure, I can only assume it was their first day on the job.
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Something simular happened to me then the EM wiped his hand off ON MY FACE, I guess he was trying to make a point, but I’m too dull to get it.

 

[KathleenElsie]

On vacation a visiting priest at the parish we visit when at camp actually grabbed by folded hands and forced the HOST into my palms. I was so shocked I almost dropped the Our Lord on the floor. He did the same thing to my grandson (age 8) and my daughter. After Mass it was decided not to go to this Mass again. We truly believe that no going would be better under the circumstances.

 

[distracted]

In another thread a Poster said:

“I have received both on the tongue and in the hand, and I have experienced so many problems with EMsHC being unwilling to put the host on my tongue that I went back to in the hand.”

I have only run into this once, is this a common problem?

i haven’t had a problem with priest refusing to give me Communion on tongue but he definitely gave me what for about it in other “subtle” ways. Like one time after daily Mass, where i was probably the only one to receive that way, he made a big thing about it, saying to the congregation that if we are going to receive that way to stick out our tongue. I thought it was gross the way he put it. He is not an orthodox priest in this & other ways & i don’t go to his Church anymore. I have had other priests do “subtle” things to discourage this, yet it is the proper way to receive…

 

[MusicMan]

The first time I tried to receive on the tongue in my home parish, it took my pastor by surprise, and he almost stuck the host into my folded hands. Why? Because he was unaccustomed to me receiving that way.

I had the same thing happen when I visited my parents and tried to receive on the tongue from their priest (who has been pastor of that parish for longer than my lifetime). Same reason. I grew up in that parish. I had always received in the hand. It’s what he expected from me. Even though I’ve been gone for 10 years now, he still remembers me as someone who receives in the hand. Out of respect for him, I receive in the hand when I visit my parents.

As for EMsHC trying to cram the Sacrament into my hands, I have no patience for it. It’s one thing for your pastor to be thrown when you change how you receive. They’re your pastor; they should know how you receive. If used properly, you shouldn’t get the same EMHC enough for them to remember who receives which way. They should be on the lookout for either. So should the priest, but if you have a good pastor, if you switch suddenly, you should expect them to be thrown.

It’s when someone has an agenda or an EMHC isn’t paying attention that there’s a problem. And I’ve experienced both.

 

[the_phoenix]

There was once a nervous Franciscan friar dressed in his brown robes who was my EMHC. As I was receiving on the tongue, a very strange accident caused the Host to become airborne. With the help of Divine Providence, I was able to catch the Host in mid-air.

Since then, for quite awhile I received in the hand whenever I encountered an EMHC instead of a priest.

~~ the phoenix

 

[Cavaille-Coll]

I was then told that perhaps I needed to find another church, one more in line with Pre Vatican II thinking and customs.

So yeah, you could say I’ve definitely had problems with the receiving on the tongue.

Receiving on the tongue is the NORM after Vatican II, but many priests educated in the 70’s and 80’s don’t seem to know this. I’ve heard a priest tell his congregation that the Church no longer allows communion on the tongue (he also told them that nobody prays the rosary anymore, that everyone goes to heaven, and that God is our mother). You might consider having a friendly chat with your bishop about your pastor’s uncharitable and inaccurate comments.

 

[StephanieC]

For people who have had purely logistical or accidental (not EMHC trying to send a message) difficulties, I always think a good thing to do is to stand in front of a mirror at home & open your mouth as you would normally do to receive holy communion.

Just double-check yourself to see if your mouth is open as wide as you think it is; it might not be, in which case, when you are in the communion line, try to remember to open a bit wider, with your tongue extended.

 

[Divine_mercy]

For people who have had purely logistical or accidental (not EMHC trying to send a message) difficulties, I always think a good thing to do is to stand in front of a mirror at home & open your mouth as you would normally do to receive holy communion.

Just double-check yourself to see if your mouth is open as wide as you think it is; it might not be, in which case, when you are in the communion line, try to remember to open a bit wider, with your tongue extended.

Good Tip!

I am going to guess you are a EMHC!

This is not sarcasm, I do think you are right.

God Bless,

 

[StephanieC]

Good Tip!

I am going to guess you are a EMHC!

This is not sarcasm, I do think you are right.

God Bless,

I used to be one for 2 years, before I moved. I gave it up.

Actuallly, the reason for my suggestion comes about only because I started to receive on the tongue (via intinction) after my son was born & I would go up to receive with him in my arms.

After a few “bumps” on my mouth from the priest or EMHCs, I thought, “Maybe I am not opening my mouth as wide as I think I am!” & checked at home & discovered that I was right!

 

[maryjk]

I no longer receive the host, due to medical reasons but…

I used to regularly receive in the hand.

One Sunday, I was holding a friend’s baby. Went up for Communion, with the baby, received on the tongue, no problem.

A few months later, during VBS. My hands were dirty. Again, I received on the tongue. Not a problem.

Again, a few months later, I burned my right thumb. I received on the tongue. Not a problem.

I sit in the front pew. Although I try not to watch others receive, I have noticed that a number of people in our parish receive on the tongue. It doesn’t seem to be a problem here.