Having a Roomate of opposite sex

[truetofaith]

Don’t be a lone with a person of the opposite sex, it MAY lead to single family homes.

I’m sorry, maybe it’s because I was the girl who went mud riding with all of the guys, I went hunting, I was alone with guys ALL THE TIME. They would get me all dirty, drop me off and go pick up their skanks for a “date.” I totally think that girls and guys can be friends. And that’s it. Period.

It’s like some of you think that when 2 people of the opposite sex are alone they must be having sex. Was that because that’s what y’all did when you were young? You couldn’t keep it in your britches so you assume everyone else can’t? Serious question. Because I seriously don’t get this concept. I’d much rather hang out with guys, build a bonfire, and have a couple of beers than sit with all of the girls who are complaining about everything under the sun and gossiping. I have a short limit when it comes to same sex interaction, because girls annoy me to death. Guys? Nope. And they don’t have sex with me. And all the girls are jealous because guys will carry on a conversation with me, which is totally a bonus.

It appears you took my comment personally…I didn’t mean to offend anyone.

Being alone with guys, having a couple beers around a bonfire is not the same as living with one guy in an apartment sleeping all night for months or years. I think almost everyone agrees, there is too much temptation in that situation.
I’m a product of the 50’s & 60’s so we were of a different mindset back then!

 

[JamalChristophr]

:compcoff: and/or

 

[centerbe]

Over 30 years ago while I was in university, I moved to a town in Northern Ontario for a summer job. The only place I could find to live was sharing the upstairs of a house with a guy and a girl who I did not know. They were also summer students. My parents were fine with the situation. Despite being raised Catholic and receiving a Catholic education all the way through high school, I was not aware of this scandal concept until reading these forums.

I had no sexual intentions for the female room mate and nothing changed that over the summer. There was plenty of drama between the other room mates and some other friends made over the summer. I found it quite the learning experience.

There is no reason the OP cannot share accommodations with her long time friend.

Some of these comments remind me a skit way back in the early days of SNL. Dan Ackroyd was teacher chaperon at high school dance in the '50’s. He would stop students from chewing gum because chewing gum would eventually lead to pre-marital sex of course!

 

[JamalChristophr]

He would stop students from chewing gum because chewing gum would eventually lead to pre-marital sex of course!

I’ll wager a day’s pay you have no proof to the contrary!! :dts:

 

[OurLadysServant]

We are BOUND to follow Church Teaching on cohabitation

NOT follow OPINIONS and what the WORLD does or thinks, theres already euthanasia, abortions, gay marriage, surrogacy, -the world does NOT follow God’s Word

Catechism was put together by Cardinal RATZINGER under Pope John Paul II,
Pope Francis has also spoken up the same

Church teaching from the cathechism on this; yes it IS the mortal sin of scandal;
Even if a couple does not engage in sexual relations for the entire time of cohabitation, their “shacking up” gives scandal and can be become an occassion of sin. For “the person who gives scandal becomes his neighbor’s tempter. He damages virtue and integrity; he may even draw his brother into spiritual death. Scandal is a grave offense if by deed or omission another is deliberately led into a grave offense"(CCC no. 2284).

-]/-]To put yourself in danger of committing sin is a mortal sin itself.

We are supposed to live chastity according to our state in life. That would NOT be chaste for a single person.

Terrible temptations would come,
Also
What if his soul is lost because of impure thoughts he consents to because of that arrangement? And the apartment owners or his friends thought, if its scandal for.them (that it leads even one of them to sinful thoughts or life),

Church teaching from the cathechism on this;
Even if a couple does not engage in sexual relations for the entire time of cohabitation, their “shacking up” gives scandal and can be become an occassion of sin. For “the person who gives scandal becomes his neighbor’s tempter. He damages virtue and integrity; he may even draw his brother into spiritual death. Scandal is a grave offense if by deed or omission another is deliberately led into a grave offense"(CCC no. 2284).

 

[truetofaith]

Over 30 years ago while I was in university, I moved to a town in Northern Ontario for a summer job. The only place I could find to live was sharing the upstairs of a house with a guy and a girl who I did not know. They were also summer students. My parents were fine with the situation. Despite being raised Catholic and receiving a Catholic education all the way through high school, I was not aware of this scandal concept until reading these forums.

I had no sexual intentions for the female room mate and nothing changed that over the summer. There was plenty of drama between the other room mates and some other friends made over the summer. I found it quite the learning experience.

There is no reason the OP cannot share accommodations with her long time friend.

Some of these comments remind me a skit way back in the early days of SNL. Dan Ackroyd was teacher chaperon at high school dance in the '50’s. He would stop students from chewing gum because chewing gum would eventually lead to pre-marital sex of course!

I’m sure SNL is the best source for morality.

 

[edwest2]

In our world today, people don’t care what others think about them as to living together with a boyfriend or even having children, without any intentions of getting married. “It’s none of their business,” they will say. But this attitude is causing havoc in our country. Single parent homes & the heartache of divorce is at its highest. All this may have started innocently like sharing a place with a friend of the opposite sex.

You are right. There is no good reason to have a roommate of the opposite sex. During the late 1960s, it was popularized. It was OK to live with your girlfriend – “old lady.” Now, some might think that we’re talking about two people who are not in a relationship. It still doesn’t make it right. At first, parents were upset about their children doing this but they were “adults” and parental involvement meant it interfered with their “freedom.” It’s gotten to the point where people look at society and just think “it’s so common, so what’s the big deal?” It’s best we be honest and ignore that message. It used to be called “living in sin.”

Best,
Ed

 

[twf]

Opinions don’t matter. It’s not a good idea. Roommate always implies? Nope. Not always.

Peace,
Ed

My city has a high percentage of gay couples. Why wouldn’t rooming with another of the same sex fall under this category as well then? Platonic roommate situations are pretty normal in my experience.

 

[twf]

We are BOUND to follow Church Teaching on cohabitation

NOT follow OPINIONS and what the WORLD does or thinks, theres already euthanasia, abortions, gay marriage, surrogacy, -the world does NOT follow God’s Word

Catechism was put together by Cardinal RATZINGER under Pope John Paul II,
Pope Francis has also spoken up the same

Church teaching from the cathechism on this; yes it IS the mortal sin of scandal;
Even if a couple does not engage in sexual relations for the entire time of cohabitation, their “shacking up” gives scandal and can be become an occassion of sin. For “the person who gives scandal becomes his neighbor’s tempter. He damages virtue and integrity; he may even draw his brother into spiritual death. Scandal is a grave offense if by deed or omission another is deliberately led into a grave offense"(CCC no. 2284).

Cohabitation and roommates are different concepts. What the Catechism condemns explicitly is the concept of “trial marriage” (girlfriend and boyfriend living together to “try things out”). That is wrong and no one on this thread has questioned that. A man and a woman who are not romantically involved living under the same roof is not what the Catechism defines as cohabitation. Could it be near occasion of sin? Could it be scandalous? In some cases, but I don’t think in all. I think it is absolutely absurd to think that ANY man would be tempted by ANY woman. There are plenty of women friends who I have known for many years who I could never in a million years consider in any sexual way. It could be a bad idea for various reasons, but platonic roommates isn’t the same thing as cohabitation. In some areas of my city, two men living together could lead to assumptions of homosexuality…

 

[KendraDZ1902]

Cohabitation and roommates are different concepts. What the Catechism condemns explicitly is the concept of “trial marriage” (girlfriend and boyfriend living together to “try things out”). That is wrong and no one on this thread has questioned that. A man and a woman who are not romantically involved living under the same roof is not what the Catechism defines as cohabitation. Could it be near occasion of sin? Could it be scandalous? In some cases, but I don’t think in all. I think it is absolutely absurd to think that ANY man would be tempted by ANY woman. There are plenty of women friends who I have known for many years who I could never in a million years consider in any sexual way. It could be a bad idea for various reasons, but platonic roommates isn’t the same thing as cohabitation. In some areas of my city, two men living together could lead to assumptions of homosexuality…

:yup:

 

[truetofaith]

Cohabitation and roommates are different concepts. What the Catechism condemns explicitly is the concept of “trial marriage” (girlfriend and boyfriend living together to “try things out”). That is wrong and no one on this thread has questioned that. A man and a woman who are not romantically involved living under the same roof is not what the Catechism defines as cohabitation. Could it be near occasion of sin? Could it be scandalous? In some cases, but I don’t think in all. I think it is absolutely absurd to think that ANY man would be tempted by ANY woman. There are plenty of women friends who I have known for many years who I could never in a million years consider in any sexual way. It could be a bad idea for various reasons, but platonic roommates isn’t the same thing as cohabitation. In some areas of my city, two men living together could lead to assumptions of homosexuality…

I guess if she looks like the Wicked Witch of the West…they can be roommates!

 

[OurLadysServant]

A single unmarried man and woman sharing the same bedroom is the sin of scandal for all involved, always mortal sin, even if nothing intimate is happening, because its scandal for outsiders who presume they are secretly cohabitating, and get swayed toward following suit, and lose their souls

Each are called to live chastity according to our state in life, is it chaste for a single man and single woman to share the same bedroom? Never.

Is it chaste for single men to get single women roommates?. Is it a good example? No. Could others decide ‘hey that could be secret cohabitation -Id like to try that!’ Yes it is possible! Could it be an occasion for sin for them and others? Yes. Satan is a tempter, souls could be lost by him if he sways their thoughts.
Going into near occasions of sin, is sin.

Catechism quote on scandal; bad example
For “the person who gives scandal becomes his neighbor’s tempter. He damages virtue and integrity; he may even draw his brother into spiritual death. Scandal is a grave offense if by deed or omission another is deliberately led into a grave offense"(CCC no. 2284).

Cohabitation and roommates are different concepts. What the Catechism condemns explicitly is the concept of “trial marriage” (girlfriend and boyfriend living together to “try things out”). That is wrong and no one on this thread has questioned that. A man and a woman who are not romantically involved living under the same roof is not what the Catechism defines as cohabitation. Could it be near occasion of sin? Could it be scandalous? In some cases, but I don’t think in all. I think it is absolutely absurd to think that ANY man would be tempted by ANY woman. There are plenty of women friends who I have known for many years who I could never in a million years consider in any sexual way. It could be a bad idea for various reasons, but platonic roommates isn’t the same thing as cohabitation. In some areas of my city, two men living together could lead to assumptions of homosexuality…

 

[brigid12]

Looking at how a child of this day and age might see it - they would be less likely to believe that “something is going on” if there are only two people living in the house (gay or straight), I think. When I see two people of the same sex living together I assume it is likely that they are gay/lesbian. I would feel less likely to think there is something going on if there were three (two of either sex). Money is often at the root of 2 or more living together and in this day it is something of which children are quite aware.

 

[OurLadysServant]

No matter how someone may or may not view it,
If a single unmarried man and single unmarried woman are sharing the same bedroom it CAN be looked upon as secret cohabitation Which is a Mortal sin of scandal According to the Catholic Catechism

Looking at how a child of this day and age might see it - they would be less likely to believe that “something is going on” if there are only two people living in the house (gay or straight), I think. When I see two people of the same sex living together I assume it is likely that they are gay/lesbian. I would feel less likely to think there is something going on if there were three (two of either sex). Money is often at the root of 2 or more living together and in this day it is something of which children are quite aware.

 

[KendraDZ1902]

No matter how someone may or may not view it,
If a single unmarried man and single unmarried woman are sharing the same bedroom it CAN be looked upon as secret cohabitation Which is a Mortal sin of scandal According to the Catholic Catechism

Most roommates don’t share a bedroom, just common living areas. I even had an apartment and each bedroom had an en suite, so I didn’t even share a bathroom with them. Only the living room and kitchen were shared.
The only roommates I had that we shared a bedroom was in the dorms in college.
Again, most roommates DO NOT share a bedroom.