Having close friends that are homosexual

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Are you getting at the point that God cannot get offended because He is outside of time and is unchanging and that instead a better way of phrasing it is that we do things that are offensive to God? Or are you getting at something completly different?🤷 šŸ™‚
Todays secular Catholics believe tha God is only offended when some narrow minded bigot claims there is such a thing as sin.
 
I don’t ā€œbelieveā€ in the story of Noah and his Ark - no. If you are one of those people who takes things in the Bible **literally **- then you are probably on the wrong board.

He **may **punish. But ā€œget offendedā€. No.
The literal existence of Noah or a literal flood (and there’s proof enough of a widespread flood around the right time the like of which has never been seen before or since in Earth’s history) is beside the point. The Bible is God’s word, as a Catholic you must believe that. Everything that it contains is there for a reason - as a spiritual lesson if not a historical one. You must believe that as a Catholic. Its spiritual lessons about the nature of God are absolute truth, you must believe that as a Catholic. What is the spiritual lesson of these episodes? That God gets OFFENDED at sin, and punishes us FOR THAT REASON, among others of course. You MUST believe that - as a Catholic.
 
The literal existence of Noah or a literal flood (and there’s proof enough of a widespread flood around the right time the like of which has never been seen before or since in Earth’s history) is beside the point. The Bible is God’s word, as a Catholic you must believe that. Everything that it contains is there for a reason - as a spiritual lesson if not a historical one. You must believe that as a Catholic. Its spiritual lessons about the nature of God are absolute truth, you must believe that as a Catholic. What is the spiritual lesson of these episodes? That God gets OFFENDED at sin, and punishes us FOR THAT REASON, among others of course. You MUST believe that - as a Catholic.
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So this is my situation…
I have a close friend who is homosexual. We were friends for a long time before I knew that he was gay. One day a long time ago he just showed up in my dorm room and said, ā€œhey, this is my boyfriend.ā€ I didn’t know what to do at the time so I just said, ā€œuhhh, … hello.ā€ anyway at lot of time has passed since then the homosexual issue rarely comes up as he’s never had a boyfriend that lives in town. He knows that I think homosexuality is a sin, but also that i care deeply for him as a person. He is thinking of getting married. I know that it would be devastating to our friendship to not attend. I know most people will say I should not go, but I want to be there. I’m not sure what to do. I have the feeling he will need me as a witness to the faith in the future. Jesus attended functions of sinners and tax collectors while he was on the earth. So what are your opinions?
He is getting married to his boyfriend? Or did he find a girlfriend? You are not required to attend, and I think he would understand. If he respects you as a friend, he will understand. Of course, if you want to send somesort of gift that’s entirely up to you. If you are a practicing Catholic, it would be morally wrong for you to attend because the Church does not recognize same-sex marriage. It is one thing to attend functions of sinners and tax collectors; it’s quite another to endorse such functions by your presence.
 
The literal existence of Noah or a literal flood (and there’s proof enough of a widespread flood around the right time the like of which has never been seen before or since in Earth’s history) is beside the point. The Bible is God’s word, as a Catholic you must believe that. Everything that it contains is there for a reason - as a spiritual lesson if not a historical one. You must believe that as a Catholic. Its spiritual lessons about the nature of God are absolute truth, you must believe that as a Catholic. What is the spiritual lesson of these episodes? That God gets OFFENDED at sin, and punishes us FOR THAT REASON, among others of course. You MUST believe that - as a Catholic.
LilyM. if you want to belive in Noahs ark. Go right ahead. If that’s what makes you happy. But maybe you could flog that particular dead horse on another thread. The Bible was not written by God and sent down to earth in pdf format. It’s a collection of people’s subjective experiences of Christ’s life.
 
LilyM. if you want to belive in Noahs ark. Go right ahead. If that’s what makes you happy. But maybe you could flog that particular dead horse on another thread. The Bible was not written by God and sent down to earth in pdf format. It’s a collection of people’s subjective experiences of Christ’s life.
And your authority to make this pronouncement is based on…?
 
LilyM. if you want to belive in Noahs ark. Go right ahead. If that’s what makes you happy. But maybe you could flog that particular dead horse on another thread. The Bible was not written by God and sent down to earth in pdf format. It’s a collection of people’s subjective experiences of Christ’s life.
Rather its a parable or an actual event, it is not important, it is the word of God. Thats what counts. Everything in the bible isnt about this word or that, or this story or that, the main objective is What is God telling us. What is he teaching us. Thats the point. We must obey him.
 
LilyM. if you want to belive in Noahs ark. Go right ahead. If that’s what makes you happy. But maybe you could flog that particular dead horse on another thread. The Bible was not written by God and sent down to earth in pdf format. It’s a collection of people’s subjective experiences of Christ’s life.
Chirst was on Noahs ark? Was he the pilot or did he have to clean the stables?šŸ˜‰
 
LilyM. if you want to belive in Noahs ark. Go right ahead. If that’s what makes you happy. But maybe you could flog that particular dead horse on another thread. The Bible was not written by God and sent down to earth in pdf format. It’s a collection of people’s subjective experiences of Christ’s life.
the bible may have been written by man, but it was inspired by the Holy Spirit, and that is catholic doctrine, man is not the author of the bible, he is just a tool,

if you don’t want to believe that, well that’s your choice, but just remember,
faith is not believing without reason, it’s believing without seeing, so just because someone can’t prove what they believe, doesn’t mean they don’t have good reason to believe it.
 
the bible may have been written by man, but it was inspired by the Holy Spirit, and that is catholic doctrine, man is not the author of the bible, he is just a tool,

if you don’t want to believe that, well that’s your choice, but just remember,
faith is not believing without reason, it’s believing without seeing, so just because someone can’t prove what they believe, doesn’t mean they don’t have good reason to believe it.
Oh my–this is so well said–great post!šŸ‘
 
LilyM. if you want to belive in Noahs ark. Go right ahead. If that’s what makes you happy. But maybe you could flog that particular dead horse on another thread. The Bible was not written by God and sent down to earth in pdf format. It’s a collection of people’s subjective experiences of Christ’s life.
I would at least broaden things Thornfra. I believe that God indwells all humans and to the extent that we access that power within us, we can speak truth about our existence and God. In other words there is something to be sad for ā€œinspirationā€ and thus something to be said for the fact that much of the bible is truth in terms of the underlying statements. I would agree that the various writers, most unknown were attempting to envision God as he appeared to them. Sometimes i worry that later revisionists and scribes and redactors might not have been true to the originals, but I think there was a sincere attempt to explain God and Christ as experienced by each writer.
 
The whole purpose of going to a wedding ceremony, as a guest, is to celebrate, affirm, and bless the union of the couple. Since I cannot in good conscience celebrate, affirm, and bless the invalid marriage of my father, I didn’t go to his wedding.

The whole purpose of going to someone’s home for dinner, as a guest, is to share food and spend time with friends/family in a social setting. Since I can in good conscience share food and spend time with my father, regardless of what sins he (and I) commit on a daily basis, I have no problem going to his home for dinner.

Don’t you see the difference?
No I really don’t see the difference. There are people here who won’t frequent stores who support gay rights or sell contraceptions because they take the ā€œcondoningā€ that far. I can only conclude that you feel that your father is an ongoing unrepentent fornicator ( I mean no disrespect of course, since I would not take this stance in the first place.) Are you not placing your seal of approval on his sin by frequenting his home when he knows of your beliefs and you know of them? Perhaps it’s my failing, but I honestly don’t see a difference, just a splitting of hairs for convenience.
So if someone interprets Christ’s teachings to say that it’s acceptable to have sex with children, you would say that it’s perfectly acceptable, since they are following Christ’s teachings as they conceive of them?
Truth is not determined by majority vote. There is not subjective truth, only objective truth.
Jesus also didn’t say, ā€œFollow my teachings as you interpret them.ā€ Just the opposite, in fact. He established a Church to guide the people in His Truth, and I obey the teachings of that Church to the best of my ability.
you miss my point completely. I was merely alluding to the fact that in the end, it IS your interpretation. You can claim it is Church teaching, but I’m finding it very hard given your example of your family to find anyone in Church authority who agrees that it should be applied so rigidly. Truth is of course not subject to majority rule and by no means can anyone simply interpret for themselves.

We can however be very careful to remember that it may not be as we conclude it is. We can only state that we are following Christ to the best as we understand the teaching. Our understanding is always subject to faulty reasoning and understanding.
 
Todays secular Catholics believe tha God is only offended when some narrow minded bigot claims there is such a thing as sin.
You know I’ve been chastised by a couple of people for saying certain behavior suggests homophobic reaction. THat was supposed to ā€œdampenā€ the discussion by calling names, although aimed at no one in particular. Same for ultra orthodox. I was questioned about ā€œultraā€ But somehow its okay to call some ā€œsecular Catholicsā€? I know of no such category in the Church, nor Cafeteria or any of the other pejorative terms used by some to demark those they disagree with.

Can we refrain from such labels?
 
This is a most interesting thread as I have a gay brother & nephew and could possibly face this issue.

After reading all of this, and really dwelling on it, I have vacillated in my decision. In the end, I would most likely go.

My mother and a few of my siblings did not attend my wedding for the sole reason that I was married in a Catholic Church. I know what that rejection feels like, and I will not do that to him. By attending his wedding, I would not patting him on the back and saying ā€œjust keep sinning, its okay,ā€ rather I am saying, I love you, you are my brother DESPITE your sins.

Isn’t that what the gospel of Jesus is about?

What makes going to a dinner party of gay people different from going to a wedding? In all the weddings I have been invited to, I did not RSVP based on weather or not I supported the couple’s wedding. I went for fellowship. To get together with friends and family and enjoy each other’s company. I have never based it on whether the marriage was going to be valid, invalid, or that I did not agree the couple should even get married.

God is within ALL of us, reflect on that for a while, and see where it takes you. You might be surprised
 
You know I’ve been chastised by a couple of people for saying certain behavior suggests homophobic reaction. THat was supposed to ā€œdampenā€ the discussion by calling names, although aimed at no one in particular. Same for ultra orthodox. I was questioned about ā€œultraā€ But somehow its okay to call some ā€œsecular Catholicsā€? I know of no such category in the Church, nor Cafeteria or any of the other pejorative terms used by some to demark those they disagree with.

Can we refrain from such labels?
You most certainly can refrain from using labels.
 
No I really don’t see the difference. There are people here who won’t frequent stores who support gay rights or sell contraceptions because they take the ā€œcondoningā€ that far. I can only conclude that you feel that your father is an ongoing unrepentent fornicator ( I mean no disrespect of course, since I would not take this stance in the first place.) Are you not placing your seal of approval on his sin by frequenting his home when he knows of your beliefs and you know of them?
He knows that I don’t consider his marriage valid. How am I placing my ā€œseal of approvalā€ on his marriage by having supper in his home? I’m not celebrating his marriage by going to his home for a meal. I AM celebrating his marriage by attending his wedding.

I’m not sure why you don’t see the distinction. One is a commonplace event that has no special meaning attached to it other than to spend time together as a family, and one is a function whose sole purpose is to celebrate and bless a union.
Perhaps it’s my failing, but I honestly don’t see a difference, just a splitting of hairs for convenience.
I agree that I think it is your failing.
you miss my point completely. I was merely alluding to the fact that in the end, it IS your interpretation. You can claim it is Church teaching, but I’m finding it very hard given your example of your family to find anyone in Church authority who agrees that it should be applied so rigidly. Truth is of course not subject to majority rule and by no means can anyone simply interpret for themselves.
Did you not read the articles at Jimmy Akin’s blog? He agrees with me, and given that he is the director of apologetics for Catholic Answers, I would say that he would count as ā€œChurch authority.ā€ Also, our priest, who is a very holy and learned man, agrees with me.

Who else in ā€œChurch authorityā€ have you asked, by the way?

You also didn’t answer my question. Is it acceptable for a pedophile to have sex with small children as long as he is just following Christ’s teachings as he interprets them? Or is it acceptable for someone to murder another just as long as they are following Christ’s teachings as they interpret them?
We can however be very careful to remember that it may not be as we conclude it is. We can only state that we are following Christ to the best as we understand the teaching. Our understanding is always subject to faulty reasoning and understanding.
Luckily, the Church’s isn’t, because the Church has been granted the charism of infallibility by the Holy Spirit. šŸ‘
 
Isn’t that what the gospel of Jesus is about?

What makes going to a dinner party of gay people different from going to a wedding? In all the weddings I have been invited to, I did not RSVP based on weather or not I supported the couple’s wedding. I went for fellowship. To get together with friends and family and enjoy each other’s company. I have never based it on whether the marriage was going to be valid, invalid, or that I did not agree the couple should even get married.
As I said in my post above – one is a commonplace event that has no special meaning attached to it other than to spend time together as a family, and one is a function whose sole purpose is to celebrate and bless a union. There’s a huge difference. By attending a gay wedding, you are sending the message, ā€œI approve of this union.ā€ At the very least, that creates scandal.

The gospel of Jesus was NOT about condoning and celebrating sin, or making people ā€œfeel good.ā€ It was about encouraging those in sin to come to repentance (e.g., ā€œGo and sin no more,ā€), and it would be hypocritical to say on the one hand, ā€œI don’t think same-sex unions are moralā€ and on the other hand attend a same-sex union to celebrate it with the couple.

It’d be like if you were a pro-life activist praying the rosary outside of an abortion clinic who, the next day, took his daughter into the clinic to have an abortion. You can’t have it both ways. Either you approve of the behavior and celebrate it, or you don’t.
 
This is a most interesting thread as I have a gay brother & nephew and could possibly face this issue.

After reading all of this, and really dwelling on it, I have vacillated in my decision. In the end, I would most likely go.

My mother and a few of my siblings did not attend my wedding for the sole reason that I was married in a Catholic Church. I know what that rejection feels like, and I will not do that to him. By attending his wedding, I would not patting him on the back and saying ā€œjust keep sinning, its okay,ā€ rather I am saying, I love you, you are my brother DESPITE your sins.

Isn’t that what the gospel of Jesus is about?

What makes going to a dinner party of gay people different from going to a wedding? In all the weddings I have been invited to, I did not RSVP based on weather or not I supported the couple’s wedding. I went for fellowship. To get together with friends and family and enjoy each other’s company. I have never based it on whether the marriage was going to be valid, invalid, or that I did not agree the couple should even get married.

God is within ALL of us, reflect on that for a while, and see where it takes you. You might be surprised
Did you doubt that your family loved you in spite of not attending your wedding? Did you fail to realise that it was BECAUSE they loved you and feared for your soul that they didn’t attend? Would you not have taken their attendance as tacit acceptance of your wedding, if not warm approval? Finally, I bet for sure it made you think about what you were doing to an exent that you wouldn’t have done had they attended.

God is within everyone? Well, we’re all made in His image, albeit for some a very distorted image. That’s no reason to tacitly or openly condone sin.

So was God within Herod whom John the Baptist criticised for wrongfully marrying his brother’s wife, and I can’t imagine John saying ā€˜well, they know my views, but I’ll attend the wedding anyway just to keep peace’. On the contrary he stood up to him to the extent of being executed.

So was God within all the traders in the Temple. Christ not only didn’t put up with their behaviour in the Temple out of a mistaken idea that one can love the sinner by ignoring the sin, He actually violently drove them out of it!
 
I like the last poster am casting my final vote. No. Here is why? Right or wrong this is how I feel. To go to the wedding or the reception what is the difference you are participating in the wedding. From the time i was born i was taught i now prononce you Man and Wife. Thats it. not man and man, not woman and woman. Its wrong, there is a time in this world you either stand up for God or you dont. As much as you love the other person who do you love more? God must come first. God says no! I pray for my niece every day and as long as there is a breath in her she can repent, do a good confession and turn towards God. She has turned away from God and I must except that. But I cant and will never turn away from God. she also must except that. I pray as long as I live i am never confronted with this, but unlike the last Poster I can not put my love and feelings above the word of God, God bless everyone and I pray we all can find peace with the life these people are choosing. As for myself I dont believe i ever can, because God says no. I will never Judge, God does that and has rendered his decision he said NO. According to the RCC an Man and Man, Women and Women can not be married in the eyes of God.
 
If you are really sincere ask the apologist on this board what you should do
 
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