Head Covering - Style & Practice Questons - NOT a debate thread

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I ordered mine from halo-works.com, and it’s one of the over-the-top lace mantillas, and I LOVE it!
I think I am going to get some of the other headcoverings, as well.
My daughter (2.5) also has her own Chapel cap that she calls her “Jesus Hat”
 
Fidelia said:
Does color matter? I am just wondering because i started talking aboutit with my friend, and she said that unmarried women traditionally wore white, and married women wore black. But i have a couple that were my mom’s from when she was a little girl, and they are black.
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I forgot about that. Obviously not everyone knows about this. 🙂
 
I read elsewhere that black are for married women, white are for unmarried women. It could be more complex than that, but that’s what I remember. Anyone know for sure?
 
Lovely!
I wear a medium black mantilla to my NO mass parish anytime I am in the presence of the blessed sacrament.
I have some lovely scarves and really would like to wear them. Not many ladies cover at my parish. So a chapel cap or a mantilla is about all most of them have ever seen. Or hats. But I don’t think of hats the same way.
“For if a woman be not veiled, let her also be sheared; but if (it is) shameful to a woman to be sheared or to be shaven, let her be veiled.”
Somehow “Let her be hatted”😉 doesn’t have the same import.
Bless you ladies for responding to the Spirit’s guidance in this.
 
Fidelia said:
Sorry if I misinterpreted you. You seemed to be coming across as “How do I get my wife to cover head, because I think she should?” To which the response is, it’s up to her not you. Again, sorry for the misinterpretation. I wasn’t meaning to offend or anything.
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hmmm, I didn’t think he came across that way at all. 😉 I ordered three from tznius.com/. They are very reasonably priced. I haven’t worn one yet. Our parish only has the novus ordo(please forgive my spelling.) I can’t wait for them to get here.

Sherry
 
I think they are beautiful and although I just became Catholic I have only seen one woman wear one to church once. But I was wondering would it be appropiate to wear one once you have died and in the casket?? I always thought about what I want to be buried in and a veil and a white dress with my rosary in my hand would look nice, I think. Any opinions???
 
Squeakum said:
I think they are beautiful and although I just became Catholic I have only seen one woman wear one to church once. But I was wondering would it be appropiate to wear one once you have died and in the casket?? I always thought about what I want to be buried in and a veil and a white dress with my rosary in my hand would look nice, I think. Any opinions???
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I think that is a beautiful idea! But why wait till you’re dead? :heaven:
 
Jenny_Z said:
Woohoo! 😃 They have lots of simple designs on that website, I love it
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I placed my order yesterday for the plain sheer black one you posted above. She was amazing at returning my emails immedately, I’m impressed so far! 😃

Looking forward to getting it - I’ll let you all know what I think of it, and maybe have DH take a photo so you know what it looks like on. Maybe. :o

~Liza
 
Hi. I started wearing head coverings in ernest and have on order some lace shabbat veils also. A strange thing happened yesterday at mass. I felt pressure NOT to cover my head – like almost all the other women in my parish. So I removed my wool hat (it was cold out) before I went into the church. Then when I saw two ladies with little chapel veils, I put it back on. Funny, what subtle social pressure can do. I love wearing a lace veil in mass, but I don’t want to appear rebellious. So now sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t. However, there’s always something on my head, even if it’s just a big barette holding my hair in the back.
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I’m so excited… I’m waiting for it to come in the mail like it’s Christmas :extrahappy:

My husband seems very wary of the whole thing… he’s the type that thinks what you wear isn’t very important, and that God doesn’t care what you wear to church, as long as your heart is there. I’m not really sure what he thinks about the veil, he generally keeps to himself about things that bother him. 😦
 
I read elsewhere that black are for married women, white are for unmarried women. It could be more complex than that, but that’s what I remember. Anyone know for sure?
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My Grandma said this was technically true, but she had both a white and black mantilla; black for winter, white for summer. 😃

So while it was a practice I don’t think it was a very hard and fast rule, even back in the golden age of veiling. So many people have forgotten it by now that I’m betting you could wear whichever you choose.
 
I always hear white for unmarried, and black for married, but I don’t think it’s necessarily “a rule.” My mom said that when she was growing up she was never taught that. I have 2 black ones and a cream colored one. I am married, and usually do black just because I like the black a lot, but I’ll wear the cream colored one for Easter, Christmas, certain feast days, etc. I’ve seen some pretty navy blue ones, and I’d love to get one of those b/c blue is my favorite color! My cousin is not married, but I think she switches hers out too based upon what’s happening as far as the liturgical calendar goes…
 
I would imagine the whole color thing has gone much the way of - only a virgin wears white on her wedding, and second marriages must wear blue. Old customs that just aren’t practiced any more.

A lady at Mass had a navy blue one on a couple weeks ago with her navy blue trench coat, and it looked very nice.

I’ll stick with just the black one I’ve ordered, though I would like an ivory one too for warmer months, only because black just “feels” hot, even when you are in the aircon.

~Liza
 
catholicrocks said:
I have 2 black ones and a cream colored one. I am married, and usually do black just because I like the black a lot, but I’ll wear the cream colored one for Easter, Christmas, certain feast days, etc.
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That’s what I do 😃
 
You are right about the black feeling hotter. I just think the black is so pretty. Like I said before, I have 2 black ones, and one is a little less fancy and much lighter weight than the other one, which helps too. I’ve seen some really awesome looking ones on this thread and some of the others though that makes me want to order some that are different from what I already have. My cousin sews, and I know she’s made some of hers, so maybe I should get her to help me make some. That way I can pick out my own material/lace. I hate the lace ones that are so stiff and don’t lay down, or just don’t fall down your shoulders the way they should. They stick out, and it looks like you are going to take flight! :rotfl:
 
lizaanne said:
I would imagine the whole color thing has gone much the way of - only a virgin wears white on her wedding, and second marriages must wear blue. Old customs that just aren’t practiced any more.
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Hey I still agree with that. White is for a virgin getting married.

I always thought a second marriage was pink or some off-white or beige though. It used to be blue? That is strange. Blue was the Biblical “white” as far as virginity goes. That’s why the Blessed Mother wears blue.
 
Ladies, there are gorgeous veils for sale every day on Ebay. Put “mantilla” as your main search term, and, if you choose to customize your search, subtract words like doll, china, plate, comb, combs, bride, wedding, bridal, josefina, josephina, ray, card, baseball. This customization will help you get chapel veils and not dolls, china, baseball cards or wedding veils.

Devorah has lots of veils there, and so do others who make “vintage-style” new ones in all shapes and sizes. Most beautiful (to me) are the ones from France or Spain. Some of these are new, and some gently used.

The only drawback is that sometimes the really lovely ones get bid up to very high prices. I followed one beautiful cream-colored lace veil that ended up selling for over $150!! But many others can be had for less than $20.

Happy bidding!

Betsy
 
For those who want a more casual, un-noticed look, how about just a bandana folded in half “kerchief” style and tied underneath the hair at the back. (NOT underneath the chin at the front if you are under the age of 80! 😛 ) I first saw this style on pretty girls in Finland and thought it looked so cool that I copied it…long before I started wearing a headcovering in Mass.

Which was about six months ago BTW. I first attended a TLM about 12 months ago but did not immediately start veiling. It is not complusory at our TLM and is left up to each lady to decide if she wishes to cover or not. I wanted to be sure of my reasons for doing so and not just follow the crowd blindly. When I felt ready I bought a piece of vintage style crocheted lace from a material shop and just cut out a big triangle “kerchief” style. Took me about 30 seconds as it didn’t need edging. I tie it on just like a bandana under my hair at the back. It doesn’t cover all my hair as it is long, but covers most of it. I can’t wear the traditional kind of mantilla that is just draped over the head 'cos I am usually wreslting one (or all!) of our three wild lads. :rolleyes: I would like to buy one for those blissful times when I am able to go to Mass by myself. They are just so beautiful. The ladies look so serene and prayerful sitting there in them - they inspire me.

I wear a covering to both the TLM and the Novus Ordo. I did feel very conspicuious at the NO at first but I soon got used to it and realised that no one was looking at me anyway. 🙂 Well I do catch my DH sneaking peaks at me :o and he compliments me about 50 times every time I cover my head. I don’t really get why he loves it so much lol! I wear it only to show my humility before Our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament and for no one else. But I like that he likes it. :o

Oh wait, someone else did notice it last week. I heard a little voice call out “Hat!” and someone pulled my covering off my head! It turned out to be my own little 20 month old angel, in Daddy’s arms, at the perfect height to sabotage Mummy’s efforts to look prayerful and serene. :rolleyes: It’s funny…I gasped when he pulled it off…I felt so…naked! The covering is just part of my preparation to receive Holy Communion now. I don’t feel “right” walking into a Catholic church without it. It is a very, very humbling experience to cover one’s head. I simply cannot understand those who think that a woman would do so with a 'holier than thou" attitude. The act of covering one’s head is the very opposite I would think.

Lots of lovely head coverings here at this Protestant site:

wendysmodestdress.com/
 
I am an eBay freak!!! I never considered looking for them there! WOW!!! Now I’ll have to go look, and hopefully not get into TOO much trouble! 😃

~Liza
 
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