Expetations have to be reasonable. Not all children’s abilities are the same. Some are mathmatical minded, some write well, some can multitask better than others. So many parents parent like they are doing it out of a one size fits all manual, because they don not take the time to know what makes their child tick. Then when the child doesnt fit their one size fits all mode, they take their dislike of that out on the child. Get to know your children people!
Disdain is not a factor. The way I see it Those on welfare fall into two categories those who can’t and those who won’t (work or what ever). In these threads the discussions of the two tend to overlap. We need to treat both groups firmly but any harshness should be limmitted to those in the won’t. Those who can’t: are divided into two categories, those who have a physical limitation and those who have a mental limitation. For those with a physical limitation, we need to work to help maximize the opportunities for them to contribute. For those with mental limitations, we also ned to work as a society to help maximise the opportunities to contribute but we also need to provide them with protection from their limitations.
If you believe I don’t believe in correcting people. Just ask my 3 brothers and 4 sisters. They will set any questioning of that straight. But if we start correcting people, whoe’s standarsds are we going t use? If you use strict standards like my parent’s, expect riots out in the streets, and me to be at the head of them
We should help the people if the help does not make their situation worse.
FYI I don’t think any of us are concerned with the first time or occasional mistakes, The concern comes with the reccuring issues of those who after given several chances, keep making simmilar errors of judgement.
One of the advantages of not being touchy feely is that I am not easily offended. One of the disadvantages of being a creative thinker is that I am frequently mis-understood.
How about we use the standards of “chips are bad for you, apples are good for you” and “be a contributing member of society.” How about we use the standards of working hard not goofing off at work. Standards of good customer service. If we got these ideas through to the people who choose not to work, or can’t keep a job because they keep getting fired, then we’d be in better shape. We correct destructive behaviors.
I think that when it comes to standards, we have to allow those who have authority over the person to set the standards for that person. Like if we see someone on the job in a store but talking on the cell phone, we might say a kindly word to them, but otherwise leave it up to the boss of the person. Or if we see a problem customer, not talk with the customer ourselves, but talk with the manager about the problem.
As far as the riot I was using a super extreme example which is my mistake. Basically my parents treated their older children like **** and basically are now cut off from all but their 2 yougest children because how nasty of people they have become, but your way of speaking and thinking reminds me of my mother’s. You should pay good attention to that because of that attitude she is cutoff from all her grandchildren. The reason I got let go from my last job had nothing to do with goofing off, it had more to do with the fact that I wasn’t in the clique, which is what most big company jobs are about thesedays. I had a family friend lawyer look at my pemployee profile and he told me in any state that doesnt have the idiodic atwill employement law theyd have a defamation of character lawsuit and wrongfull firing lawsuit they would be sure to loose. Iv’e worked hard all my life, I’m still waiting for my reward.
Maybe the reason you’re not in the “clique” is the way you interact with others. Threatening riots, lynchings, larceny, and name calling generally doesn’t endear you to people. But because I think people shouldn’t be leeches means *I *have a nasty attitude? If you can’t get along with people, then don’t blame others that you don’t have a job.
As Catholics, we await our reward in Heaven.
Here are some statistics from DOL, Bureau of Labor Statistics data:
If you work some, but not enough, you get screwed over like I do.
Link?
The way I am in my personal life should have no effect on a job whatsoever. When applying for a job Im dressed up, soft spoken, and stick to the point( the job) Thats it. A job isn’t social hour, it is time to work and get things done. Anything else ie office politics, or personality cults serve no function in business and when those things hurt good workers are a sin. Basically when at work, I come to work with no mood good or bad and just do my job. . Its how you define leaches and the fact you harp on it that shows a nasty attitude, you are paranoid about it. You’d rather have millions die rather than one leach getting more than they deserve, which is a very unChristian attitude in the eyes of most. If this were 1970, I’d be hired in a job by now, but management even for typical general labor thinks outside the box even in industories that have nothing special about them. Jobs are not about getting thinks done anymore, they are about fitting in the clique.
My reward in heaven is too late. Because I don’t have my reward now, my wife’s health goes further into the toilet, my health goes further into the toilet, and I get further and further from living to my potential. You work for a job and heaven have no connection, its you personal life thats basis for heaven , not work life… I work for one reason and one reason only monatary goods. If the business makes a profit, I have a right to share in it when I work. Quite frankly now Id forgo any reward in Heaven to keep my house from being foreclosed on.Oh yes by foreclosing on me, they are foreclosing on a disabled person, my wife.
I used to feel that way, too, but what I figured out is that it is not up to me to decide how the game is played. If they want schmoozers, I’ll schmooze. I won’t violate my conscience or anything, but I need to accept that this is what is considered an important aspect of team-building or whatever. If they are paying me, then they get to set the rules.
Haven’t you heard the saying, “better dead than underfed.”
