Height in Relationships

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whatevergirl said:
It just makes me laugh, because it’s so inane to me to compare her husband to my husband, when talking about height. I was joking about it with my husband, and he said…yeah, but I’m smarter.😃 (Her husband is 6’4" something like that and mine is right at 6’) Big woop!😛
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Well, when people used to comment about my average-height husband who was shorter than me, I would just tell them, “Height only matters when you’re vertical, honey!” with a sly smile. That shut them up every time! 😃
 
I am 5’2" DH is 6’3", which is great because I can’t reach anything. Imagine had I married someone my height all of the things on top shelves that would forever be unused.
 
You see, the fact that you find it acceptable to make a jab at people with short stature and are shocked that someone finds it offensive speaks VOLUMES.
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I was saying that people shouldn’t compliment others on height in the presence of shorter people, for fear of offending them. No jab there, keep looking.
 
whatevergirl said:
Yes, I don’t mind the compliments. haha I am happy when someone says something nice about my kids…and of course they say other things. But, I have noticed this to be something that people say first, about my son, in particular. When he went to get his wisdom teeth pulled last week–the oral surgeon’s assistant said…‘so, do you get your height from your dad? it’s nice being so tall isn’t it?’ he wasn’t feeling well, and barely replied, but again–I took note that even a stranger commented on it.

I don’t know?🤷
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Well many people consider it an attractive or at least desirable feature to be tall (probably more so for men), so it’s not too strange.

Still, I wonder how your son feels about it. I found that it got repetitive after a while, though I still appreciated it and said my thank-yous.
 
I’m 6’6" and for the most part, it is a huge pain. People automatically assume it’s cool, or a huge advantage being tall, but it’s really not. Buying clothes is a pain. Very limited selection and no sales means I pay top dollar for generic stuff. Shoes are especially bad. I pretty much have to order shoes online which means there’s no way to try them on to make sure they fit. Ugh!

Cars are another problem. With gas prices going up, everyone I know is buying, smaller, more fuel efficient vehicles. Not me! I can’t fit in any of them! I’m stuck driving my Ford Explorer that gets 14 - 16 MPG. I spent a whole weekend car shopping last year and couldn’t find a single one that I could fit in. Either not enough leg room or not enough head room.

Not to mention I can’t go anywhere without complete strangers coming up to me asking how tall I am and where I played basketball or football. When I tell them I didn’t play either and that I’m a computer nerd, they always seem shocked. Also, it’s a pain being the defacto “can you reach that for me?” guy. If I could shave off 4 inches and be 6’2", I would do that in a heart beat.
 
Bataar said:
I’m 6’6" and for the most part, it is a huge pain. People automatically assume it’s cool, or a huge advantage being tall, but it’s really not. Buying clothes is a pain. Very limited selection and no sales means I pay top dollar for generic stuff. Shoes are especially bad. I pretty much have to order shoes online which means there’s no way to try them on to make sure they fit. Ugh!

Cars are another problem. With gas prices going up, everyone I know is buying, smaller, more fuel efficient vehicles. Not me! I can’t fit in any of them! I’m stuck driving my Ford Explorer that gets 14 - 16 MPG. I spent a whole weekend car shopping last year and couldn’t find a single one that I could fit in. Either not enough leg room or not enough head room.

Not to mention I can’t go anywhere without complete strangers coming up to me asking how tall I am and where I played basketball or football. When I tell them I didn’t play either and that I’m a computer nerd, they always seem shocked. Also, it’s a pain being the defacto “can you reach that for me?” guy. If I could shave off 4 inches and be 6’2", I would do that in a heart beat.
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So, do you think 6"3 and above is when people look at you as being ‘too tall’?
 
CarrieH said:
Well, when people used to comment about my average-height husband who was shorter than me, I would just tell them, “Height only matters when you’re vertical, honey!” with a sly smile. That shut them up every time! 😃
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:eek:

:rotfl:
 
Markstorm said:
Well many people consider it an attractive or at least desirable feature to be tall (probably more so for men), so it’s not too strange.

Still, I wonder how your son feels about it. I found that it got repetitive after a while, though I still appreciated it and said my thank-yous.
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Hi Mark;

Thankfully, my son is pretty down to earth, but I just don’t want him thinking that he is ‘better than’ anyone else. I am careful to teach that to my kids. Does that make sense?:o
 
Carrie: Your post gave me quite the chuckle, thanks!

Bataar: I sometimes forget what people on the opposite end of the spectrum go through. I have the opposite problem with cars, when I went to buy my first car, there were many I wanted to test drive but even with a chair cushion on the seat, I couldn’t see. I have a Civic, and to drive it I have to have 4 in pedal extendes, the seat put as high as it goes, and a cushion to drive it. It does make me grateful that it tends to be easier to modify things for shorter people than taller people when it comes to vehicles. I know my boyfriend had the same problem when it came to vehicles that you did.

The reaching thing is also a sensitive issue for us short people. When I go grocery shopping I climb the shelves all the time, if they don’t want me to do it, they shouldn’t put it out of my reach. 😉 I hate when I have to ask total strangers to reach stuff for me. I was in a college cafeteria and wanted to take an ice cream come to go, but they had them out of my reach. I ended up having to ask a total stranger to hand me one which was very awkward. I always feel bad when I have to do it, but unfortunately I don’t always have a lot of options. 😦
 
I’m 5’3" and DH is 6’1"

One of the first things that attracted me to him was his height. 😃
 
whatevergirl said:
Hi Mark;

Thankfully, my son is pretty down to earth, but I just don’t want him thinking that he is ‘better than’ anyone else. I am careful to teach that to my kids. Does that make sense?:o
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Haha if it makes sense to you, then go for it. At this point in my life, I’m still wondering what to do with myself, let alone how to raise kids. All I know is to raise them Catholic, and you’re doing that 🙂
 
EeyoresButerfly said:
The reaching thing is also a sensitive issue for us short people… I hate when I have to ask total strangers to reach stuff for me.
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If I see a “vertically-challenged” woman struggling, I will offer to get something for her from the upper shelves; I don’t wait for her to ask. I wouldn’t embarrass a short man by doing that, though, unless he was quite elderly. I consider it a corporal work of mercy. 🙂 And maybe someday, when I’m old and arthritic and can’t easily bend over, the shorter folks will repay my kindness by helping me reach items on the lower shelves. The floor is a long ways away when your shoulders are five feet up!

One time I was in a store where I wanted something from the highest shelf, which I could easily reach on tip-toe. There was a sign which said, “Please ask for assistance to get items from top shelf.” So I rang the bell…and out came this petite little gal to help me! It was pretty funny. I told her “never mind,” and went ahead and got the item myself. :o
 
I’m 6’5’’ tall and most of my exes and could have beens have been slightly taller than average.
 
EeyoresButerfly said:
Carrie: Your post gave me quite the chuckle, thanks!

Bataar: I sometimes forget what people on the opposite end of the spectrum go through. I have the opposite problem with cars, when I went to buy my first car, there were many I wanted to test drive but even with a chair cushion on the seat, I couldn’t see. I have a Civic, and to drive it I have to have 4 in pedal extendes, the seat put as high as it goes, and a cushion to drive it. It does make me grateful that it tends to be easier to modify things for shorter people than taller people when it comes to vehicles. I know my boyfriend had the same problem when it came to vehicles that you did.

The reaching thing is also a sensitive issue for us short people. When I go grocery shopping I climb the shelves all the time, if they don’t want me to do it, they shouldn’t put it out of my reach. 😉 I hate when I have to ask total strangers to reach stuff for me. I was in a college cafeteria and wanted to take an ice cream come to go, but they had them out of my reach. I ended up having to ask a total stranger to hand me one which was very awkward. I always feel bad when I have to do it, but unfortunately I don’t always have a lot of options. 😦
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When I was pregnant, I had the hardest time with driving. My belly got HUGE. Normally, I pull the seat up very close to the steering wheel, so I can touch the pedals. When I was pregnant my belly rested on the steering wheel(it had an air bag). I asked the dr if this was safe and she said, “No, don’t drive.”

My hubby got permission to drive me to my appointments from his boss-a male. But the FEMALES that he worked with were awful. I don’t know why but they were really annoyed that he took time off work for me.😦

My husband is six foot, not an extreme height, but people are always stopping him to ask if he will reach things from higher shelves. Strangely they will stop him even if their are taller people near by. He doesn’t mind doing this for people, but he is a sweet heart.🙂
 
This thread puts me in mind of my sister - she’s about 5’1" if that, and her husband would be at least 6’5" or 6’6" if not taller.

Their wedding photos are really cute.
 
I looked it up.The National Organization of Short Statured Adults is an acutal organization for men under 5’ 7" and women under 5’2"(That is me:D )

One of their points, which makes sense to me, is that children who come from short parents and are simply genetically short should not be given growth hormone. Apparently some kids who don’t have a defiency of growth hormone are given drugs to make them grow taller.

Being shorter then average, by itself, should not be something that parents try to cure. Besides if you child has normal growth hormone, why would anyone want to add more hormones into their little bodies?

.en.wikipedia.org/wiki/National_Organization_of_Short_Statured_Adults
 
I made a completely innocent, but highly embarassing remark once. Fortunately, it was only to my wife. We were at the wedding of one our friends. The lady is 5’2" and the guy is 6’4". So there is a huge height difference. Apparentely the height runs in the lady’s family. Her father is just over 5’. Shorter than his daughter. I did not know this, so at the beginning of the ceremony, the father is standing between the daughter and the her soon to husband, but to me he looked like he was kneeling, so I asked my wife why was he kneeling. Of course, she won’t let me live that down.
 
Yes NOSSA is real. Their website is www.nossaonline.org. It is a brand new oganization. Many of the organizations that help people of short stature are focused primarily on dwarfism and have few resources for people who do not have dwarfism but are still shorter than average.This organization aims to remedy that. One of the topics is using growth hormone on children to make them taller. My parents are both average height. The Dr. I saw at my first college was also an endocrinologist and told me had I been his patient when I was younger, he would have put me on growth hormone (in his defense he assumed I had a deficiency).

Another thing they look at is an issue known as heightism, especially in the work place. Many studies have shown that people of shorter stature are more likely to get paid less and less likely to receive a promotion than people of average or tall stature. Recent studies have shown that people perceive people of short stature to be weak and non-authoritative while they perceive people of taller stature to be authoritative and good leaders, most people don’t even realize they have these perceptions. One study that we are working to fight is one that looked at the cause of workplace discrepancies and concluded that people of short stature have lower IQs than people of average or tall stature- I kid you not! Here is a direct quote from their paper: “In this paper, we offer a simpler explanation: On average, taller people earn more because they are smarter.” Most people of average height do not realize just how pervasively short stature can affect a person’s life. From dangers of being killed by airbags that are tested for much taller and heavier people to an inability to find professional clothes (something that is getting better everyday, thankfully!) there are many little things that this world is not built for short people.
 
deb1 said:
My hubby got permission to drive me to my appointments from his boss-a male. But the FEMALES that he worked with were awful. I don’t know why but they were really annoyed that he took time off work for me.😦
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They were envious, plain and simple. :rolleyes: I’ll bet their husbands never went to such lengths to assure their comfort and safety.
 
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