I am going to enjoy this dialogue ^_^.
I think we share mutual ground and can get passed some barriers that would otherwise be up.
Definitely – common ground is important

For example, I’m not a Nietzschean immoralist who is questioning the value of compassion or of refraining from injury to others (though I did study Nietzsche for many years).
My disagreements with Nietzsche, in a nutshell, are twofold: 1. he believed that morality was “anti-nature” and a denial of the will to live, but he underestimated the role of *natural *sympathy in human behavior (“no beast so fierce but knows some touch of pity”); 2. his own psychology valued strength (power) over weakness, but he failed to identify the weakness that is inherent in cruel behavior (which is often fear-driven and reactive) and, conversely, the strength that is inherent in kind or forgiving behavior (many Christians would agree, I think, that forgiveness is for the inwardly strong). He saw Christ as the ultimate weakling, whereas “loving one’s enemies” is the ultimate in inner strength. All of this can be debated, but can be more or less objectively grounded in terms of p(name removed by moderator)ointing the underlying motivates of human behavior (e.g., “he bullied that person in order to feel better about himself, because he feels bad about himself – which is a form of weakness or lack”).
think if we go back to all of the positive arguments for God, or if we concede to a divine revelation, God’s existence and goodness become evident.
I can experience the qualities of
human beings as evidence of transcendent value in the universe, or as a kind of “revelation.” I’m speaking of qualities as basic as charm, humor, or wit; or the smile of a child. The same can go for animals too, of course (canines, for instance). Living creatures seem the best intuitive evidence for transcendence. I’ve sometimes had the thought or the feeling – admittedly subjective – that, “humans – even by virtue of humor, wit, and charm – seem too special or valuable to simply be destroyed with death…” That could be the ultimate in egoism, but it doesn’t
feel that way, at times. Still, I acknowledge that it may tell us more about ourselves, then it does about the universe. We just can’t know for sure, but we can certainly hope
we or ought we desire to survive? This is the point of Virtue Ethics, which is a form of Ethics I think you would like.
I do think that the desire for self-preservation and for “happiness” is so fundamental, that denying it is almost as paradoxical as denying’s one’s reasoning mind (e.g., like asking, “why *ought *we not to speak in gibberish?”) Even if someone says, “if I thought my only goal in life were to be happy, I would kill myself”, he would be killing himself – because he is
unhappy at the idea. Paradoxically, the idea that there is
more to life than being happy – would leave him feeling happy
If one at least grants the desire for happiness to be as foundational to our human makeup as reason itself, then it is much easier to ground certain “objective” guidelines to human behavior, based on the conditional, “
if you want to be happy, you ought to…” For example, food and water are good places to start, objectively speaking. Affection, or human contact, is another essential ingredient to happiness (even reading a book is a form of companionship,
in absentia; in some ways, it is an even more
intimate form of companionship). Cultivating virtues such as patience, gratitude, kindness, self-awareness, can also be argued as essential ingredients of happiness (even though a few of these virtues are traditionally viewed as primarily “altruistic” in nature). In this vein, I recently encountered the saying, “the first to apologize is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest.” Ethics has been reinforced by psychological insight.
happiest person is the person who is best able to fulfill their “essence” or their purpose as a being. This is why the building of one’s character will lead them to ultimate happiness. Building one’s character is what grows them into the fulfillment of their essence as a human person.
This I agree with. If human beings were reptiles – not mammals – then a social or altruistic ethic likely would not be appropriate to our nature or to our requirements for happiness. There’s something relativistic about this, as well – what’s good for human beings may not be good for non-humans.
could have been created to seek out vice and foolhardy pleasures.
This too I can agree with, in terms of the specific behaviors that you’re referencing with the labels of “vice” and “foolhardiness.” Human beings
could be constituted in such a way that indulgence in sex, drugs, or alcohol were the fundamental ingredients to a happy life. Someone like Epicurus acknowledged that, if sensual indulgence
did lead to lasting happiness, then virtue would consist in pursuing sensual indulgence to the exclusion of all else. But because he saw evidence to the contrary, he placed other things much higher in terms of being essential ingredients for happiness – emotional bonds and companionship, for example.