Help! I need advice for disciplining my boys!

[mass4life]

Don’t talk…act. By this time, your children know what you expect of them. Quit talking, get up and make them do what you say. Physically lift him off the couch. Put him in the corner, MAKE HIM STAY. Pay no attention to disrespectful names. Make him stay there for the alotted time even if you have to put him back 50 times. Number one rule…less talk…MORE ACTION.

 

[BLB_Oregon]

mass4life:

Don’t talk…act. By this time, your children know what you expect of them. Quit talking, get up and make them do what you say. Physically lift him off the couch. Put him in the corner, MAKE HIM STAY. Pay no attention to disrespectful names. Make him stay there for the alotted time even if you have to put him back 50 times. Number one rule…less talk…MORE ACTION.

That’s it, in a nutshell. Oh, and get a grip on your own anger. Disciplining is your job. It’s nothing to lose your temper about.

Then, when it is all over, get over it. Kids live in the moment. Consequences may go on (no tv today), but don’t forget to respond to how they’re behaving now.

 

[Princess_Abby]

mass4life:

Don’t talk…act. By this time, your children know what you expect of them. Quit talking, get up and make them do what you say. Physically lift him off the couch. Put him in the corner, MAKE HIM STAY. Pay no attention to disrespectful names. Make him stay there for the alotted time even if you have to put him back 50 times. Number one rule…less talk…MORE ACTION.

This is exactly right.

 

[sparkle]

mom of 3 boys:

I have 3 boys, aged 3, 2, & 7 months. My two older boys are out of control. They don’t respect me & listen to what I am telling them.
They know they are loved very much & I am not comfortable with spanking them. Some of my friends are trying to give me advice, such as spanking them ( mostly the oldest one ) one good time with a spoon. Can anyone out there give me some advice? I feel like I’ve read all the books…spanking is okay, spanking is harmful to them, etc, etc. I just feel that what I am doing is not working.
I currently use counting, and it worked for a while, but now my oldest is just really defiant! He stands on the couch & jumps off it. I tell him all day every day not to do it. He punches his brother & talks back to me, the list goes on and on…
Please help!!!

Gosh --it is hard isn’t it? I CAN RELATE. I have 3 boys too–only older. I thought the toddlers were hard–just wait till you have teenagers–then the disrespect and bad language starts.

Sounds like you’re doing a great job! The counting–, etc.

Use time outs, swatting OK, on occasion–not down-right beating though–swats are better. VERY IMPORTANT–believe me boys NEED physical release as in sports, swimming, running around, climbing–at the park, wherever. I would suggest doing some activity DAILY that will wear them out. Do you have a YMCA near you? JOIN IT!!! They have swimming for kids, toddlers play classes, etc. Is there a Gymboree? JOIN IT. Go to every play class you can find to let them let it all out. Then come home have lunch, kids their naps, while you read or watch EWTN. This is the only thing that saved my sanity when my kids were your kids’ ages. Even now, my kids need their weight training, B-Ball, soccer and all SPORTS!!! Otherwise they’d kill each other, and I’d be in a mental hospital. LOL

Good Luck–don’t forget what a wonderful mom you are~~