HELP! My 21 daughter wants an abortion

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Thank you all for the wonderful prayer support, so many are praying! at clinics and prayer groups and homes. The compassion and faith is humbling.

My daughter was exhausted after work and called instead of coming over.With counseling, the ultrasound then a four hour shift, I’m not surprised. She is so frightened and alone right now. I brought her to a very good Catholic counselor yesterday morning, one she worked with before. We’ve been the Life Center twice, though last time she ran out without talking to the counselor after the ultrasound. I spoke to her briefly and it seemed as though a part of her had just shut down. She seemed to be further from God than ever. My belief is that the only thing that has saved this baby so far is her lack of money, but her friends are trying to ‘help’ her. I believe that she is far enough along that she would be looking at a D & E procedure at this stage. The cost, I believe, is significantly more. Since she left so quickly I am not sure that she knows this yet.

This beautiful young addict/alcoholic who found the courage and strength to get clean & sober at 18 has been sober for 2.5 years. I’ve even talked with her about how this will jeopardize her recovery. So many young girls turn to drugs and alcohol to cover the pain of abortions and encouraged her to go back to meetings, just for support.

We’ve told her that we are here for her if she chooses to raises this child, if she chooses to put it up for adoption and that I cannot support her if she chooses to kill this child. Our relationship will change and I will not longer be the one to call when the car breaks down or she needs rent money. I will have someone else help her small college fund. I no longer want to be this great a part of her life, if it doesn’t include m grandchild. It is so complicated rejecting the sin and loving the sinner! She’s my only child and I’m her only family.

As time goes in, it is harder to Love as I become closer to panic. God help me find the compassion, understanding and help me to let go of myself and my desires enough to be His instrument and be completely open to His desire and His will for us all.

I’ve written a letter to my first grandchild, this poor precious baby and am praying constantly and ever remind myself to place my grandchild in His capable hands.

God has been moving in our lives these past days and I am deeply grateful to all of you for your prayers.

I pray that each day that baby lives is a day of hope.
Maggie
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Maggie my heart breaks for you.I can see you are trying to be a really good mother to her.Perhaps you could raise the child together then maybe she wouldnt have to be so afraid?God bless
Lord please help Maggie to guide her daughter to do Your will.Please grant her strength and courage to say the right things in the right way.May she be able to show love and support to her daughter no matter what she decides as she is not thinking clearly.Grant the daughter will soften her heart and open her mind to Your will.May she hear You calling her Lord and understand the innocent child within.Lord please heal this situation and help mother and daughter and unborn baby.In Jesus name Amen
 
Just for clarity. We have offered. Of course she would not be raising the child alone. My husband, her stepfather, has said that she can come live with us until she gets some money saved up and the baby is born. I will always be here for here, supporting her, if she has this child.

If she does not, I do not know yet what I am willing to do or not do, I am asking for God’s guidance. I will always love her. If she has the child and gives it up or decides to raise it I will do everything possible to help her. I cannot and will not participate in the death of our grandchild and am having a hard time considering being a part of a future that was wrought from the death of a innocent, however misguided my daughter may be.

She’s told me that she respect my beliefs. My answer was that this is not about beliefs. You don’t believe a baby into or out of existence, a baby just IS. This baby is here.

Thank you for all the prayers, every day that this baby is alive is a day of hope. May the Blessed Mother wrap her loving arms around Katherine and her child. May God send his Holy Spirit to open her heart and may be allowed, through God’s Grace to fight the influences of the ‘friends’ who think that they are helping her. May St. Joseph, protect of the Most Innocent and of the family, keep this child safe from harm and keep her from the suffering that she, too, would bear if she continues as planned. And may God forgive me the anger that I am beginning to feel, help me to push my pride aside and be wholly and completely His instrument.

I am profoundly grateful for the continued prayers and know that God is present in this.

Maggie
 
Good for you for telling her your relationship will change if she has the abortion. God forgives but he does hold us accountable for our actions. If she makes a choice you do not like, you can forgive in your heart but you do not have to forget. Perhaps explain to her that your trust will be broken if she goes through with it and as a human it will be hard for you to trust again. Although, perhaps at this point she is sick of hearing it and won’t be receptive. I pray God gives you the words
 
Maggie my love and prayers for you at this time.You are a great mother!
Lord please guide Maggie to help her daughter.Please bless Maggie her daughter and the unborn baby.Please fill the dughters heart with love for her child that she will not be misguided by her friends.Please send Your Holy Spirit upon the daughter that she will open her heart and mind to Your will.Lord in Your mercy hear our prayers Amen
 
cmscms said:
Good for you for telling her your relationship will change if she has the abortion. God forgives but he does hold us accountable for our actions.
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This is so hard! I told her that our relationship already has changed and, I believe that she realizes this. I have also told how that I am so frightened for her, and the suffering that she will go through if she does this. This cannot be undone. It will never go way" It is like balancing on a tightrope, high in the air where a mistake can be deadly, and holding on of those long poles with the weight of Love on one side and the weight of Truth on the other.
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Although, perhaps at this point she is sick of hearing it and won’t be receptive. I pray God gives you the words
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You may be right, that she is tired of hearing it. I have not constantly bombarded her with the Truth, though the Human part of me wants to.Truth is simple and beating her with it over and over will distract, anger and only push her further away. I know my daughter, attacking her will send her running to a Clinic. I have gathered all the data together, highlighting key point in my Abortion books to refresh my facts, I have the silent scream and In the Womb, other videos and letters on the internet, her baby picture, and have even written a letter to my grandchild. I will post a draft separately.

I pray constantly for God’s guidance as to when I’m to use the armaments that I have gathered. This IS a spiritual war and I believe that the only way to win is through Love and Truth and opening myself completely to God, in spite of my sins, and beg for His intercession.

She has not gotten to the abortion clinic yet and I know that she is, likely, 16 - 18 weeks along. That’s almost half way! She would need the initial ultrasound for the clinic to ascertain the age, so there is a little time to give her space to come to terms with all of this and every day brings hope. I believe that God has impressed upon my heart to give her some space to deal with the crucial facts that I have shared already and the child inside of her. I pray constantly to not be led by my emotions, but by God’s will.

I pray that she will feel the first flutters of life soon, she could at any time. The type of abortion that she is looking at now is a very difficult one and she does not deny that this is a baby. It is a spiritual blindness.

I know this is a prayer petition area. I post this not in pride, but in HOPE. Having gone back to read other posts in hopes for ideas I realized what I post here will be seen by others. My prayer is that, even if we cannot safe this precious child, perhaps my words can help to safe another. There are so many suffering today!

Thank you, humbly and profoundly, for all the prayers. May we storm heaven with prayers for Katherine and for all the women who are struggling and suffering with the every moment.

Maggie
 
*Dear Child,

I am praying for you with every breath in me. How helpless you are! You are already beautifully and wonderfully made, God’s creation. A miracle. I’ve been reading about you. You are such a treasure. I wonder, with all that is going around you, what it feels like to be where you are. I know your nervous system is formed, your heart has been beating steadily for so many weeks, you have everything that you need now. Do you have a your mother’s eyes? Science tells us the physical, but can you feel? Does your Mother’s heartbeat comfort you like it does for baby kittens? Are you loving the floating feeling? Do you feel safe and content?

I do not know what your future holds, but many people are praying that you will have a long, joyful and wonderful life. Dearest child, I ache to hold you in my arms and protect you, to make everything ok and to keep you safe. If only I had the power to do so, I would carry you myself!

What I have is Truth and Love and these in abundance. I pray ferverently that this will be enough. This suffering that will unfold if we lose you. The sorrow I feel now is like nothing I have ever felt before, If feels like you’ve already died. I mourn and my heart is broken. How could I go on enjoying the touch of a hand, the warmth of the sun or the beautiful of loving another human being knowing that these things were so brutally taken from you?

My first grandchild, my beloved and precious baby. If you are taken from us, will you be able to forgive your Mother for the terrible choice that she has made? This world is such a confusing one. Many are misled until it’s too late. So many lives have been lost, I pray that yours will not be among them. Are there any words that will matter, that will give us the joy of loving you and watching you grow, as your mother has grown into such a beautiful person? Can you ever forgive me if I can’t find the words to save you?

I pray that we will be blessed to watch you grow. Will we be able to cope with the knowledge that we will only see you in heaven? I am so profoundly sorry my dear child. How can this be? I long so for you!

I know that God has a special place for you, just as you will always have a special place in my heart. I pray for peace for you, for my child, and I pray, ever so passionately, for life, for you and for your mother.

Your loving grandmother,
Maggie

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Praying that she loses her fear of having the baby and that she gives birth to a healthy child …

Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Praying hard for your daughter to make the right choice. She can put the precious child up for adoption and make some couple very happy and let her child have life to live and enjoy.
 
St_Gabriel said:
Praying that she loses her fear of having the baby and that she gives birth to a healthy child …

Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
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Amen
 
O Lord, Holy Father, omnipotent and eternal God, I give You thanks and I bless Your holy name. I know I’m a poor miserable sinner but hear a cause that is just, pay heed to my cry, turn your ear to my prayer, no deceit is on my lips. Amen

Continued prayers……

For your intentions

Glory be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, as it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end. Amen.

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name; thy kingdom come; thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread; and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us; and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. Amen.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now, and at the hour of our death. Amen.

Lord Jesus, hear my prayer, listen to my cry for help. Amen

“If God brings it to you- God will bring you through it.”
 
Hail Mary the Lord is with thee
Blessed art thou among women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,Jesus
Holy Mary Mother of God
pray for us sinners now
and at the hour of our death Amen
 
Kilo1Mike21 said:
“If God brings it to you- God will bring you through it.”
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This I know and, though I ache with mourning for this child, I will bear whatever God brings willingly, gratefully, but I still mourn for this child and for what is happening to my beloved daughter.

I know that we are not to be afraid, but I cannot help but be afraid for both of them. It is not for me that I beg your prayers, it is for them and only to guide me. I gratefully accept whatever God puts into my life. My God, please can I suffer any other way? not the death of an innocent? I have been begging forgiveness for all those things I’ve done that have influenced her, for the things I haven’t said and the wrong choices that I made in my past. Let me suffer, please do not let my sins cause suffering in my offspring. Forgive me, God, my failings.

Anger is growing in me, in spite of my (and other’s) constant prayer for Love and guidance and Hope. I believe that it is a righteous anger, but how do you know? I want to give her all the baby things that I’ve saved, because they were for my first grandchild, I want to tell her that if she does this thing, I cannot be a part of her life. I support recovery (she’s an addict) and I support Life, I do not support active addiction and I do not support death. I did everything I could to help her when she was ready to find sobriety and I will do everything to help her when she accepts this life. I pray she will do so before, not after a foolish choice.

God help me in what may be our last conversation tomorrow evening. Give me the words that You will, not those from my own pride and fear. Help my husband and I know how to Love and show compassion without making it easier for her to choose death.

I want to go to her friends house and thank her for giving my daughter the $850 dollars to kill my grandchild. Yes, that is the cost of this human life at almost 4 months.

Dear Lord, wrap your arms around my child and my grandchild tonight. I am placing them in Your care. May the Blessed Mother find it in her heart to petition her son to save this grandchild, as she saved my daughter from abuse when she was so small. You answered my prayers then, Our Lady Most Holy, may you and your beloved Spouse, Protector of the Family watch over them and keep them safe. If this anger is Your will, help me to use it as you desire, not to satisfy me.

St. Augustine said that Hope has two daughters, Anger and Courage. I’ve tried Love and Compassion that that has not worked. Perhaps it’s time to let her go.

Lord help us.
Lord graciously hear us.
Protect us.
Guide us.
Heal us.

Amen,
Maggie
 
Father please guide our friend Maggie for the next time she speaks with her daughter.Please guide her that she will know the words to say,the feelings to impart and the love and support to show.My heart breaks for maggie as she tries so hard to lead her daughter to save her grandchild.Please Lord grant the daughter opens her heart and mind and recognises that even though she feels she cannot be a mother she can have the baby adopted.The daughter is frightened and has addictions so she is worried she wont be able to cope.Fill her with confidence and courage that she can endure the pregnancy until the end.Please bless maggie,her daughter and the unborn grandchild.Lord Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.Lord have mercy on the daughter as she contemplates abortion and no matter what may this child have Your love and protection here on earth and in heaven.Lord in Your mercy hear our prayers.Amen
 
Praying for your family - and especially that your daughter will have a change of heart.

~Liza
 
Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of death.

Amen.
 
I wanted to thank everyone for their continued prayers. So far, my daughter has done nothing about getting an abortion. Three weeks ago she said that she would do so within the next two weeks, or give the baby up for adoption, my prayer is that she has decided to do the latter. Truth is, she doesn’t know what to do and is very, very lost right now… Instead, she seems to be avoiding the issue and just focusing on school and work and is very tired.

We met today, but I did not broach the topic with her. With her current schedule, nothing will happen this week anyway and brow-beating her will just push her away from me and from Truth. I have been very clear about what is right and why. I will see her again on Friday.

Please keep praying for her, for this baby and to guide my words. Pray, too, for ALL the young women and families who are wrestling with this difficult issue. So many are misled! It is heartbreaking.

I am so grateful to all of you.

Each day brings Hope.

God bless,
Maggie
 
Maggie you are doing an excellent job of guiding your daughter.The Lord is surely guiding both of you through this.My prayers are with you your daughter and grandchild God bless

Our Father who art in heaven
hallowed be thy name
thy kingdom come
thy will be done
on earth as it is in heaven
give us this day our daily bread
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us
lead us not into temptation
but deliver us from evil
Amen

Glory be to the Father
and to the Son
and to the Holy Spirit
as it was in the begining
is now and ever shall be
world without end
Amen

Hail Mary full of grace
the Lord is with thee
blessed art thou among women
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,Jesus
Holy Mary Mother of God
pray for us sinners
now and at the hour of our death
Amen

Father
We know You hear our prayers and we are so grateful to You.We love You above all things.We ask You would continue to guide Maggie and her daughter.May the daughters heart be softened and her mind be open to Your will.Father grant Maggie strength and courage to continue to be a good role model to her daughter.Grant her the wisdom to know the words to say and actions ot take or not take.We know all things are possible with You.Theough Jesus Christ our Lord Amen
 
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