Holding hands during Pater Noster — Why?

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Nearby parish has stopped the sign of peace, presumably due to flu. Some people persist, well into the Agnus Dei (Lamb of God). I guess they don’t understand how profoundly holy that prayer is, how it should command all one’s attention. Oh, well.
 
Nearby parish has stopped the sign of peace, presumably due to flu. Some people persist, well into the Agnus Dei (Lamb of God). I guess they don’t understand how profoundly holy that prayer is, how it should command all one’s attention. Oh, well
That happened Christmas eve at our parish. Our parish isn’t doing the sign of peace due to flu but one lady who had 2 rows of family with her insisted. She started her family and many around her turning around, greeting and laughing until one of her older family members told her to stop. All during the Agnus Dei. 🙁
 
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I guess it’s just poor catechism. Still, common sense should prevail. How is, “Lamb of God, you take away the sins of the world, have mercy on us” an occasion for merriment?

I think music can play a role. Sometimes the accompaniment doesn’t have much solemnity.
 
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I did not imply any such thing. It is a sign of community; as there are many other signs of community.

The bottom line is that the fuss is by people who don’t like it. That is fine, but I an beyond tired of all the “reasons” they scoop up to try to outlaw it. That is Rome’s issue, not the laity; and a segment of the laity has been kvetching about it for 50 years.

I most sincerely do not have a dog in the fight. I don’t really care about the issue one way or the other; if someone next to me reaches out to hold hands, our of charity I will hold hands; if they do not reach out, out of charity I will not reach out. It is not the problem that people make it out to be; and that is what grinds on me. it is not prohibited, and I get it that some people don’t like it. If Rome wants to prohibit it, that is fine with me too; and if they don’t, then perhaps we can let go of the issue?
 
That is fine, but I an beyond tired of all the “reasons” they scoop up to try to outlaw it. That is Rome’s issue, not the laity; and a segment of the laity has been kvetching about it for 50 years.
I would probably say as the topic keeps coming up by new members, it bothers people and so will continue to come up. Perhaps if it bothers you to hear the continued discussions regarding this subject, perhaps avoid these threads.
If Rome wants to prohibit it, that is fine with me too; and if they don’t, then perhaps we can let go of the issue?
As said above it will more than likely continue to be discussed. Just avoid these threads.
 
I did not imply any such thing
The adjective necessarily in the statement " nor necessarily the most significant one". seems to imply it might be, at least that’s how I interpret it.
If you would have written the phrase “though not the most significant one”, then it would not have implied what I claimed.
 
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Son,and I do not hold anyone’s hands during it.I mean The missal said “stand” and I stood, the missal said “sit” and I sat, the missal said “kneel” and I knelt. The missal never said “hold hands” or “raise your hands in the air” etc., so I didn’t, but others do. I don’t get that.
 
@savedbychrist, I didn’t click on the link as I limit my data use. The picture shows a beautiful church, huge paintings on the walls. Is it in Hong Kong? I hope you are able to worship freely in Hong Kong, I had heard it might be difficult.
 
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Well, your interpretation was wrong.

We have plenty of significant issues in the Church, and holding hands is way, way down the list below anything which is critical.

Critical: The abysmal numbers of those in the ages of 18 to 29 who attend Mass regularly (CARa put it at about 18% ); Or Bishop Barron’s recent comment that the “Nones” (no church affiliation) across the board in the 20%+ range, which the baptized Catholics who have no affiliation with the Church is 50% and climbing.

Critical: the sheer lack of catechetical knowledge of those in the 45 to 60 age range; who in turn had children who knew even less, to their children, who likely have not seen the door of a parish with the possible exception of baptism.

I could go on, but I suspect you get the point.
 
The missal never said “hold hands” or “raise your hands in the air” etc., so I didn’t, but others do. I don’t get that.
What do you do with your hands, according to the missal? I was always taught to have my hands folded in front of me during the Our Father, but the missal doesn’t say to do that. And the missal doesn’t say that we should have our hands down by our sides or held behind our backs. What is a conscientious cancel it to do if it is only permissible to do with our hands what the missal instructs?

( I am not a hand-raiser nor a hand-holder, but this argument makes no sense to me. These days my hands are mostly occupied taking care of my children and making sure they are standing and facing forward.)
 
I was always taught to have my hands folded in front of me during the Our Father
I think this is the answer to your question here. We are asked to pray and the posture for prayer is typically or traditionally hands folded in front of us. The same as during the other places during Mass when the priest says “let us pray”. The Missal doesn’t say what to do with our hands because for the most part it is assumed when we are asked to pray we pray with hands folded in front of us. If we are to do something different in a different place in Mass, such as during the Our Father, the Missal would say.
 
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I was always taught to have my hands folded in front of me during the Our Father
I think this is the answer to your question here. We are asked to pray and the posture for prayer is typically or traditionally hands folded in front of us. The same as during the other places during Mass when the priest says “let us pray”. The Missal doesn’t say what to do with our hands because for the most part it is assumed when we are asked to pray we pray with hands folded in front of us. If we are to do something different in a different place in Mass, such as during the Our Father, the Missal would say.
You mentioned folded hands.

Does the Church prefer straight fingers or interlaced?
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Am I less right if I prefer one of these hand positions over the others?

I just don’t see any evidence that the church intends to regulate what I, as an individual, do with my hands while praying The Lord’s Prayer, except that I should not be attempting to quasi-preside. People who hold their hands up or hold hands with their neighbors are not attempting to quasi preside.

It’s not my preference and makes me mildly uncomfortable, but I just really don’t see what the big deal is. Maybe it’s my Eastern Catholic background. While it is not the norm in my jurisdiction, we’ve had plenty of Melkite and Maronite visitors over the years and nobody really cares what they do with their hands during the Our Father.
 
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Well, your interpretation was wrong.

We have plenty of significant issues in the Church, and holding hands is way, way down the list below anything which is critical.
I certainly agree that it is way down the list of problems. My interpretation of the original line seems reasonable to me.
 
worship freely
The society is facing an unrest, but religion was not a target of attack, unlike universities. Churches have been affected and sometimes involved, but it’s not (yet) targeted, so freedom of religion is not affected too much until now.
 
I just don’t see any evidence that the church intends to regulate what I, as an individual, do with my hands while praying The Lord’s Prayer, except that I should not be attempting to quasi-preside. People who hold their hands up or hold hands with their neighbors are not attempting to quasi preside.
The Church doesn’t tell us we can’t clap our hands during the Our Father either but I am pretty sure it’s not something we should do.

My point was that there are other times during the Mass that we all pray and we do not hold hands or raise our hands. Coming from a “spirit of VII” background, I was told that we raise our hands along with the priest during the Our Father because we are all priests now in the universal priesthood. More than likely most people that do the hand raising have not heard that before and do it for other reasons I am not sure of.
In the video I linked earlier Father Ricardo states that the peoploe are to imitate the deacon and not the priest.
It’s not my preference and makes me mildly uncomfortable, but I just really don’t see what the big deal is.
In the scheme of things happening in the Church rightg now, it probably is not a big deal until the person is inconsiderate of the person next to them and holds their hand in the other person’s face. (something I have had happen twice. Our church is crowded).

As far as hand holding it is not probably a big deal either until you are forced to hold hands or someone squeezes an elderly woman’s hand so tight she is wincing or people start arm wrestling. All things I have seen happen.
 
Coming from a “spirit of VII” background, I was told that we raise our hands along with the priest during the Our Father because we are all priests now in the universal priesthood.
I always think back on what Cardinal Arinze said about when one starts to proscribe an added position, that is forbidden. Let people have some leeway, but don’t tell them what to do, as that is adding to the GIRM.

On a side note, my parish almost all hold hands. I told my priest yesterday about an experience I had in a rather traditions parish on vacation. My priest said he had not been in a parish that did this holding of hands too much until he arrived where he is now, about 25 years ago. He never saw it as anything worth addressing, what with all the other stuff that is more important, and has never had anyone complain. So in this parish, it is practical just to continue and focus on what matters more.
 
I always think back on what Cardinal Arinze said about when one starts to proscribe an added position, that is forbidden. Let people have some leeway, but don’t tell them what to do, as that is adding to the GIRM.
I would need to hear what he said in total context in order to comment on that.
On a side note, my parish almost all hold hands
We have a Lifeteen Mass at a different parish in the city from where I am and everyone holds hands at the Our Father. If you are new to that Mass you are pretty much forced to hold hands. You do not have a choice. To me this is adding something not in the GIRM. Needless to say I avoid it and actually the majority who attend are not teens but over the age of 65. (Nothing against that age. I am getting there myself.) Just very few teens are interested in that type of Mass.
He never saw it as anything worth addressing, what with all the other stuff that is more important, and has never had anyone complain
I agree that it is low on the issues going on in the Church, absolutely and in the parishes I do attend it seems to be fading out, very few do it, so many people would probably not complain.

I think after you have an incident of someone squeezing your hand too tight or such is when you see people complain and it is usually probably here or just to someone else when they get home.
 
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@babochka Son and I hold our hands like this
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I would need to hear what he said in total context in order to comment on that.

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The context was this: The GIRM came out with instructions on receiving Communion, and it was written in a way that said (and I am not quoting exactly) that upon returning from receiving, we were to stand until all had received. As it was written, it caused a lot of questions as previous to this edition of the GIRM, people would go back to their pews and kneel (or some sat) until all had received, then most sat (somewhere between reposing the Blessed Sacrament and ablution of the vessels) until we stood for the final prayer. It seemed a rather startling change, and someone (it may have been Cardinal George, but I do not recall; someone from the USCCB) sent a query, and Cardinal Sirah said that it was not intended to be a rigid rule; we could continue to stand in our pew after reception, kneel or sit. As written, it appeared rigid, which caused the widespread consternation.

Subsequent to that, about a year or two later (and after everyone in every parish I had been to, including Utah and Oregon) I attended mass in a parish near Loomis, California and saw all three postures. Not sure what that was all about; but the Cardinal’s answer was published in Catholic papers. I have not bothered to check, but there may have been a subsequent edition of the GIRM, as I have heard nothing further and seen no one standing after reception.
 
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