Home Birth Among Catholic Women?

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“Nurses will be in your room CONSTANTLY.”

Not really–there will be long stretches of not seeing anybody.

“You will get ZERO rest until baby is born.”

Yes–it’s called childbirth.

That said, a nice nap after the epidural is set up is just the thing to help a mommy rest up for the big event.

“Many hospitals prevent you from eating anything in case you have to have emergency surgery.”

Yes–aspirating food under general anesthesia can kill the mother.

“What they don’t tell you is that the “epi” will also slow your contractions and possibly stop them.”

The difference is not significant with contemporary doses. Here’s a post on the subject from a Canadian anesthesiologist.

theadequatemother.wordpress.com/2012/02/15/epidurals-and-progression-of-labour/

Also, it’s more tolerable to have a slightly longer painless labor than a slightly shorter excruciating labor.

“We also skip the “eye drops” since they are to treat gonorrhea. Do you have that STD? They started doing eye drops routinely because it was easier and cheaper than to test the mother to see if she had an STD.”

A lot of STDs are very quiet in the female carrier. Some women may be unaware that their husbands have not been perfectly faithful. Allowing a newborn baby to go blind is a heck of a thing to do to an innocent child just to show the doctors who is boss.

This sort of attitude about vaccines and standard hospital treatments for newborns and infants has been creating a public health nightmare.

"An investigation into the death of the girl - born in a regional Queensland hospital last year - heard that the mother, 30, wanted an entirely natural birth for her first baby.

"Ms Clements said in her findings: “As part of the birthing plan and, in accordance with her parents’ spiritual beliefs, the baby was not administered vitamin K after her birth, or any other medications.”

"The parents had made that decision despite being given information at an antenatal visit that newborn babies required vitamin K to prevent bleeding problems in the first few months after birth, the coroner said. She said the pregnancy was uneventful and the baby was born 10 days early in hospital.

"The baby was not given vitamin K - nor was she vaccinated for Hepatitis B - before the mother and baby went home a day after the birth. A month later, the mother noticed her baby had been sleeping a lot and was not feeding as much as usual.

"In the early hours of the next morning the mother saw the baby was limp and an ambulance was called.

"The baby was taken to the nearest hospital and then airlifted to Brisbane’s Mater Hospital, where a CT scan revealed the child had bleeding on the brain, the findings said.

"The baby was given plasma and vitamin K, but she died the next day.

“After an autopsy a pathologist concluded the cause of death was haemorrhages due to late onset vitamin K deficiency bleeding.”

couriermail.com.au/news/queensland/newborns-death-highlights-risk-of-not-having-vitamin-k/story-e6freoof-1226550664248

We shouldn’t be going a la carte with basic medical care for our babies.
 
I didn’t. I’ve given birth in hospitals only. Same for the other Catholic women I know.
 
“Nurses will be in your room CONSTANTLY.”

Not really–there will be long stretches of not seeing anybody.

Maybe for you, but our 8 times in different hospitals has proven otherwise.

“You will get ZERO rest until baby is born.”

Yes–it’s called childbirth.

That said, a nice nap after the epidural is set up is just the thing to help a mommy rest up for the big event.

Except that the statistics PROVES that this leads to a higher rate of complications and C-section births. Good for the hospitals bottom line.
“Many hospitals prevent you from eating anything in case you have to have emergency surgery.”

Yes–aspirating food under general anesthesia can kill the mother.

*What you fail to mention is that it is un-necessary in 99% of cases to do this. It is for the convenience of the doctor./*I]

“What they don’t tell you is that the “epi” will also slow your contractions and possibly stop them.”

The difference is not significant with contemporary doses. Here’s a post on the subject from a Canadian anesthesiologist.

theadequatemother.wordpress.com/2012/02/15/epidurals-and-progression-of-labour/

Also, it’s more tolerable to have a slightly longer painless labor than a slightly shorter excruciating labor.

“We also skip the “eye drops” since they are to treat gonorrhea. Do you have that STD? They started doing eye drops routinely because it was easier and cheaper than to test the mother to see if she had an STD.”

A lot of STDs are very quiet in the female carrier. Some women may be unaware that their husbands have not been perfectly faithful. Allowing a newborn baby to go blind is a heck of a thing to do to an innocent child just to show the doctors who is boss.

A baby will NOT go blind even IF it was contract this particular STD. You obviously don’t know what the symptoms are or you would not state that. It takes three to five WEEKS before infection would result in any time of damage to the eye. In this time the eyes would swell to almost three times their normal size, would have copious amounts of discharge, etc. No mother or father in the right mind would ignore these symptoms. The infant would be treated and there would be ZERO chance of complications. Counter that with the routine use of antibiotics that is PROVEN to result buildup of resistant bacteria.

This sort of attitude about vaccines and standard hospital treatments for newborns and infants has been creating a public health nightmare.

"An investigation into the death of the girl - born in a regional Queensland hospital last year - heard that the mother, 30, wanted an entirely natural birth for her first baby.

couriermail.com.au/news/queensland/newborns-death-highlights-risk-of-not-having-vitamin-k/story-e6freoof-1226550664248

We shouldn’t be going a la carte with basic medical care for our babies.

The risk of the Vitamin K SHOT is that it can cause fetal demise (death) as well. It is even listed in the insert as a possible side effect. Oral vitamin K is JUST AS EFFECTIVE and does not have any of the similar side effects. Vitamin K injected is NOT something that normally exists in the human body. It is a synthetic chemical that DOES have side effects. Oral vitamin K is natural and does NOT have side effects, yet most in the medical community have no clue that Vitamin K can be given orally. UW Madison researchers even found oral vitamin K to be just as effective if not MORE effective than the injectable form. Guess what the UW doctors were the ones pushing the injectable on us. I had to educate them on THEIR OWN RESEARCH. Read it here: ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/9875038

It has also been proven that if new mothers include Lacinato Kale in their diet for the first six weeks of their child’s life their breast milk with have significantly higher amounts of vitamin k present. One cup of kale provides 684% of the recommended adult dose of Vitamin K. This amount is easily added to a salad a few times a week and the vitamin k problem is NON-EXISTANT. The hospital does not get to make a sale on the vitamin k shot no bill for it’s administration. The doctors won’t tell a new mother how to eat healthy to keep her child healthy either. It is easier and more profitable to push a shot.

I no longer trust many of the doctors and the shots. The doctors don’t know the side effects when asked, they have to read the monographs themselves to find out what they are routinely giving their patients.

The HEP B vaccine is OVERLY pushed as well. Breast fed babies who are not in a daycare setting will have virtually ZERO risk of contracting Hep B.

Most of the vaccines that are routinely given today have mercury or a mercury derivative as a preservative. Please watch the university of Calgary’s video on how mercury denudes neuronal fibrils while they are forming and destroys intact neurons. This is DIRECT VISUAL EVIDENCE of the damage it can cause: youtube.com/watch?v=XU8nSn5Ezd8 This same exposure comes from vaccines that have mercury or mercury derived substances.

It is NO co-incidence that the number children with autism and other brain/neuron problems is on the upswing. It is NOT just better diagnosis.
 
Kelly’s response is VERY typical of hospital births. Doctors think they are GOD and dismiss MUCH of what a mid-wife or other non-doctor might suggest. Hospital births are not treated like BIRTHS. They are treated like a surgery or a disease.

We have 8 children now and over the last 13 years we have seen hospitals that are overly pushy on MANY un-necessary things to the point of us having to educate and dismiss doctors suggestions. Here are just a FEW things that MAY happen in a hospital that usually DON’T happen at home:
  1. Your admitted to the triage area. You are in PAIN and not thinking clearly. You will consent to almost anything they tell you when you are pain. Unless your husband has been around the block a few time he will probably be petrified and defer to you.
  2. This leads to you being hooked up to all kinds of sensors, BP Cuff, Fetal monitor, heart rate monitor, contraction monitor, etc.
  3. Nurses will be in your room CONSTANTLY. You will get ZERO rest until baby is born.
  4. Many hospitals prevent you from eating anything in case you have to have emergency surgery.
  5. They will push epidurals on you to kill the pain. Many women want to kill the pain, it is terrible. What they don’t tell you is that the “epi” will also slow your contractions and possibly stop them. They will then want to give you Pitocin to make them start again. “Pit” will usually make contractions VERY intense. So much for “natural” child birth.
  6. You will be laying in a bed and unable to get around with all of the monitors hooked up. My wife wanted to walk so I just removed all the monitors so she could walk. Hospital staff does NOT like this. Some hospitals are catching on and now use wireless monitors so the mother and can get around, but most hospitals do not have this technology.
  7. If you are at a teaching hospital, expect to have medical students staring at you and possibly “treating” you. Remember that form you signed that gave them permission to “treat” you and you absolving them from ANY liability for a mistake?
Sorry to be so negative, but American style hospital births suck. The doctors and staff in many places are NOT there to support you in giving birth. They are there to treat your disease and that is how they present themselves.

If you do choose hospital birth have a VERY detailed plan on what you do and do not want. Make sure your HUSBAND knows as well as he will be your advocate since you will be otherwise not thinking clearly enough and will need to rely on him.

We personally decline ALL vaccines in the hospital. They now routinely give 5 vaccines almost immediately. We also skip the “eye drops” since they are to treat gonorrhea. Do you have that STD? They started doing eye drops routinely because it was easier and cheaper than to test the mother to see if she had an STD.

If your husband wants to cut the cord then you MUST speak up right away or some eager student will have it done before you know what is happening. REQUIRE that they allow time for the placenta to deliver on it’s own. I once watched as a resident thought she needed to PULL the placenta out. It caused a small uterine tear for my wife. This was UNDER a doctors supervision as well. I guess they don’t have 150-30 minutes to wait for the placenta to deliver naturally.

We also did delayed cord clamping. Many doctors clamp the umbilical cord immediately after birth. This can cause a reduction in the amount of blood that baby has in their system by almost 10%. It wait until the cord stops pulsating before clamping. We did this with the last two babies and they are MUCH more active the first few days of their life. Not the sleeping little gems that we normally see who are actually missing part of their blood supply and sleeping due to that.

Home birth SHOULD be supervised by a mid-wife. Too many things can cause life threatening issues that a mid-wife will see LONG before you or your husband will. Home birth has the very positive effect of making the mother more relaxed. She is not in a foreign place and stressed out. That alone can lessen the pain. Most people I know who have had home births have used the bathtub to deliver. Water birth. The warm water helps with the low back pain and the tub is easy to cleanup.

Just make sure that whatever option is chosen that both you AND your husband are well educated on what you want to happen, etc.
  1. My hospital has a seperate admission for mothers who believe they are in labor and the OBGYN office communicates with the hospital ahead of time so they know his orders and my wishes until he gets there.
  2. Hook me up, baby! Whatever you feel needs monitoring! I have excellent insurance!
  3. Bring on the nurses! As I said before, my insurance covers it. I hope a nurse checks on me every three and a half minutes. I’m very happy to hear that an alarm goes off if they forget to sanitize their hands before coming in!
  4. Doctors always tell people not to eat things before surgery. It’s so they don’t suffocate or something like that. I’m getting to meet my daughter. I’m not concerned about munchies. When the family gets in, they’ll bring food. Besides, this hospital’s food is awsome!
  5. It will not be necessary to “push” an epideral on me. I don’t feel the need for a pain tolerance medal.
  6. I do not want to walk. If I’m in labor, people should bring things to me.
  7. There will not be medical students.
 
There’s a website called Hurt by Homebirth that’s devoted entirely to first-person stories of homebirths that went wrong.

hurtbyhomebirth.blogspot.com/
This case illustrates what can happen when the midwife is under-trained or doesn’t include a physician when appropriate:
oregonlive.com/pacific-northwest-news/index.ssf/2013/07/babys_death_in_coos_county_hel.html

It shouldn’t be used to indict all midwives, but to point out what kind of thing to look for in order to ensure the safest home birth situation. Likewise, there are things you ought to know about before giving birth in a hospital, in order to protect yourself from typical hospital mistakes.
 
Kelly’s response is VERY typical of hospital births. Doctors think they are GOD and dismiss MUCH of what a mid-wife or other non-doctor might suggest. Hospital births are not treated like BIRTHS. They are treated like a surgery or a disease.

We have 8 children now and over the last 13 years we have seen hospitals that are overly pushy on MANY un-necessary things to the point of us having to educate and dismiss doctors suggestions. Here are just a FEW things that MAY happen in a hospital that usually DON’T happen at home:
  1. Your admitted to the triage area. You are in PAIN and not thinking clearly. You will consent to almost anything they tell you when you are pain. Unless your husband has been around the block a few time he will probably be petrified and defer to you.
  2. This leads to you being hooked up to all kinds of sensors, BP Cuff, Fetal monitor, heart rate monitor, contraction monitor, etc.
  3. Nurses will be in your room CONSTANTLY. You will get ZERO rest until baby is born.
  4. Many hospitals prevent you from eating anything in case you have to have emergency surgery.
  5. They will push epidurals on you to kill the pain. Many women want to kill the pain, it is terrible. What they don’t tell you is that the “epi” will also slow your contractions and possibly stop them. They will then want to give you Pitocin to make them start again. “Pit” will usually make contractions VERY intense. So much for “natural” child birth.
  6. You will be laying in a bed and unable to get around with all of the monitors hooked up. My wife wanted to walk so I just removed all the monitors so she could walk. Hospital staff does NOT like this. Some hospitals are catching on and now use wireless monitors so the mother and can get around, but most hospitals do not have this technology.
  7. If you are at a teaching hospital, expect to have medical students staring at you and possibly “treating” you. Remember that form you signed that gave them permission to “treat” you and you absolving them from ANY liability for a mistake?
Sorry to be so negative, but American style hospital births suck. The doctors and staff in many places are NOT there to support you in giving birth. They are there to treat your disease and that is how they present themselves.

If you do choose hospital birth have a VERY detailed plan on what you do and do not want. Make sure your HUSBAND knows as well as he will be your advocate since you will be otherwise not thinking clearly enough and will need to rely on him.

We personally decline ALL vaccines in the hospital. They now routinely give 5 vaccines almost immediately. We also skip the “eye drops” since they are to treat gonorrhea. Do you have that STD? They started doing eye drops routinely because it was easier and cheaper than to test the mother to see if she had an STD.

If your husband wants to cut the cord then you MUST speak up right away or some eager student will have it done before you know what is happening. REQUIRE that they allow time for the placenta to deliver on it’s own. I once watched as a resident thought she needed to PULL the placenta out. It caused a small uterine tear for my wife. This was UNDER a doctors supervision as well. I guess they don’t have 150-30 minutes to wait for the placenta to deliver naturally.

We also did delayed cord clamping. Many doctors clamp the umbilical cord immediately after birth. This can cause a reduction in the amount of blood that baby has in their system by almost 10%. It wait until the cord stops pulsating before clamping. We did this with the last two babies and they are MUCH more active the first few days of their life. Not the sleeping little gems that we normally see who are actually missing part of their blood supply and sleeping due to that.

Home birth SHOULD be supervised by a mid-wife. Too many things can cause life threatening issues that a mid-wife will see LONG before you or your husband will. Home birth has the very positive effect of making the mother more relaxed. She is not in a foreign place and stressed out. That alone can lessen the pain. Most people I know who have had home births have used the bathtub to deliver. Water birth. The warm water helps with the low back pain and the tub is easy to cleanup.

Just make sure that whatever option is chosen that both you AND your husband are well educated on what you want to happen, etc.
This was NOT my experience with my hospital births. At ALL. I had an epidural, but it was my request. No one pushed one on me. My nurses were amazing and wonderful. My husband was offered the opportunity to cut the cord. I was treated wonderfully at all times, with full respect and dignity, and NOBODY there treated me as if childbirth was a “disease.”
 
I’ve had three hospital deliveries at three different hospitals. In my experience, the labor and delivery nurses are consistently smart, efficient and compassionate. Having seen quite a few shifts of them, I think of them as the Navy Seals of the nursing world. I’ve had much more mixed results with postpartum hospital care. With the last two babies, we got excellent postpartum care, but with the first baby (when we really needed the help), the postpartum care was terrible–few nurses, instructions given in an impossible foreign accent (and I’m a former ESL teacher–I’m good at understanding accented English), poor pain control, poor dining system, etc. That said, once I got home with my first baby AND SHE DIDN’T SLEEP, I really missed the hospital amenities, such as they were.
 
I’m a revert to the faith. While I was away, I was married (since divorced and annulled) and had a child during the marriage. I had a home birth; it was wonderful! It even compelled me to be a childbirth educator for time. While I think every woman should give birth where she is most comfortable, for me that place was home, and things went very well.

My child’s godmother had a birth center birth with one of her four children, but the others were born in a hospital. Giving birth at home was something that was somewhat common among the people I knew at that time, but none of us were even non-denominational Christians, let alone Catholics. I’m just curious… Do many Catholic women have home births?
Just thought I’d quote the OP, since most responses just seem to be fear mongering and idolatry of the god of western medicine.

I cannot give you statistics on how many Catholic women have homebirths, but I can tell you that this Catholic woman cannot imagine giving birth anywhere else!

Choosing a homebirth was completely tied to my faith in God and desire for my children to be brought into this world without violent assaults to their senses. It was wonderful to just have the 2 midwives and my husband there for this intimate experience.

I was surprised with twins, and sometimes I think “what if?”
-If I’d received OB attention, I would have been considered “high risk”, which would have added stress that could have led to preterm birth, surgery (where I’m from, natural birth of twins is unheard of), babies being taken away rather than being allowed to nurse right away (I’m still exclusively nursing them, thanks to bed sharing from day one). I’d have been pumped full of drugs, which would have led to very sleepy babies and less favorable weight gain. Instead, I have the two happiest, healthiest baby boys I’ve known. I thank God that I was able give of myself to my sons from day one.

As a childbirth educator, you know the “pros” of homebirth and how to take care of yourself and unborn child during pregnancy. You are also in good company, as the majority of Catholics worldwide and historically have been born at home. I wonder what percentage of canonized saints were born at home? My guess is a landslide majority.

God bless you!
 
Just thought I’d quote the OP, since most responses just seem to be fear mongering and idolatry of the god of western medicine.

I cannot give you statistics on how many Catholic women have homebirths, but I can tell you that this Catholic woman cannot imagine giving birth anywhere else!

Choosing a homebirth was completely tied to my faith in God and desire for my children to be brought into this world without violent assaults to their senses. It was wonderful to just have the 2 midwives and my husband there for this intimate experience.

I was surprised with twins, and sometimes I think “what if?”
-If I’d received OB attention, I would have been considered “high risk”, which would have added stress that could have led to preterm birth, surgery (where I’m from, natural birth of twins is unheard of), babies being taken away rather than being allowed to nurse right away (I’m still exclusively nursing them, thanks to bed sharing from day one). I’d have been pumped full of drugs, which would have led to very sleepy babies and less favorable weight gain. Instead, I have the two happiest, healthiest baby boys I’ve known. I thank God that I was able give of myself to my sons from day one.

As a childbirth educator, you know the “pros” of homebirth and how to take care of yourself and unborn child during pregnancy. You are also in good company, as the majority of Catholics worldwide and historically have been born at home. I wonder what percentage of canonized saints were born at home? My guess is a landslide majority.

God bless you!
The majority of saints got on without toilet paper too, but I’m not interested in that either.
 
I wish somebody would have pushed a little harder for an epidural with my first baby, as I was turning it down initially for no good reason. I do have a beef with the fact that nobody explained the fact that it’s very safe for the baby, pretty safe for mom, and it doesn’t make a big difference either way with labor, except for making it much more comfortable. Of course, I delivered at 37.5 weeks, so maybe the OBs were planning on having that talk at my next appointment.

With my most recent delivery, it was an induction and I did manage to have a nice chat with the anesthesiologist about the risks of the epidural while I was still able to take everything in well.

I think it’s a huge mistake to go to the hospital with an adversarial attitude. These are by and large very nice people who want to help babies and mommies get safely through delivery. I did fire my first OB (for not explaining stuff), but I’ve been very happy since.
 
The majority of saints got on without toilet paper too, but I’m not interested in that either.
Why do you feel homebirth is “getting on without” something? It is such a rich experience with benefits for the whole family!
 
I have a friend who gave birth to both her kids at home. She was happy as a clam and wouldn’t do it any other way if she could. I don’t think she is Catholic though.

As for me, I went for a hospital birth with an epidural. I, too, was happy as a clam and probably would not do it any other way if I could.

As my mom (5 natural births and not all by choice) would say…we are blessed to live in a world with options. All that matters in the end is a healthy and happy mom and baby. 🙂
 
“Better outcomes”…were those matched against hospital births with the same risk factors, or did the hospital outcomes being compared to the home birth outcomes include the births that were rejected as too dangerous for a midwife to attend?

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bmj.com/content/330/7505/1416
From just one of many studies, this one a prospective study in North America:

Results 655 (12.1%) women who intended to deliver at home when labour began were transferred to hospital. Medical intervention rates included epidural (4.7%), episiotomy (2.1%), forceps (1.0%), vacuum extraction (0.6%), and caesarean section (3.7%); these rates were substantially lower than for low risk US women having hospital births. The intrapartum and neonatal mortality among women considered at low risk at start of labour, excluding deaths concerning life threatening congenital anomalies, was 1.7 deaths per 1000 planned home births, similar to risks in other studies of low risk home and hospital births in North America. No mothers died. No discrepancies were found for perinatal outcomes independently validated.
 
Yeah, I think it stands to reason that there are fewer c-section home births because women who know there is a strong chance they are going to need a c-section are not going to be as likely to consider a home birth in the first place!
No, these are well designed studies, dealing with women in similar risk categories. For example, the studies would only include women between the ages of 18 and 35, in good health, normal weight, non-smokers, etc, etc. This is actual science.
 
I wish somebody would have pushed a little harder for an epidural with my first baby, as I was turning it down initially for no good reason. I do have a beef with the fact that nobody explained the fact that it’s very safe for the baby, pretty safe for mom, and it doesn’t make a big difference either way with labor, except for making it much more comfortable. Of course, I delivered at 37.5 weeks, so maybe the OBs were planning on having that talk at my next appointment.

With my most recent delivery, it was an induction and I did manage to have a nice chat with the anesthesiologist about the risks of the epidural while I was still able to take everything in well.

I think it’s a huge mistake to go to the hospital with an adversarial attitude. These are by and large very nice people who want to help babies and mommies get safely through delivery. I did fire my first OB (for not explaining stuff), but I’ve been very happy since.
My doctor explained the risks and benefits to me and my husband early on and has my decision in my file. It’s probably best to have this conversation ahead of time when they have your undivided attention. We’ve discussed all kinds of stuff. Vacinations, circumcision, etc.
 
No, these are well designed studies, dealing with women in similar risk categories. For example, the studies would only include women between the ages of 18 and 35, in good health, normal weight, non-smokers, etc, etc. This is actual science.
Women with all those characteristics can still have a breach baby, a placental abruption, a baby with an abnormal heart or any number of reasons that they might change their mind about having a home birth.
 
I wish somebody would have pushed a little harder for an epidural with my first baby, as I was turning it down initially for no good reason. I do have a beef with the fact that nobody explained the fact that it’s very safe for the baby, pretty safe for mom, and it doesn’t make a big difference either way with labor, except for making it much more comfortable. Of course, I delivered at 37.5 weeks, so maybe the OBs were planning on having that talk at my next appointment.

With my most recent delivery, it was an induction and I did manage to have a nice chat with the anesthesiologist about the risks of the epidural while I was still able to take everything in well.

I think it’s a huge mistake to go to the hospital with an adversarial attitude. These are by and large very nice people who want to help babies and mommies get safely through delivery. I did fire my first OB (for not explaining stuff), but I’ve been very happy since.
I absolutely agree. It’s one thing to come up with a birthing plan and something totally different when you are totally inflexible and bossing the staff around.
Believe me…they know what they are doing and a vast majority of them absolutely love what they do.
I worked in the hospital I gave birth in. I knew the maternity staff and they were all quite good and dedicated. I disliked how they handled my wish to breast feed…I don’t feel like I was given enough help, encouragement or resources to make it happen. But, I was also naive and didn’t push enough.

Epidurals are safe…however, they totally depend on the patient. For some it can be an excellent decision and for others they can be disastrous.

I happen to be one of those patients whose epidural was disastrous. They couldn’t get it in me…it took them three tries. Then, the stupid thing stopped working entirely and the staff wouldn’t give me a higher dosage…I understand why…but it was so frustrating.
My labor was long and tough but I was handling it fairly well. I decided to get one just for the break and because I had no idea how much longer my labor was going to be (it ended up being another 8 hours).
The epidural worked from my mid thighs and down. I could feel every contraction but couldn’t move. I was stuck in bed for the remainder of my labor and I hated it. It was clearly the worst decision I could have made and I won’t do it again.

However, my sister is an example of an epidural working beautifully. She was not progressing at all yet she was still having contractions. They were going to do a C-Section. The epidural was suggested and it allowed her to progress in her labor and have a vaginal birth.

While I believe a home birth could work for me…the opposition with my insurance company, the fact that their is no home birth midwives…just midwives that birth through the hospitals…and the fact that my husband is very opposed to them…means I will be giving birth in the hospital with a plan.
Thank-fully…I know my body well enough to be more confident achieving a natural birth (vaginally with precious little intervention) this time around.
Why do you feel homebirth is “getting on without” something? It is such a rich experience with benefits for the whole family!
It’s also not an experience that can be achieved by every family. Or an experience that every family wants to achieve. I think it’s fantastic that you were able to have a home birth. But a lot of women just don’t have that kind of an option.

Most of the women I know…family and girlfriends either had difficult births or difficult pregnancies with difficult births. Home birthing is simply not an option for them.

And you know what? That’s okay.
A mother who has a C-Section in the hospital and formula feeds her baby is just as beautiful and special in God’s eyes as the woman who home birth’s her child and ecologically breast feeds her baby. And everything in between.
She is special because she is doing everything she can to care for God’s beautiful creation the best way she knows how.

I couldn’t ecologically breast feed my daughter and it was the most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever had to deal with.
I asked God over and over to help me and my daughter make it work. Instead God told me that I was a good mother because I was caring for my daughter the best way I knew how and she was and still is healthy and that is all that matters.
 
Why do you feel homebirth is “getting on without” something? It is such a rich experience with benefits for the whole family!
Because for the vast majority of saints, they weren’t born at home because they thought that was the holy way to go. They were born at home because there weren’t any other options available. The live birth of a baby is a rich experience no matter where it takes place. I’m not sure what specific benefit you see in trying to give birth in a bathtub with your whole family present. You must have a much larger bathroom than I have!

Using that arguemnt, I don’t understand why we all don’t just have planned c-sections. They have benefits for the whole family too. Everyone can get off work in advance. You don’t have to spend hours waiting in a waiting room or a cramped delivery room. You don’t have to worry if you’ll miss something if you go down for a coffee. You just show up when you’re told to and you get to see your new grandbaby, neice, etc. It’s very convenient. (except for the mother of course, although my sister swears by them.)

For me, I’m for the nice, clean, comfy hospital, full of nurses to help me, doctors to save my life and that of my baby if needed, drugs to ease the pain, pleasant accomodations to entertain my loved ones, good food I don’t have to cook, bed sheets I don’t have to wash, and a tough looking security guy in case my pushy step-mother needs help finding her way out of my room.
 
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