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KellyPalmer
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That’s true. I should have worded that differently. I think the research tends to point towards homebirth but not that it’s the right choice for everyone who does the research. It tends to at least come up but each person’s situation is different. Hospital birth is also a good option for most people. I think there has been a movement over the last decade, fueled by parents who have encountered this information. Hospitals have then responded by improving some standard practices making it better for mothers and babies. It’s been great to watch that happen. I would be more likely to choose a hospital for birth today than even 5 years ago.Not necessarily, it can very well point you in the opposite direction (at least it did for me). Birthing is a topic of great interest for me (lol, I am getting ready to have my 6th in less than 8.5 yrs), but the research I have done has not led me to choose homebirthing. I do understand that for some mothers the research may lead them in that direction, but for others it may lead them to the hospital despite the negative aspects that can be included (there are pros and cons for each option). I wouldn’t consider this a “source”, but for example, watching ‘The Business of Being Born’ actually served as a reinforcement of my decision to birth in a hospital environment.
I do agree, though, that it is important to educate ourselves regardless of the route we take. I have been able to address things with my OB that I would have never thought of doing had I not read about it previously. My OB is very laid back but very skilled (for example, she used a special maneuver to help deliver my 11 lb 10 oz baby vaginally). She has no problem with any deviations to the norms that I may bring up, but one thing to keep in mind is that standardized procedure often does help “cover all bases” and minimize errors. I have noticed that, at least in locations where there are more patients to track, if when we do deviate from “regular procedure” we are introducing a variable that could affect our care. We need to track our care to make sure we get the care we want. For example, when I delayed vaccination with my last baby, the hospital had no problem with it and was able to conform to my wishes, but when we got to his pediatrician it was very confusing for them. I had the schedule I wanted, and discussed it with the pediatrician to make sure he did not see any issues with it, but in each visit the nurses were confused as to which vaccines he was supposed to take and which he wasn’t and I had to be very careful to make sure he was getting the right vaccine at the right time.
My family is not very high risk for stds etc… neither of us were promiscuous before marriage, my husband is faithful (and we work from home and are hardly ever out of each other’s sight), no drugs in our house, etc. so measures that are meant for people living a different lifestyle may be things we will evaluate to decide whether they would be beneficial for us or not. And we always discuss it with our providers in case there is something we are missing.
I also agree with the need to discuss and evaluate the impact on future children. I always ask my OB about this regarding any issues that may come up etc, and she is aware of my beliefs and my “lifestyle”. A lot of times the solutions medical professionals have for issues (and I am not just talking about OB’s) are based on the assumption that the woman will be on birth control at some point soon, and that the periods of time in which she will be conceiving/pregnant are limited and calculated.