Homosexual Relationships

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Grace & Peace!
I have another question. Is trying to ban homosexual marriage forcing your religious beliefs on other people? For instance, the Church is trying to ban homosexual marriage because it is a sin in God’s eyes (correct me if I’m wrong). Is there any reason to prohibit homosexual marriage that is NOT religion or spiritually related? Is this not forcing your religious beliefs down other people’s throats?
Kitteh, I’m biased, admittedly, but these are my biased thoughts–take them for whatever you feel they’re worth:

A lot of people think that legislating morality is sort of part of what law is to begin with–haven’t we legislated the 10 commandments? But I don’t agree. The law is not predicated on a defence of morality, but on a defence of property, for the most part, and is concerned with furthering the ends not of the moral sphere but of the socio-economic sphere–law is principally concerned with providing a reasonable framework within which we can acquire things and keep them or trade them. Secondarily, law is a means by which the state perpetuates itself. Tertiarily, law is part of the state dispute-resolution mechanism. The impulse to legislate morality is the implicitly despairing impulse of those who recognize that the institutions which should be concerned with morality–the church and the family–have failed and failed miserably, necessitating the intervention of the state and use of political machinery to engineer morality. Which is a bit ironic, if you ask me.

Re: homosexuality and marriage, the problem is two-fold:

One–the lack of a distinction between the secular and the sacred. That is, a church or religious body should be able to determine what is or is not proper matter for the confection of a marriage (which is a sacrament), but whether or not a couple should receive state sanctioned benefits and/or penalties by virtue of the fact that it is a couple: that should be determined by the state. Ultimately, gay marriage is a secular fight, fought to secure particular rights and obligations in the eyes of the state, and it’s a fight which suffers from misuse of the term “marriage.” Render unto caesar what is caesar’s–tax benefits and penalties–and unto God what is God’s–the sacrament.

Two (and I’ve written of this before on these boards)–marriage used to be a purely socio-economic institution concerned with the propagation of dynasties, property exchanges, etc. Two or more individuals were not married–two or more families were. This is why polygamous marriages are far more socially useful than monogamous ones. With the invention of romance and romantic love and the subsequent assertion of the individual’s entitlement to such things (leading to a decline in arranged marriages in the West, for instance), marriage (which was never traditionally seen as the realm of romantic love) becomes the seal on an individual couple’s loving relationship, and assumes a more metaphorical as opposed to practical value. The socio-economic value is vastly decreased, and the institution becomes insular: about two people–the socio-economic context in which those two people and exist is rendered rather meaningless.

As long as marriage is principally personal rather than principally socio-economic, then anyone in any sort of loving relationship with anything has a very good argument for having their relationship considered a “marriage”–it’s widely assumed to be a metaphor for love, not something with any real social purpose. And this is why, for instance, gay marriage was never a thought in anyone’s head 'til relatively modern times. Even in homoerotic Greece, institutionalized homosexuality served a very different social function than the institution of marriage–why would two men want to get married?

Until marriage is the doman of the church exclusively as opposed to the church and the state (the latter of which should be in the business of “unions”, not marriages), and until marriage is redefined in purely socio-economic terms and personal romance is removed from the equation, then there will continue to be arguments over how it is defined, who should be allowed to have it, etc.

And those arguments are pretty fruitless and, frankly, worthless until it is realized that you cannot argue for the socio-economic purposes of marriage (which argue for the joining of male and female) while still understanding marriage to be the seal on a romantic relationship. Remove romance from the picture, argue against marriage for infertile couples, call for a return to polygamy or at least arranged marriages, and then the argument against gay marriage will have a leg to stand on. Otherwise, marriage will continue to be the public indulgence of a private romantically inclined couple.

Just my 2 cents!

Under the Mercy,
Mark

Deo Gratias!
 
I will add that my feelings on this were once much more liberal. I thought for a long time that if a couple–any couple–really loved each other, God must be okay with it. This was an excuse that later led to a cohabitation arrangement with someone I thought was “Mr. Right” only to discover that he was “Mr. Right Now.”

It’s a mentality that leads to a rather slippery slope of morality.
If you’re using this personal experience of yours to compare the topic of same-sex relationships, I can understanding your lack of understanding. What you engaged in possibly led to fornication. That’s something all Christians, gay and straight, are to avoid. You did, however, have the option for courtship and eventually marriage. Yet you chose not to. Someone who is gay is expected to deny any hopes of partnership altogether. I’m sorry but fornication, and same-sex relationships are not the same thing. I would think that you would be aware of this. Would you like it if I were to impose on you a defination of “chaste” as remaing celebate, single, and unmarried even if “Mr. Right” was eventually found?
 
The way it will effect children who have been adopted by homosexuals. It takes away the right of a child to have both mother and father.
Two things:
1 Same-sex marriage and same-sex adoption are two different things

2 There are more children who need adoption than there are families who are adopting. History has as examples many senerios of family types that have bred succesful outcomes in rearing children. Children need love and security. And even the bible has shownn that atypical families that can provide that have the opportunity of having prosperous outcomes too.
It fades away and ruins the sanctity of marriage which in turn will hurt familys because their view on marriage is so drab. Instead of an important covenant is it viewed as just a “union” between whoever and whatever.
So not true! You’re creating an artifical cause. This faulty conclusion excuses the responsbility that marriage partners are required to have and maintain in upholding their vows and their commitment to each other.
 
I wasn’t speaking from a 1st person perspective. I personally haven’t told my family (although I think they already know), or members of my congregation. In regards to exposing myself, the real need I have is in not hiding myself. Hiding takes far more effort.

I don’t like the term “coming out” either. I also don’t like the term “homosexual”. I’m human, and same-sex attraction is not my defination of me.
And you’re welcome!
hi Tru, May I know what do you do for your living??
 
In a nutshell, I’m an entrepreneur. Currently I’m in sales though.
Thanks for the answer. You know that all your answers make me want to read the bible especially about these things. unfortunately I’m at the office now and I’m going to do that at home. You seem that you have read every words i the bible.
 
Thanks for the answer. You know that all your answers make me want to read the bible especially about these things. unfortunately I’m at the office now and I’m going to do that at home. You seem that you have read every words i the bible.
I’ve always wanted to know more about the One who created me. And despite the struggles I’ve experienced, turning to him was the one thing I knew I could rely on. The more I read it, the more I appreciated his love. I really came to appreciate the love He had for mankind as I was reading the account of the Israelites and their Exdous from Egypt. Like a loving father you could see just how much He loved them and tolerated their actions. And what really helps to put the bible into perspective is when you consider the time period in history and the events and culture that existed during the time certain books of the Bible were recorded. I could go on, but I don’t want to talk your head off. Thanks for the complement by the way. I appreciate it! 🙂
 
I’ve always wanted to know more about the One who created me. And despite the struggles I’ve experienced, turning to him was the one thing I knew I could rely on. The more I read it, the more I appreciated his love. I really came to appreciate the love He had for mankind as I was reading the account of the Israelites and their Exdous from Egypt. Like a loving father you could see just how much He loved them and tolerated their actions. And what really helps to put the bible into perspective is when you consider the time period in history and the events and culture that existed during the time certain books of the Bible were recorded. I could go on, but I don’t want to talk your head off. Thanks for the complement by the way. I appreciate it! 🙂
You’re most welcome. To all, I’m sorry that I might be the one who change the subject. Tru, is it possible for us to talk about your struggle and my struggle?? probably in different tread. I would love to hear from you and it may help us to understand about our lives through God’s love. Because I have had some experiences where only through God I can always depend on.
 
You’re most welcome. To all, I’m sorry that I might be the one who change the subject. Tru, is it possible for us to talk about your struggle and my struggle?? probably in different tread. I would love to hear from you and it may help us to understand about our lives through God’s love. Because I have had some experiences where only through God I can always depend on.
sure!
 
Would you like it if I were to impose on you a defination of “chaste” as remaing celebate, single, and unmarried even if “Mr. Right” was eventually found?
If remaining faithful to God meant that I could never marry, then yes. I know of many people who have been in love and still chosen celibacy.

BTW you seem to be under the impression that my definition of “being gay” is strictly based on sex. I’ve obviously failed in my communication that my concern is not with the attraction, but with the sexual ASPECT of it. If you are in a relationship and living with someone of the same sex and you are not sexually active with that partner, then I don’t see where it is sinful. You do, however, run the risk of “scandal” as would I, if I were in a roommate situation with a boyfriend. And unless you have the self control of a saint, you put yourself in a situation that could easily lead to sin.

There are many things that the church says that I don’t understand, or even necessarily like. But because I want to remain faithful to God, I’ve put my trust in it’s teachings. Is it sometimes a great sacrifice? Absolutely.

It seems that I’ve offended you, and for that I appologize. But the bottom line is, there is too much in scripture alone that condemns homosexuality. Who am I to argue?
 
If remaining faithful to God meant that I could never marry, then yes. I know of many people who have been in love and still chosen celibacy.

BTW you seem to be under the impression that my definition of “being gay” is strictly based on sex. I’ve obviously failed in my communication that my concern is not with the attraction, but with the sexual ASPECT of it. If you are in a relationship and living with someone of the same sex and you are not sexually active with that partner, then I don’t see where it is sinful. You do, however, run the risk of “scandal” as would I, if I were in a roommate situation with a boyfriend. And unless you have the self control of a saint, you put yourself in a situation that could easily lead to sin.

There are many things that the church says that I don’t understand, or even necessarily like. But because I want to remain faithful to God, I’ve put my trust in it’s teachings. Is it sometimes a great sacrifice? Absolutely.

It seems that I’ve offended you, and for that I appologize. But the bottom line is, there is too much in scripture alone that condemns homosexuality. Who am I to argue?
And if scripture didn’t condemn gays or their relationships, would you still feel the same way?
 
And if scripture didn’t condemn gays or their relationships, would you still feel the same way?
It’ll be interesting to see where this goes, but okay…

If it’s not condemned by God, why would it be condemned by me (or by the church, for that matter…)?
 
But it is condemned by the Scriptures and runs counter to natural law.
 
Chastity and homosexuality
2357 Homosexuality refers to relations between men or between women who experience an exclusive or predominant sexual attraction toward persons of the same sex. It has taken a great variety of forms through the centuries and in different cultures. Its psychological genesis remains largely unexplained. Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity,[140] tradition has always declared that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.”[141] They are contrary to the natural law. They close the sexual act to the gift of life. They do not proceed from a genuine affective and sexual complementarity. Under no circumstances can they be approved.
2358 The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. They do not choose their homosexual condition; for most of them it is a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition.
2359 Homosexual persons are called to chastity. By the virtues of self-mastery that teach them inner freedom, at times by the support of disinterested friendship, by prayer and sacramental grace, they can and should gradually and resolutely approach Christian perfection.
Here is the position of the Catholic Church as presented by this current rendition of the the Church’s Cathecism. Every element this perspective presents and asserts too needs to be considered and discussed. The first thing that grabs my attention is the phrase "Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity,[140] tradition has always declared that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.” My first question is what are all the scriptures to which this document is referring to?
 
Here is the position of the Catholic Church as presented by this current rendition of the the Church’s Cathecism. Every element this perspective presents and asserts too needs to be considered and discussed. The first thing that grabs my attention is the phrase "Basing itself on Sacred Scripture, which presents homosexual acts as acts of grave depravity,[140] tradition has always declared that “homosexual acts are intrinsically disordered.” My first question is what are all the scriptures to which this document is referring to?
Romans 1:24-28
Therefore, God handed them over to impurity through the lusts of their hearts for the mutual degradation of their bodies. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie and revered and worshiped the creature rather than the creator, who is blessed forever. Amen. Therefore, God handed them over to degrading passions. Their females exchanged natural relations for unnatural, and the males likewise gave up natural relations with females and burned with lust for one another. Males did shameful things with males and thus received in their own persons the due penalty for their perversity. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God handed them over to their undiscerning mind to do what is improper.
Daddums 🙂
 
I believe Christ has a place inhis heart for evryone, even homosexuals. Gay men and women should be afforded to live as designed by God in marriages with children. There are so many children who need loving homes and my experience with gay men and women has been one of courage, strength and love. I adore my gay friends.
 
I don’t know. Does it make a difference?

Daddums 🙂
It shouldn’t. However, some people here try to engage in hermenutical acrobatics in order to avoid the fact that Scripture condemns homosexuality.
 
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