That’s true. “Ready to accept” just means acknowledging the possibility and prepared to adapt as circumstances may require.Personally, I don’t think anyone is ready for marriage unless they are ready to accept kids whenever.
Meaning, they better be prepared to get pregnant right away. If you aren’t prepared for that possibility then you aren’t ready for marriage.
I wonder that quite often myself.What I don’t understand is why kids are considered so much of an problem to be avoided at all costs such as this example.
NFP is a legitimate and responsible consideration for a Catholic couple. “At all costs” is just the anti NFP lie spread by traditionalists who stand in judgement of others of whom they feel jealous and resentful. Doing NFP means that you accept what nature has in mind for you regardless of your plans. That IS NOT “at all costs”. “At all costs” means employing contraception and abortion to force your plan.Originally Posted by Luvz2travel
What I don’t understand is why kids are considered so much of an problem to be avoided at all costs such as this example.
Haters gonna hate.
Yes.NFP is a legitimate and responsible consideration for a Catholic couple. “At all costs” is just the anti NFP lie spread by traditionalists who stand in judgement of others of whom they feel jealous and resentful. Doing NFP means that you accept what nature has in mind for you regardless of your plans. That IS NOT “at all costs”. “At all costs” means employing contraception and abortion to force your plan.
I don’t think an app will give you a very accurate prediction on what will happen a number of months from now.Hi all,
First some background info, I am getting married this May. My husband and I are both virgins who plan on practicing NFP. We just finalized our date so I have had NO NFP classes yet, but have started taking my temperature every morning and have been charting my cycles for a little under a year now on an app called clue and most recently an app called Lily. One more thing, we will be using NFP to avoid because I am in grad school with no job and he is in school too with a job that only covers his tuition.
- According to these apps, I will be fertile during the time we could get away to go on a honeymoon. Should we still go if we cannot partake in the marital embrace? I just don’t want it to be a tempting/frustrating time.
- So I assume that if you are married but practicing NFP that you pretty much have to act like you are dating during your fertile periods, because you want to make sure to not get either party wanting to have sex and then you cannot. Is this correct?
I generally agree. Avoiding sex for a few days isn’t “at all costs”. Some couples end up not consummating on the wedding night anyway for a variety of reasons.Yes.
I also object to the “at all costs” terminology.
As a previous poster mentioned, both members of this couple are in school and they have only one income. It’s quite possible that any delays in finishing their programs will lead to much greater expenses, much greater debt, and a longer-than-necessary period of little income–all of which could hamper their ability to provide for children. That might be a reason for them not to get married right now but, by the same token, if it’s a reason serious enough to delay marriage, it’s also a reason serious enough to do NFP.
Also, not getting solid experience with NFP before having children is a major risk factor for NFP failure. It’s much easier to get a good start with NFP under ideal conditions before adding in stuff (sleeplessness, disturbed temperatures from night feeding, breastfeeding, etc.) that will make NFP harder.
Hilarious!I generally agree. Avoiding sex for a few days isn’t “at all costs”. Some couples end up not consummating on the wedding night anyway for a variety of reasons.
There was an episode of All in the Family where Archie becomes jealous of Edith’s former beau, and he asks her if on their wedding night he was “her first”. She replied in her usual innocent fashion, “No Archie, remember, it was the next night. you fell asleep.”
I wouldn’t think of it as “reverting to dating”. You’ll be married, and you’ll work out for yourselves where the line is. I assume you’re not going to live separately, so there will be a level of intimacy there already that was not there before. No one here is going to be able to tell you what is going to work for you. If you’ve both agreed to use NFP, then you probably have good enough reasons and if you don’t have good enough reasons, it will be more difficult to say no.Anyways, I would like some more advice on the second question. If you are practicing NFP and avoiding sex during fertile times, this means you cannot do something to get the other person wanting sex so you kind of have to revert to dating when it comes to physical boundaries. One person said since you are married you can take it as far as you want, but I assume if you are trying to not get pregnant, that is clearly not the case.