I have been watching this thread since its first incarnation and was glad when it was closed the first time. I understand that it raises important issues that are very much within the scope of what CAF forums are about. I am just concerned that there are so many inaccuracies in the story that it is not a good starting point for discussion. It is being used to push some kind of agenda.
In 2006 my sister had a kidney transplant and I was tested to be her donor. We had some major advantages in the process. The surgery was done at Northwestern Memorial Hospital in Chicago, which is the most experienced in the Midwest for kidney transplants. They do 7-10 transplants per week. They have nurses whose full time job is to explain the very complicated procedures to the families of recipients and donors. They publish a comprehensive booklet explaining everything from the functions of the kidney to the nuts and bolts of the surgery and recovery, and the selection process for who can receive and who can donate a kidney. Our sister-in-law has a brother-in-law who is a surgeon with a related specialty and who was a Northwestern graduate. He recommended Northwestern to us and because he knew our family and members of the transplant teams personally, he was able to explain things in our homes in a way that was less tense than the hospital environment. The medical personnel were also dealing with a college graduate of above average intelligence(you just have to trust me on that

). The process of becoming a living donor also requires individual counselling to make sure you understand the risks and are acting freely. I was able to see a very smart, wise, and holy priest who was the vicar general and chancellor of our diocese and had decades of experience working with hospitals. We had known each other for 20 years.
This stuff is so complicated that even with all those advantages I still formed some erroneous conclusions. I remember being convinced that my sister was sure to die if I was turned down. I remeber an incident at a supermarket when another shopper did something rude and the first thing that entered my head was that if I confronted him:
- We might get into a fight.
- I might be injured.
- I could not be a donor
- My sister would die
I don’t blame the mother in the story for being upset. There is too much information to absorb when you are already in an emotional state from having a loved one with serious health problems. The whole process has a way of taking over your whole life.
I will go into the many things that I believe are erroneous in the story if you like, but the main one came from another article I found about the illness that afflicts her child, Wolf-Hirschhorn syndrome.
gma.yahoo.com/mom-says-tot-mental-delays-heartlessly-denied-transplant-160808540–abc-news.html
The important part of the article is this, **"Patients can be denied an organ transplant for a variety of reasons, according to the American Society of Transplant Physicians. Transplantation will not be offered to those would could be harmed by the surgery itself or by the immune-suppression that is required to prevent organ rejection.
Patients with weak immune systems or a high risk of infection, such as some children with Wolf-Hirschhorn Syndrome, cannot be immunosuppressed, according to those guidelines."**
This child is not being denied a transplant because she suffers from mental disabliity.
She is being denied a transplant because it cannot possibly succeed and it is unethical to subject two people to major surgery when there is no proportionate good to be gained. I understand that is immensely difficult for any mother to accept that, but it is one of the reasons the criteria for transplants have been worked out in advance rather than trying to reinvent the whole process for each patient.