How can people say homosexuality doesn't hurt anyone

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How can one be celibate and believe that homosexual practice is wrong but defend this disorder so aggressively? Why do you cling to your sin?
I don’t cling to my sin.

I just believe it’s wrong to provide credibility to hate groups and be uncharitable to the least among us. I would take someone to task for trying to incite violence against you as well. I would also take someone to task for spreading calumny about you. Same exact situation.
 
I don’t cling to my sin.

I just believe it’s wrong to provide credibility to hate groups and be uncharitable to the least among us. I would take someone to task for trying to incite violence against you as well. I would also take someone to task for spreading calumny about you. Same exact situation.
You called homosexuality a minor sin compared to the other sins of Sodom. The fact is it was one of the worst.
 
How can one be celibate and believe that homosexual practice is wrong but defend this disorder so aggressively? Why do you cling to your sin?
So in your mind, just being a homosexual person is a sin? That just by existing a celibate homosexual is committing a sin?
 
BUZZ!!! wrong again.
No not really. Also, in addition to just being homosexual not being a sin or sinful, duck hunting isn’t sinful either. Perhaps you should refresh your memory on what a sin actually is.
 
Regarding the original question, we know that it’s normal for some to be attracted to the same sex from an early age, and not the opposite sex. This is true throughout human history. The DSM is correct to delete it as a disorder. And studies show that children of gay couples fare no better or worse than those of straights.
 
You called homosexuality a minor sin compared to the other sins of Sodom. The fact is it was one of the worst.
If homosexuality was one of the worst sins of Sodom, why isn’t it mentioned in Ezekiel 16:
1 The word of the Lord came to me: 2 Mortal, make known to Jerusalem her abominations…48 As I live, says the Lord God, your sister Sodom and her daughters have not done as you and your daughters have done. 49 This was the guilt of your sister Sodom: she and her daughters had pride, excess of food, and prosperous ease, but did not aid the poor and needy. 50 They were haughty, and did abominable things before me; therefore I removed them when I saw fit.
Homosexuality is also not mentioned as the main sin of Sodom in Luke 10:
1 After this the Lord appointed seventy others and sent them on ahead of him in pairs to every town and place where he himself intended to go 2 He said to them….10 But whenever you enter a town and they do not welcome you, go out into its streets and say, 11 ‘Even the dust of your town that clings to our feet, we wipe off in protest against you. Yet know this: the kingdom of God has come near.’ 12 I tell you, on that day it will be more tolerable for Sodom than for that town.
Being inhospitable is a greater evil than homosexuality. Being inhospitable and not welcoming people with SSA who come to Catholic churches is undoubtedly a greater evil than the SSA itself.
 
Regarding the original question, we know that it’s normal for some to be attracted to the same sex from an early age, and not the opposite sex. This is true throughout human history. The DSM is correct to delete it as a disorder. And studies show that children of gay couples fare no better or worse than those of straights.
What we know is that it happens; we don’t know why/through what mechanism. As Catholics, or “hope to become” Catholics (congratulations and best wishes Cali) we know there is no sin in the fact of such attractions, but that there is sin in lust, and there is sin in homosexual sex acts.
 
I once had diabolic thoughts, violent ones, in addition to SSA. I submitted to Christ with no reservations with the agreement that I would not hide any of my sins and would repent frequently and while the temptations remained for some time, I miraculously had the strength to realize these temptations had nothing to do with me because Jesus had shown me my true value in His eyes after all my sins were washed clean. This is the “mechanism” if you will for being relieved of constant to almost constant defiling thoughts.** This is not self esteem**, in fact I have zero self esteem, as that is for children. I have something much better that is not dependent on my knowledge that I am a sinner.
The apostle Paul: “Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

You asked, and God freed you. Paul asked, and God did not free him. Are you better than Paul? If not, how can you demand others must be freed from temptation in this life?
 
This thread is AWFUL. It’s full of arrogance, and also full of falsehood – from both sides. Where is the love, people? :confused:

The theological facts are simple: whenever we say something is a sin, it must be the case that that thing hurts people. God does not arbitrarily make things sins. Sin corrupts us, body, mind, soul, and spirit. Traditional Catholic teaching entails that each particular sin harms people; to deny that is, so far as I can tell, heretical.

Does that mean “homosexuality” hurts people? We get into trouble here, because the word “homosexuality” is ambiguous. It could mean “the attraction to the same sex” or it could mean “sexual activity between people of the same sex”. Obviously, Catholics must say that same-sex sexual activity hurts people. It’s not as clear about the attraction, whether that hurts people.

Obviously, if the attraction often (in the real world) leads to the act, the attraction is a potentially dangerous thing. It’s not something to be happy about, just as one shouldn’t be happy that one likes to gossip, or that one enjoys watching movies about torture. Nevertheless, the attraction to the same sex can be dealt with honorably and virtuously. So I think it’s plausible to say that the attraction itself doesn’t hurt anyone, no more than the temptation to anger hurts anyone.

*How *do same-sex sexual acts hurt people? A number of ways, some of which people have mentioned. There are certain contexts – like monogamy – that restrict this harm, so that the major harm becomes an inordinate focus on pleasure, so that the harm is centrally spiritual. But other contexts make the harm physical.

I would guess that 15% or so (if not more) of same-sex attracted men engage in sex with more than four different people per month. This is what you might call the “Grindr” or “Craigslist” culture, and it is every bit as awful as people might imagine. There is no parallel population among heterosexual men, because – unless you’re remarkably attractive or athletic – there isn’t a huge population of random women willing to have sex with you. This doesn’t make heterosexual men more virtuous (they WISH they could be having sex), but it does make the homosexual “scene” MUCH more dangerous. Though many gay people stay out of that “scene”, and many people in that “scene” are people who are in denial about their attractions.

There is a way of expressing these things, though, without making gay people feel inhuman or evil. I wish people could learn that! 😦
 
The apostle Paul: “Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

You asked, and God freed you. Paul asked, and God did not free him. Are you better than Paul? If not, how can you demand others must be freed from temptation in this life?
The use of this Bible verse implies a clear desire on God’s part for carrying a cross which is considered disordered and tendency toward and intrinsic evil. While one could certainly assume that every cross a person could have might somehow be ordained by God I believe there are other teachings in the Judeo Christian tradition that would clearly indicate that this is not the case:
  1. There is no record of any existence of homosexual saints, nor any other with deviant sexual desires. It would appear God would need to lift this unwanted cross before a person could attain Christian perfection.
  2. God uniquely destroyed a homosexual town and ordered homosexual active persons to be killed, which is a clear indication that He does not desire people to have homosexual desires.
  3. While St. Paul was either tempted internally or externally he rejected his sins, on the contrary those with SSA defend this as if it were ordained by God and thus would not call this tendency abnormal.
  4. Interestingly, you use this verse regarding St. Paul to demonstrate that God would want persons to carry the cross of SSA but St. Paul instructed Christians to not associate with sexual immoral people. He also specifically mentioned homosexual persons as among the most corrupt individuals. It is clear St. Paul would not tolerate anyone in the early Church claiming that homosexual desires were normal nor would he desire anyone to carry this cross BUT RATHER HAVE THESE PERSONS ASK FOR HEALING FROM JESUS CHRIST.
 
This thread is AWFUL. It’s full of arrogance, and also full of falsehood – from both sides. Where is the love, people? :confused:

The theological facts are simple: whenever we say something is a sin, it must be the case that that thing hurts people. God does not arbitrarily make things sins. Sin corrupts us, body, mind, soul, and spirit. Traditional Catholic teaching entails that each particular sin harms people; to deny that is, so far as I can tell, heretical.

Does that mean “homosexuality” hurts people? We get into trouble here, because the word “homosexuality” is ambiguous. It could mean “the attraction to the same sex” or it could mean “sexual activity between people of the same sex”. Obviously, Catholics must say that same-sex sexual activity hurts people. It’s not as clear about the attraction, whether that hurts people.

Obviously, if the attraction often (in the real world) leads to the act, the attraction is a potentially dangerous thing. It’s not something to be happy about, just as one shouldn’t be happy that one likes to gossip, or that one enjoys watching movies about torture. Nevertheless, the attraction to the same sex can be dealt with honorably and virtuously. So I think it’s plausible to say that the attraction itself doesn’t hurt anyone, no more than the temptation to anger hurts anyone.

*How *do same-sex sexual acts hurt people? A number of ways, some of which people have mentioned. There are certain contexts – like monogamy – that restrict this harm, so that the major harm becomes an inordinate focus on pleasure, so that the harm is centrally spiritual. But other contexts make the harm physical.

I would guess that 15% or so (if not more) of same-sex attracted men engage in sex with more than four different people per month. This is what you might call the “Grindr” or “Craigslist” culture, and it is every bit as awful as people might imagine. There is no parallel population among heterosexual men, because – unless you’re remarkably attractive or athletic – there isn’t a huge population of random women willing to have sex with you. This doesn’t make heterosexual men more virtuous (they WISH they could be having sex), but it does make the homosexual “scene” MUCH more dangerous. Though many gay people stay out of that “scene”, and many people in that “scene” are people who are in denial about their attractions.

There is a way of expressing these things, though, without making gay people feel inhuman or evil. I wish people could learn that! 😦
👍👍👍

Finally! Someone with some sense!
 
BrassAnkles,

You are not preaching the truth. Please prayerfully consider my response. I am trying to correct you; I am not trying to defend myself. My sin is indefensible, but it is repented of.
The use of this Bible verse implies a clear desire on God’s part for carrying a cross which is considered disordered and tendency toward and intrinsic evil.
False. I ask God to take away the cross. I beg Him to do so, just as Paul begged to have his thorn removed. I have no desire to carry this particular cross.
  1. There is no record of any existence of homosexual saints, nor any other with deviant sexual desires. It would appear God would need to lift this unwanted cross before a person could attain Christian perfection.
If there had been evidence, it would have been removed, since homosexual temptation was so taboo. But you ought to consider St. Aelred, who clearly speaks with sympathy about homosexual temptation as an ordinary enough temptation in monastic life, and you also ought to consider Henri Nouwen and Gerard Manley Hopkins – both of whom were very holy men of God, and both of whom had SSA.
  1. God uniquely destroyed a homosexual town and ordered homosexual active persons to be killed, which is a clear indication that He does not desire people to have homosexual desires.
The sin here is sodomy, not homosexual attraction.
  1. While St. Paul was either tempted internally or externally he rejected his sins, on the contrary those with SSA defend this as if it were ordained by God and thus would not call this tendency abnormal.
Red herring. I don’t think SSA is ordained by God, and I don’t think it’s normative or good. I reject my sins, fully and completely. That hasn’t made the SSA go away. Your suggestion that the temptation remains because I am not holy enough simultaneously (a) may be true, and (b) is highly presumptuous.

One of Paul’s companions probably suggested that his thorn didn’t go away because he wasn’t holy enough. It’s a case of Job’s counselors presuming to know “the way God works”, as if God only works one way!
  1. Interestingly, you use this verse regarding St. Paul to demonstrate that God would want persons to carry the cross of SSA but St. Paul instructed Christians to not associate with sexual immoral people. He also specifically mentioned homosexual persons as among the most corrupt individuals.
This is false. He said that “men who had sex with men” (arsenokoitai) were extremely corrupt, and he said that homosexual desire was *sometimes *a consequence of pride. He did not say that you should not associate with people who are SSA, he did not say people with SSA should be silent about it, and he did not say people with SSA were “among the most corrupt individuals.”

You are preaching the “gospel” of Pelagianism. Stop.
 
More on Pelagianism:
Pelagius was basically a moralist, who believed that holy living was a matter of human choice, and that all people have the capacity to live morally perfect lives if only they made the effort … Pelagius was shocked when he heard a preacher in Rome quoting a passage from the Confessions of the great Augustine, Bishop of Hippo, in which Augustine prays, ‘You command chastity; grant what you command, and command what you will.’ Pelagius felt that chastity was not a matter of divine gift, but of human choice, and that Augustine’s teaching was irresponsible; in effect saying God hasn’t given what he commands, so I can’t help myself; it undermined human moral responsibility, turning us into passive agents, and peddled a form of cheap grace, by making forgiveness too easy. - See more at: peterborough-cathedral.org.uk/helpful-heresies-archive-will-display-individual-items/items/wednesday-at-one-helpful-heresies-pelagianism.html#sthash.iSx0M5oo.dpuf
 
This is false. He said that “men who had sex with men” (arsenokoitai) were extremely corrupt, and he said that homosexual desire was *sometimes *a consequence of pride. He did not say that you should not associate with people who are SSA, he did not say people with SSA should be silent about it, and he did not say people with SSA were “among the most corrupt individuals.”

You are preaching the “gospel” of Pelagianism. Stop.
St. Paul would not tolerate anyone claiming SSA was normal.

As far as your own case you state that you resist your SSA, which is good, but then are on this forum defending SSA almost as much as anyone in the gay lobby. The Catholic Church rejects this per the pastoral letter I provided.

I expect this could be a reason why your SSA persists, because of your sympathy/support for it. I urge you to reject this notion. Whether you fail or not carrying your cross is of little consequence because Jesus does not condemn us when we repent, **therefore there is no reason to make SSA less evil than it is. ** Jesus doesn’t want us to mitigate our sins AS THERE IS NO NEED TO BECAUSE HE PAYED THE PRICE FOR US.
 
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