do you know how we can tell whether or not the romantic relationship is virtuous or debauched? we can tell a tree by its fruit. What fruit does the relationship produce? Does it produce love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control? …
No. That is not how Catholic moral theology works, because it is based on what is intrinsically true. The extrinsic features of an intrinsically immoral lifestyle or behavior of any kind – not by any means limited to homosexual activity – do not modify, let alone sanctify, the instrinsic quality of the reprehensible activity. Otherwise, no matter how convinced the person is (or friends of such person) that the so-called “fruits” are the radical sign of the intrinsic “goodness” of the activity, such judgments are subjective, first of all, and second of all, the intrinsic quality of the relationship is still not affected. Why? Because Catholic theology is based on absolutes – not arbitrariness but absolutes. If something is intrinsically evil or disordered (whatever that “something” is), it is always so, not sometimes so. And that quality cannot be erased, modified, transformed by human “correction” or by declaration of exception.
(Murder is always wrong except in this case…homosexuality is always wrong except if two people demonstrate agape love for each other, which is apparent to their community…fornication is always wrong except if what results is a stable quasi-family unit for a couple of out-of-wedlock children that were produced…adultery is always wrong except if the husband has been brutalizing his wife, and the illicit relationship is virtue-producing for the adulterating couple and protective of the brutalized wife…stealing is always wrong except if evil, corrupt people are being robbed so that scripturally righteous results for the poor are being achieved…A married men using pornography is not “hurting” anyone; he is still obviously kind & loving to his wife, and they continue to enjoy a satisfying sexual relationship (the “external signs” – the “fruit”

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So there are several false premises involved:
*~The Ends Justifying the Means (even if somehow it could be “proved” that supposedly “objectively speaking” the ends are being achieved)
~Moral Absolutes are not outside myself, but are whatever I say they are
~Moral Absolutes are verified or constructed from merely experience
~What is extrinsic (subjectively or objectively) is the measure of good and evil, as opposed to what is intrinsic.
~(And as Michelle said), The Effect proves the Cause*.
This is all related to the structure of Catholic theology, which is not only built on all the elements of morality which other religions also use (Scripture; their own sacred traditions from their inherited body of work – their Deposit of Faith; their philosophical framework, if they have one – a framework which provides a cohesion, uniity, consistency for a moral “system” which can be applied to any question of morality).
I’m not, by the way, insisting that Roman Catholicism accept a worldview apart from its very own.
Yes you are. And I have just enumerated how you are. You don’t agree with any of its principles. And without principles – a systematic way of evaluating behavior – then all of morality is relative and changeable.
“Despite the evidence of virtue, there is no goodness at work here–I deny the work of the Spirit here.”
As several of us here have said, neither the Church nor the person of God Himself is incapable of recognizing goodness, but goodness in other manifestations does not transform an intrinsically unacceptable act into a holy one. Intrinsic, naturally, refers to what is essential, primary, fixed. It is what does not change, cannot change. A person may be a great friend in terms of generosity of self, but he may be helping himself to his friend’s possessions, or sleeping with his friend’s girlfriend or wife; despite that, on the surface, the two friends share a fabulous relationship, with all the fruits and gifts of the Spirit – except that it’s poisoned to the core, given that one friend is violating the friendship by invading the other friend in intrinsically evil ways. And as I said on a previous thread many months ago, homosexual activity also invades the boundaries of true and holy friendship in intrinsically evil ways which violates the order of creation. The rest of the friendship may be ennobling, but that part is not, and no amount of virtue can change that moral reality.