You’re creating a false dichotomy between always being miserable and ignoring the plight of starving people. The ideal response is to do as much as you can to help them, but to spend no more time dwelling on sadness than is necessary. I acknowledge that in some cases momentary sadness or anger can spur people to act, but it’s never healthy to feel those emotions all the time.
You know, this conversation is actually reminding me of one of the many things that I love about Catholicism- namely, emotions are not considered the be-all, end-all of spirituality. I mean, I don’t think they are in Lutheranism either, but for Evangelicals? I can’t tell you the number of times that I felt that there was something wrong with me because a description of Jesus’ suffering didn’t provoke the desired emotional response, and/or move me to tears. I now know that my emotions are unpredictable- sometimes I feel sad over silly things, and sometimes when I should feel the need to grieve, I feel nothing. But more importantly, I know that my initial emotional reactions don’t determine whether I am saved. I can be depressed and still have a form of joy, and I can be happy in the midst of suffering and still have a measure of empathy. Feeling things as we need to is part of being human.
I also find it interesting that you would accuse those who feel no sadness of being apathetic, and thus being poor Christians. It’s interesting because until now, I’ve more often heard people accuse depressed Christians of lacking joy, and implicitly claiming that their sickness is due to a lack of faith.