As a freind of the family, I understand why you would pray to family members for help. As a Christian, I have been grafted into the vine (which IS Jesus Christ - see John 15), just like Mary and almost any other saint you may wish to name. As a member of the family, I can take my request directly to the Father (John 16:23). I acknowledge Mary as Blessed among women, and a model of faith, integrity and virtue. But I also recognize her as being human. Finally, you still haven’t answered the question - How does NOT accepting the Marian dogmas affect my relationship with my Savior, Jesus Christ? (BTW - Jesus Christ is also Mary’s Savior.)
Hi, I’m currently in RCIA so my answers may not be complete as I am still learning, but here goes:
As defined by the Church, Mary is the Mother of God (God Bearer, Theotokos) and while she is clearly not the source of His divinity she is the source of his physical body (just as my mother is not the source of my soul but I still call her my mom, not the mom of my body)
As a Saint, Mary can be asked to pray for us just as we can ask our deceased forebears to pray for us and we for them.
The main doctrines of the church relating to Mary are as follows:
Ever Virgin
The Church holds that Mary was ever Virgin. This one is fairly simple and to the point. It is also the easiest to understand. If I were given custody of the wife of the King and she was pregnant and King were born, would I then want to sleep with His mother. Probably not.
Immaculate Conception
This one takes a bit of thinking, but after a moment of contemplation is just as easy to follow. Mary is called by the Angel “Full of Grace” can I be completely filled with water and not get wet? Therefore we can assume that Full of Grace implies in a State of Grace.
Assumption into Heaven
This one is a bit extra-biblical but follows in good order the precedents of the Bible. Enoch was assumed into Heaven for he walked with God. Elijah was the one who cleared the temples and proved God to be greater than the pretenders such as Ba’al. Both men were assumed into Heaven (though Elijah did get the uber-cool fiery coach ride)
If these two were worthy then certainly the woman who brought forth Christ to the World is also worthy of this.
So, if you do not follow these teachings then are you not believing in the defilement of the theotokos, the denial of the words of God through the Angel ?
It seems a hard line to take with the woman who risked her life to bring Christ to the world.