Married 40 years this year. dated for 6 years before we got married at age 21. (Yes, we believe in young dating and marriage!).
I thought we would have more sex. I had the idea that married people have sex almost every night.
Even when we were first married and still skinny and flexible, we didn’t have sex every night!
Now that we’re old and fat and still working full time, we definitely don’t have sex every night!
So that’s definitely different than I thought it would be. I guess I had watched too many episodes of “Love American Style.”
Yes, we are still very much in love–sometimes we wonder if we’re too “in love,” because we have a hard time making friends and spending time with other people. We both prefer being with each other–other people are sometimes kind of boring to us.
Both of us read lots, talk lots, and have a huge range of interests that most people raise their eyebrows when they hear about; e.g., I love studying anything to do with Germany and WWII, and I also love collecting vaseline glass, while my husband enjoys collecting and repairing typewriters, making jewelry, and collecting a eclectic selection of comic book titles. Both of us like cats, and we love driving around–just driving around in farm country.
So that’s different than we thought marriage would be–we thought we would constantly have friends over and be visiting friends. Hasn’t worked out that way. But when I think about how our parents were (and still are for my husband’s parents)–they were kind of the same way–wrapped up in each other and their own interests. In his last few weeks of life, my dad said that my mother was the smartest woman he ever knew, and he looked forward to being with her again in heaven. In fact, he had a vision of her in his hospital room a few months before he died.
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